Is He Dating Other People? 7 Signs You’re One Of Many
It can’t be true. He seems to really like me. Do guys even do that anymore?? This is the typical reaction when a friend suggests that maybe that guy whose been dangling you along for months is juggling a couple other women. But, the guilty conscience associated with dating multiple people has been worn down over the years. We are serial casual daters. It is encouraged. And that means, monogamy has worn down too in the beginning stages of a “relationship.” Here’s how to know if you are one of many.
Answer is always “maybe”
Whenever you invite him to do something far in advance, his answer is always “maybe.” He doesn’t say, “Because I may have a work thing” or give an excuse. He just clearly doesn’t want to commit. If this only happens occasionally, you may not have to worry. But if it happens every time, he probably wants to see who else is available to go out that night, and choose based on favorites.
Things have been going great. You’ve been seeing each other for a while but, you somehow haven’t had sex. And you have tried. And you know he recognizes that you have tried. Some men feel guilty sleeping with multiple women. (Yup, they exist.)
Sex is sporadic
Men are humans too. Sex can be an intimate thing for them. Your guy might go in and out of feeling okay about sleeping with you. After a fabulous date when he feels really close to you and has forgotten about the other women, he may want to sleep with you. But, next time, if he oddly avoids sex, he might have just seen one of the other women the night before and feel confused.
He hasn’t shared much
He keeps the conversation going. You always have a great time but, if you think about it, he hasn’t given much personal information—nothing that would truly bond you. Men specifically hold back personal info from women they don’t want to lead on, since they know we’ll take that type of sharing as a sign they want to get serious with us.
He repeats himself
He tells you things he’s told you before. He asks you questions you’ve answered before. He either has a terrible memory, is a terrible listener, or he can’t keep all the info from all the different women straight.
Things are slow, but good
He doesn’t plan to see you often, but when he does he is all there. He seems interested in you. He is attentive. He plans a wonderful date. You’re thinking, “If he likes me so much, how come he doesn’t try to see me more?” The only answer to that can be, time. He doesn’t have more of it. And if he doesn’t talk about some crazy, hectic work or social schedule that eats up his time, it’s probably another woman (or a few).
If you threaten to end it…
He becomes desperate. He has a dozen excuses as to why he’s been moving slowly. He swears he likes you. If this guy was taking things slow just because he wasn’t that into you, he wouldn’t kick up a fuss about you ending it. But, if he is keeping you around while he decides who of many females is his best match, he won’t want you off the roster.
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