7 Things That Should Signal The End of a Relationship

March 29th, 2012 - By Julia Austin
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You know when it happens. You get that feeling in your gut that says, “There’s no going back from this” but then, out of fear, you do go back. But there is no denying it after reading this list. You might want to rethink your relationship status if any of this happens:

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A “break”

Why do people go on “a break”? Because something really tough comes up in life and the couple decides they should separate until the storm blows over. Guess what? LIFE is full of storms. If your relationship gets instantly shaken by little surprises, chances are, it just won’t last. Not after a break. Not ever. Besides, who knows how people are truly acting and what they’re really up to when they go on break mode. This could possibly just be an excuse to have your cake and eat it too.

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  • TJE

    I don’t agree with #6. Sometimes people need a cooling-off period. Not sure I agree with #7 either. Someone has an addiction and so you drop him/her like a hot potato? Is this after a week-long relationship, or is it decades, because that makes a difference. As far as the others go, total agreement.

  • swmluvah

    I disagree with the walking out. I walk out to calm down, reflect on what’s going on, de-escalate (is that a word?) the fight, and/or to prevent myself from saying something I’d regret. I think taking a step back from the argument is GOOD!

  • CBandManOfWashington

    This article depicts the guy as the bad one but I guarantee it works both ways. In fact it has been the women in my past relationships that usually destroy the relationship, they just don’t see it that way and always blame the guy.    

  • Olympia01

    These sound like advice if you’ve gone out with someone twice, not if you’re in a relationship. I can’t agree with a few of these. Also, why specify “he” in the cheating one? Women line someone else up before the end of relationships too.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_MQK2Q7L7BHUM4Y4WQFLOR25JME Mullah Mike

    A lot of people say #6 is actually helpful, not a negative thing.

    When people get angry a cool-down period often results in clearer thinking and apologies and reconciliation is much more likely.

    The person writing this article clearly has their own mental issues where that complaint comes in. I would imagine there are too many women who feel guys should stay around until they break. I’d say there is a 95% chance the author of this piece is a chronic nagger.

  • http://twitter.com/Sailing_J Sailing J

    1 sign that I’ll never come back to your website is putting so many advertisements on your pages that a 1 page story now takes up 7. No thank you. 

  • Cjh3407

    The reasons noted here for judging if a relationship is over is weak.

  • Guest

    I agree with the “someone walks” thing but for different reasons why others are disagreeing with it.  My husband and I have been going through such hard things, and we’ve only been married for two years.  But we can never talk about these things because he immediately says:  ”I don’t want to talk about it,” and then leaves.  So I’m left with a ton of resentment, and since we don’t talk about it he doesn’t know how much he’s hurting me and keep on making the same mistakes.  It’s to the point that we’re separated, and he wants to get back together but it’s a little too late now, and even now he STILL doesn’t want to talk about things.  It’s not like they’re small things, our arguments are about physical abuse, him following me to keep arguments going (even in the bathroom), his constant drinking, him arguing in front of our daughter, and the fact that he actually LIKES seeing me upset.  I’m a fool for staying as long as I did.

    • RM

      Guest, hang in there. I am the same boat with many of the same issues (though my guy doesn’t drink, he does hit our kids regularly now). We’ve been married about 10 yrs now and it just keeps getting worse and worse. I feel like a fool too. I pray both of us can find courage to fix things or leave. Its hard when you love somebody

    • fedup

      Can absolutely identify! I am in a 7 year relationship with an alky, and it’s the alcohol that is the root of the other problems…the “I don’t want to talk about it”, the abuse, the following around the house, etc. It’s a losing battle. Take your child and get out if you can ASAP. There will never be a happy home where an alcoholic lives.

  • aiglard

    If #6 happens every time and you never get to solve the issues, then  yes, it’s a clear sign.

  • L-Boogie

    Stay single.

  • Ladybug94

    I agree with all except no. 6.  I don’t think you should try to talk about anything while youk are at your boiling point.  That’s when things that you don’t mean to say will get said.  It’s best to cool off first.

  • Mariah

    It’s funny that most of the people who’ve left a comment DON’T believe these are all signs its over.  With the exception of #6 these are CLEAR signs that you’re beating a dead horse.  Who wants to be bothered with feeling the need to check their lover’s email, texts, etc?  And NEWSFLASH! If he has a significant other, it’s over.  I think what the author may mean by #6 is if someone is leaving or avoiding even discussing the issues, they don’t WANT to discuss the issues and are most likely being passive aggressive so that the other person will end the relationship so they won’t be the “bad guy”

    • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_MQK2Q7L7BHUM4Y4WQFLOR25JME Mullah Mike

      Read #6 again. That is not what the author means. Do not read into anything further than the words written.

      I’d fully agree that never wanting to discuss serious issues would be a relationship ender, but clearly that not is what is alluded to here:

      “If one person just gets up and walks out of the house for a while, goes to a friend’s house or even out of town for an undefined period of time, that person does not care about working on the relationship.”If two people are having a heated argument it will almost never be resolved until things cool down. Getting a walk is often advised because then people can reflect on how they feel vs. verbally attack or defend themselves.

  • Dreama41

    I agree with all except for 6. I think if things are starting to escalate and you’re not listening to each other then walking away to blow of some steam is perfectly acceptable. After everyone is calm and some time has passed that would be a best time to address the issue.

  • Kiya819

    These are not all true. Whoever wrote these needs to do some more homework

  • Kiya819

    not true. sometimes taking a walk allows someone to calm down so that they can have a productive arguement

    • laura

      thank you.exactly