Well it’s
simple really

Women in the
western world start going out with men and having sex at round the age of ~16
and for the next 20+ years, in order to “enjoy” their life and gain “experiences”
as they say, have many relationships and change multiple sexual partners and when
by the time they reach ~36 they are very worn out and used up (as trains,
buses, tankers, aircraft carriers and submarines have passed over them) and men
don’t want them as they’re not very good looking any more as signs of wear and
age are obvious, they freak out and start looking for any sucker to get married
to just so that they don’t end up alone (like unsold merchandise on the store shelf)
and so they marry somebody that they don’t really love or like necessarily and
who is actually far worse looking than most of their exes and thus have a
miserably marriage and life, leading to divorce and destroyed children.

Of course it’s
also all about money; women don’t really care about looks, ethics, education,
etc in a man. All they care about is that he has a lot of money. That’s why you
see many good looking women with uglier guys. In their mind, there is no problem
marrying an ugly wealthy guy, even if they don’t like them, as at they could always
pretend and at the same time they could have another better looking lover to
fill in the gap.

Just like
common sluts who trade sex for earnings.

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i think i saw one picture with people who werent african american in it

…I have a decision to make..thought my guy was the one…but he recently has started to show himself to be just the opposite…he says all the right things…but his actions don’t. Very misleading, because he’s very comfortable with the thought of marriage…and my kids love him…but I now see that he loves me (supposedly) and just tolerates my children. We’ve been together for almost 3 years and he is turning out to be one of the most selfish people I’ve ever known. Example: my car is in the shop and costs $600 to repair and is not mobile right now, I have 3 kids and can only rely on pub trans. to get them to school and me to work. His car needed repairs…but was still mobile…he shows up to my house…with a 2012 Durango…my car in the shop…and he’s now at his home and I’m stuck with no way to work…oh yeah, the bus….I don’t feel like I am a priority at this point…or even an option…I feel like a glorified f— buddy now…this is not the first incedent…but it is the deciding factor…what are everyone elses thoughts on the matter?

Or, to sum up: Never make someone a priority in your life when you’re only an option in theirs.

I do have to defend the guys on this one – not everyone wants or needs marriage. It’s not a cure for anything (and certainly not cheating), sometimes marriage is a bad idea even when the tie itself is good.   However, to be fair to the article, if he says he doesn’t believe in marriage, it’s a pretty sure bet he just told you not to get your hopes up. 

What you should consider is the relationship itself and how solid it is. If it aint broke, don’t fix it. If you’re all about getting married because you think you’re supposed to, or it’s what we do, then you’ll be the one setting yourself up for a gut punch, if not destroying an otherwise solid relationship over some notion that if he doesn’t marry you, he’s the one in the wrong. 

Implicit in the comments thus far is that the man is to sole gatherer of assets in a marriage; in case of a divorce he loses half of “his” assets.  That seerms like a lopsided view of things.  Modern life generally requires BOTH spouses to toil away to maintain even a middle cless standard of living.  That being so, he isn’t losing “his”assets–he is losing the benefit of ‘her assets.”

It appears that as many women are reluctant to partner with men who appear to feel that their options are limitless.  Women should recognize that they have the same options.

stupid article… You mean common sense?

I’m on the fence.
I believe that marriage works best for people who plan on having a family, meaning conceiving kids together or even combining children from other relationships. In this situation being married protects the children (somewhat) in the event that it doesn’t work out. However, every situation is different. A guy nearing 40 years old with no children who is seriously dating a woman who’s either already had children or isn’t interested in having any should probably not get married because their is nothing to protect and the laws are not written in his favor.

Marriage has become nothing more than the business end of a relationship and any man who’d like to protect his assets should be leery that he’s taking a chance on everything he owns by getting married. Women may bellyache about this attitude but it’s a REAL LIFE quagmire and it’s worth every bit of attention that it gets.

So in a nutshell, I’m not poo-pooing marriage, I’m just saying that it’s not absolutely necessary or even desirable in every long-term relationship situation.