I think it’s ok to recognize that a lot of Black people have a duality in their identity. Especially for highly educated negros (exhibit A, I dont call other Blacks ‘Negros’ in front of white folks) who come from the hood, inner city, etc. We have had that urban experience and that is very much apart of us. The talk, mannerisms, etc. BUT just like a light switch, we know how to turn it off when we are in mixed company.

I don’t think there is anything wrong with that. It’s part of what has shaped into black culture and largely some of it is all we have to hold on to as a people, because eventually what becomes popular vernacular, dress, etc. gets taken from us anyway and fused into the mainstream. (See what assimilation gets us?)Would someone who is Jamaican talk Patoi in mixed company? No, because you know thats not their culture, nor language. Ebonics is the Black American Patoi. Nothing to be ashamed of…..

Everyone likes someone who is friendly, smiling, respectful, thoughtful, polite, etc.  If we all would treat one another with respect and integrity, then we would not have a problem. ”It’s your attitude, not your aptitude that determines your altitude.” Zig Ziglar   Learn some manners whoever you are, and use them when in public and at home.  We are humans, and God created everyone in His image, so strive to be like Him.