Let Sleeping Dogs Lie: 6 Reasons Not to Go Back to Your Ex

March 6, 2012 ‐ By madamenoire

By Angele D. Russell

We’ve all been there: break up with a guy, go out with girlfriends for a celebratory “he wasn’t worth your time” party, and then you wake up the next day wondering if you made the wrong decision. While you might still be holding enough feelings to believe he might change in the future, with some men, it’s best to just count your losses and take your experiences with him as a life lesson instead of running back. Here are six reasons why you should keep it movin’ and not give him a second chance.

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  • nameme

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  • Dennis Rainey

    I have just found the right one and the greatest spell caster on earth who has brought back my happiness and turned my world around by helping me get my ex partner and helped get back my life cause i was totally frustrated after 6years of hardship and pain, a friend of mine buzz me on my email saying i should cheer up cause solution has come. At first i was like what are you saying, then she mentioned the name ‘EBOEHI’ and i must thank my savior Great DR EBOEHI who has play a very vital part of my life making me a great person and the most happiest person today you are a great man who is bless by powers with traditional healing spell caster, after Great DR EBOEHI has help me get my ex back he also help me recover what i have lost in past years i must thank him (Great DR EBOEHI) the life he has restored back for me and my happiness. Now i am doing well in my work and also with my partner, Great DR EBOEHI is a very great spell caster you need to know just meet him and with your problem and it will be over.. Email him via: (supernatursuspelltemple@gmail.com)

  • Dennis Rainey

    I have to keep you updated because I’m simply AMAZED at the results of the spell you performed for me in getting my partner back to me in good health. Everything is going so well and EXACTLY how you said it would be. Even though it took a little time to fully progress, it was so worth it because things are just about at perfection! How you took my situation and completely turned it around to give me exactly what I wanted is beyond me, but something I will never question and just be completely grateful for me coming across you. God Bless you for helping so many people get what their heart desires. You truly gifted! . you can also contact him for help as well (arigbospelltemple@gmail.com)

  • Ruiz Mabel

    Thank you thank you DR OLORI for what you have just done, for helping me getting my husband who left me with two kids years ago to me I thank you so much the great olori of drolorispiritualtemple@gmail.com for Bringing back my family i am great full and will always be if you also Need his help his email (drolorispiritualtemple@gmail.com ) My name is elen jones I am from spain i want to share my happiness with the general public of what DR olori of india but now in africa has done for me in the last few weeks i was once in love this guy called McCarty we in love with each other until traveled out of my state for two year and we promise ourselves to be together forever, but before return from my journey he where now having another lover when i try to come back to he. He told me i should go away i love him so much that i could not let he go just like that then i told a friend about it and she advice me and recommend this man olori for me when i visit he at drolorispiritualtemple@gmail.com he only ask me to buy some items for sacrifices to help me get my ex back and he actually did it and it work well and today I am happy with incase any one is out there with same problem or any kind I advice he or she to contact this man today at drolorispiritualtemple@gmail.com and with what he did for me I believe he can also help you thank once again Dr olori

  • Ruiz Mabel

    My name is Mabel from UK I have to give this miraculous testimony, which is so unbelievable until now. I had a problem with my Ex husband 2years ago, which lead to our break up. when he broke up with me, I was not my self again, i felt so empty inside me, my love and financial situation became worst, until a close friend of mine Lucy told me about a spell caster who helped her in the same problem too his name is Dr olori. I email Dr olori the spell caster and i told him my problem and i did what he asked of me, to cut the long story short. Before i knew what was happening my husband gave me a call and told me that he was coming back to me in just 2days and was so happy to have him back to me. We have two kids together and we are happy with ourselves. Thanks to Dr olori for saving my relationship and for also saving others own too. continue your good work, If you are interested to contact him and testify this blessings like me, the great spell caster email address is (drolorispiritualtemple@gmail.com) you are the best among all the spell caster online I hope you see my testimonies and also pray for my family too


    I am Rosalin from Russia,I am here to say thanks and appreciate Dr IRABOR of iraborspelltemple@gmail.com,for all his help toward me,He really take his time to help me to cast a spell when i lost my lover to another woman…Thank you for the spell you cast that brings him back to me,we are now happily married with kids and we are more happier than never before,all thanks to you,Long leave Dr IRABOR and Long leave iraborspelltemple…A temple were all marital and relationship problems are solved,email iraborspelltemple@gmail.com

