Yolanda:Is it wrong to ask your husband/boyfriend to change their wardrobe if you’re not crazy about it? #shallowquestion lol

D.Y: I’m going to say no. Asking and suggesting for him to make some changes is better than demanding and insisting.

I have to warn you, though, you’re opening a Pandora’s Box. Since you’re offering unsolicited constructive criticism, you can’t be mad at him if he starts offering it too. Today’s “Hey babe, would you mind if I bought you some new shirts” could be tomorrow’s “Hey babe. I think you need to start hitting the gym with me. I noticed that your tummy’s looking kind of sleepy lately.”

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