    • Dennis Rainey

      THE GREAT DR iyare WHO BROUGHT MY HUSBAND BACK TO ME IN JUST ONE DAY. My name is Nancy John from uk, I got married 1 year ago. My husband and I have been living a very happy and lovely life. So as time went on, I began to notice this strange attitude that he was possessing. He was now going out with other girls, to the extent that he was no longer picking up my calls, and he was not even sleeping in the house anymore. I became confused and didn’t know what to do anymore. So i became worried and stranded, that brought so many thoughts into my mind, because I have never experienced a thing like this in my life. So I decided to visit a spell caster, to see if he can help me out. So immediately I went to the internet, where I saw an amazing testimony of a spell caster who brought someone’s ex lover back, “DR iyare” so I contacted him immediately and I explained to him all my problems and he told me that it will be very easy for him to solve, compare to the ones that he has done before. And he also gave me some proof to be really sure of his work, and he assured me that my husband will come back to me as soon as he is through with the spell casting. And also he told me to put all my trust in him, and I really obeyed him. So it was 8:00 am on the next morning, when I was about going to work, when i received my husband call, and he told me that he was coming back home, and he was apologizing to me telling me that he is very sorry for the pain that he has cost me. And after some hours later, he really came back home, and that was how we continued our marriage with lot of love and happiness, and our love was now stronger than how it were before. DR iyare also told me that once my heart desire has been granted unto me that i should go and testify of his work right here on the internet. Right now I am the happiest woman on earth today as I am writing this testimony, and I want to really thank “DR iyare” for bringing back my husband, and for bringing joy and love to my family. So my greatest advice for you out there who your husband or your wife is acting strange, or you have any problem with your relationship or anything that has to do with spell casting,He is capable of solving any problems.All you need do is for you to contact this man anytime, and i assure you that he will be of help to you,I am 100% sure that he will solve it out.

      Email: dr.iyarespelltemple@gmail.com

  • vivian happy

    After 8 months relationship with my boyfriend, he changed suddenly and stopped contacting me regularly, he would come up with excuses of not seeing me all the time. He stopped answering my calls and my sms and he stopped seeing me regularly. I then started catching him with different girls friends several times but every time he would say that he love me and that he needed some time to think about our relationship. But after l contacted Dr. TRUST of spell cast temple he cast a love spell and after a day, my boyfriend started contacting me regularly and we moved in together after a few months and he was more open to me than before and he started spending more time with me than his friends. We eventually got married and we now have been married happily for 3 years with a son. Ever since Dr. TRUST of lovespellworldsolutiontemple@gmail.com helped me, my partner is very stable, faithful and closer to me than before. My Facebook address is paul kite

  • susan

    I ordered a spell on a friday night and on Monday the place I applied for a job called
    for me to come by their office. They gave me the job I applied for and made me an offer
    of more per hour than I have ever made in my life! I am so happy! The government jobs
    sometimes are a slow process. You somehow managed to speed up that process, and I
    start in just a few days! homeofsolveingproblems i will be forever grateful thank onces again ok you can call on him for help on his email address homeofsolveingproblems@gmail.com

  • holli

    I called it off after 8 yrs of same crap from my boyfriend. We got into another relationship with others for four months. We had no contact but I thought of him cried had our memories. When I left my other to spend some alone time out of blue I got a text. Guess who yes like a ment to be like he read my thoughts. He begged me to come fly out to him to talk. I did of course and he called his girlfriend and told her he was getting me back and it was over. She wasn’t to crazy she had idea she thought. She said he talked of me all the time. Now we’ve been married two yrs almost. I things happen for each of us. If ment to be it will come back. Good luck all!

  • http://www.facebook.com/phiona.james.7 Phiona James

    My name is Miss Crystal and I’m from the United States.I’m writing this testimony to tell anyone who needs help No matter if it’s help for love,money or anything else there’s only one place to go to get this help there’s nothing to big they can help you with whatever your problem is. I had contacted them to get some help the oracle was very understanding in my situation and my problem the oracle told me everything I had to do to get this help and what was required of me,the oracle was always there to answer any question I had and was always quick in responding to my questions or any problem I had. They will be there for you every step of the way and will be by your side for as long as you need them. The oracle will solve any of your problems and get you the out come you deserve and want. If you want your lover back or you need help with any other situation all you have to do is contact this email address and ask for help.They are caring and understanding and will help you every step of the way.I never believed in magic or that there was anyone who could help until I contacted this email icandoshrinetemple@gmail.com.if u need help this is the email to contact. Thank you so much icandoshrinetemple@gmail.com

  • miranda3

    Hello i am MISS MIRANDA SANTOS ,I am out here to spread this good news to the entire world on how i got my husband back.I was going crazy mad and confuse when my husband left me for another girl last month,But when i meet a friend that introduce me to DR ABULU the great messenger to the oracle that he serve,I narrated my problem to DR ABULU about how my ex love left me and also how i needed to get a job in a very big company.He only said to me that i have come to the right place were i will be getting my heart desire without any side effect.He told me what i need to do,After it was been done,In the next 2 days,My love called me on the phone and was saying sorry for living me before now and also in the next one week after my lovely husband called me to be pleading for forgiveness,I was called for interview in my desired company were i needed to work as the managing director..I am so happy and overwhelmed that i have to tell this to the entire world to contact DR ABULU at the following email address and get all your problem solve..No problem is too big for him to solve..Contact him direct on: abuluspiritualhome@yahoo.com
    and get your problems solve like me

    • mr moriz

      With the love binding spell Dr Kwale cast for me my ex came back to me. The spell made my ex to come back to me after 2days i am really happy i got my ex lover back after 4months of broken relationship he came back after Dr Kwale just cast the spell telling me my lover will come back to me in few days which is 2days, from the bottom of my heart i want to say a big thanks to Dr Kwale of Kwaletemple@gmail.com whose cell phone number is +2348056141089

      From: N Y City, USA

  • Sharon

    I am Mrs Sharon Williams from USA, i want to share a testimony of my life to every one. i was married to my husband Collins William, i love him so much we have been married for 5 years now with two kids. when he went for a vacation to France he meant a lady called Marys, he told me that he is no longer interested in the marriage any more. i was so confuse and seeking for help, i don’t know what to do until I met my friend miss Lina and told her about my problem. she told me not to worry about it that she had a similar problem before and introduce me to a man called Dr Love Magic who cast a spell on her ex and bring him back to her after 2days. Miss Lina ask me to contact Dr Love Magic. I contacted him to help me bring back my husband and he ask me not to worry about it that the gods of his fore-fathers will fight for me. He told me by two days he will re-unite me and my husband together. After two day my husband called and told me he is coming back to sought out things with me, I was surprise and very happy to see him coming back to me, I really appreciate and thank Dr Love Magic for bring my husband back to me, if you also having the same problem as i do before you can contact him through his Via email Address : drlovemagicspellcaster@dr.com, or Phone number : 2347066207498 thanks Sharon

  • alicia

    I am miss Alicia. I live in a scattered life with my ex. Because he always get me beaten everyday. Now i have 2 kids for him. But now he left us to new york in search of a lady. I never new he was on a love spell attack. It really touches me. I cried everyday for him. But one day my best friend i have came to visit me and i laid everything that happen between i and him to her. She took me to a man. He is a witch doctor. He consulted his powerful oracle and told me not to worry that after 3 days he will come begging me. It really works. After the 1 day i met him on our door step crying and begging me that he made a mistake. That i should forgive him. I really did. And we were back to our relationship again. Now i will use this medium to tell every one who find his or herself in this mess that he should contact him at (lawrees24hrspellhome@gmail.com) he will be glad to hear from you

  • http://www.facebook.com/cacilia.kirsten Cäcilia Kirsten

    My mouth is full of testimonies, my husband left the home for two years to south Africa for a tourist, where he meant this prostitute and he was bewitch by the girl my husband refuse to come back home again, i cry day and night looking for who to help me, i read a news paper about a powerful spell caster called Dr Abulu and i contacted the spell caster to help me get my lover back to me and he ask me not to worry about it that the gods we fight for me.. he told me by mid-night when all the spirit is at rest he will cast a spell to reunite my lover back to me. and he did in less than 3 days my husband came back to me and started crying that i should for forgive him, i,m so happy for what this spell caster did for me and my husband.. Dr Abulu of abuluspiritualhome@yahoo.com

  • sarafina

    i never believed that this divorce would be canceled just exactly the way Dr ikuku told me that was how it happened.When Grey called me that he his no longer interested that he needs a divorce i was so shocking and wondering what made him to ask for a divorce it was just like a joke he filed the divorce and i got a letter from the court,i was just so shocking and having deep pain that why would Grey do me such a thing and we where suppose to come to the court to sign the divorce on the 20th of may,and it was getting late because i never wanted this divorce to take place there was no time i was just thinking and hoping for a miracle to come my way and make Grey forget about getting a divorce,But all my heart desire was granted with the help of Dr ikuku,After i read some interesting reviews about Dr ikuku helping a woman who are husband needed a divorce and it was almost late like mine.So then i contacted Dr ikuku and told him my problem he just told me not to worry that he assures me that everything would be okay and that Grey would cancel the divorce and beg me to forgive him,Dr ikuku told me that all this will come to past within 24 hours,i was like if this really happens i will testify his name to the whole world and i hoped on Dr ikuku to hear a good news,This was more than a good news the first call i heard was from the lawyer saying Grey came to his office and said he does not need a divorce any longer that he loves me and need me around,i was so happy in hearing that so as i was dropping the call Grey call came in and he told me in tears that i should forgive him and listen to him,Then i told him to come over he came over and we are together he loves me and said he does not need any divorce all he need is me he told the lawyer to come and change his will and every asset he owns to my name,Am so happy today and grateful for this wonderful thing Dr ikuku has done for me.You can contact Dr ikuku for help and get instant solution on ikukutempleofsolution@gmail.com or cell number +2348034458597 My name is Sarafina from the united state of America


    HI AM JULIO DA Sanchez’s, Am from Madrid Spain . with this great tears of joy and happiness in my heart today I want to give an unlimited thanks to this man Called DR ABULU of abuluspiritualtemple@yahoo.com and also share my testimonies with this great man on how I was able to get my husband and my kids back to my arms once again after two years and after I thought all hope was lost in getting back my family .well and happy today I have my family back and I want to say to the whole world what would I have done if not for DR ABULU that I saw a testimony share on the internet by miss MICHELL FROM AUSTRALIA and I also contacted this man for help and he also did my own for me and to day am back with my husband |ALONSO DA SANCHEZ,S and my kids are happy with us . so I want to am very happy today and I want to say to everyone on this site that I will always remain thankful to this man DR ABULU of abuluspiritualtemple@yahoo.com for all this he has done for me, thanks to you once again DR for am grateful to you and will always be

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100005074387199 Rose John

    My name is ROSE JOHN , My husband left me for no reason on 24th of NOV 2012. He moved in with another woman, I felt like killing myself. I’ve tried different spell casters and went to different temples to pray but all to no avail. My life was very bitter and sorrowful. Then one day, a friend of mine told me about a DR. that is very good and does not even charge for his services, he said he gave him some lucky numbers that he played in a lottery and he won. I didn’t believe it because I’ve worked with so many of them and it didn’t work. He begged me further so I decided to try this great DR. calledDr Igbodo I contacted him and I gave him the necessary information. He didn’t ask for anything but he said after the spell works, I can pay anything in appreciation. I still didn’t believe. I used the spell he gave me and the next day which was on the 29th of Nov, 2012 I received a call and it was my darling husband JAMES. He apologized and came back to me. He even gave me 10,000USD as a means of compensating me. I’m now a very a happy woman. Thank you igbodospiritualtemple@gmail.com I will forever be grateful to you. You can reach him on his email: igbodospiritualtemple@gmail.com He can solve any problem. Try him today and thank me later’

  • http://www.facebook.com/candy.pierre.773 Candy Pierre

    I had been all over the internet trying to find someone who could help me out with my situation, I loved my my husband so much but he never loved me rather he goes out with other females then one day I found prophetharry@ymail.com in the internet where he had helped many women who had the same issue with me, when i contacted him he said he will help me and just as he said. my husband concetred fully on me and he stopped all his bad habit I was astounded because so many say they are the best but can’t back it. but prof really surprised me till today, his love spell not only brought my husband back but also the spell made my husband to change to a good man

  • http://www.vibratorwarehouse.com/ Vibrator

    Never get back with your ex. That is an unspoken rule of men.

  • http://www.vibratorwarehouse.com/ Vibrator

    Never get back with your ex. That is an unspoken rule of men.

    • http://twitter.com/angeledrussell Angele D. Russell

      I didn’t realize that!

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  • Md1272

    Thank you for this article. I am currently in this situation and although I’ve been with my ex for 19 yrs, we’re not compatible. Raising children alone is stressful but I will not settle for a loveless relationship. #doingme in 2012

    • http://twitter.com/angeledrussell Angele D. Russell

      You are so welcome! You and your children deserve all the love you can stand! Don’t settle!

  • guest

    Where was this article 6 months ago. Granted its stuff I’ve already heard but confirmation is always helpful

    • http://twitter.com/angeledrussell Angele D. Russell

      So glad you liked it!! We all need confirmation and to hear things again, even if we’ve heard them time and time again!!

  • wehavetodobetter

    I’ve been dealing with this guy for 2.5 years. All of a sudden he just stops calling me. Come to find out he’s with someone else. It hurt so bad because I thought that we were growing in our relationship. It’s been two months & I’m in a good place. Great things are happening in my life since our breakup & I’m a peace with it. Thank you for this article. Please give more. It’s therapeutic.

    • http://twitter.com/angeledrussell Angele D. Russell

      So glad you are in a good place and are healing! Know that you deserve more that just “dealing with” a guy. The right one would never treat you that way; just be patient enough to wait for the right one! 

  • Daysee

    I had this same problem about 5 months ago when I wanted my ex back so badly. After sometime of begging I finally said the hell with it and left him alone. Weeks went by and I didn’t talk to him he was soon calling me saying that he wanted to work it out. But I don’t want to. I am fine with us being es’s

    • Mcgrady

      Good for you. Never lower yourself to begging anyone. Your better than that. Don’t go back

      • Trisha

        I think it’s harder when you have childern involved..My husband walked out on us almost 3 weeks ago..everyone says avoid him..it’s kinda hard when we have two girls together.I’ve been emotaional wreck and trying to stay strong…And when I talk to him my anger comes out even when i tell myself not too

        • Bernadette Robinson

          Sorry to hear that Trish. Its not too bad in my situation. Me and my ex have one child and the other he been in his life since birth… he calls him dad. My children are young but i can feel the heartache for them. me, i wish i could have my family but when someone is verbally abusive, it ain’t cool. i see him 5x a were cause he picks up the children. we barely talk and we never talk when he’s not here.

      • Rajo1

        Yu been played too. Lmao. Ur trying to be strong huh.

    • Rajo1

      No ur not. Yu just liked the thrill if him chasing n yu feeling important. So yu played on that emotion. Typical female Sht.

  • Untamable0881

    I almost cried reading this. I am going through this right now. Thank you for helping me see the light…..

    • Mcgrady

      Be strong! It does hurt and will for a while but this feeling will pass trust! Keep away and the more u do the easier it will be and you will look back happy

      • Rajo1

        Yep someone didn’t want ya a$$ so ur beingg a counselor. It’s ok take ya loss n STFU.

    • Angele D. Russell

      You are most welcome! Trust me, I only know of these things because I’ve been there myself; it was the only reason I knew what to write! You are stronger than you realize and you will definitely get through the rain! #promise

      • DXTASY

        This is why I will never date a woman who came off of a previous relationship. Too much emotional baggage and you just don’t know how long she will carry it if ever actually letting it go. Some of these comments it seems like the attitude some of you are carrying is out of this big wide world we live in there isn’t another man who can measure up to what you just lost. Come on now give me a break. If you’re going to cry and experience pain let it be because someone you loved and cared for has died, to me that’s true hurt and the greatest of losses not because some relationship has worked out whatever the reason was. Life’s too short. Find a good man and regain your happiness.

  • Chocolate_Star

    Does anybody else think that dude in the pic on page 4 looks like Kris Humphries? lol

    • Untamable0881

      Lol he does

  • Idinise

    I needed this…newly single

    • Angele D. Russell

      So glad it helped! 

  • Jamma

    Eff an ex

  • IllyPhilly

    Number 1. He’s/she’s your ex for a reason. It always returns like a bad sequel.