by Selam Aster
I’m not a man but I often get a lot of insight from two close BFFs who happen to be men.
Growing up in a house full of women, I grew up processing and analyzing the trials and tribulations of relationships from one very narrow perspective. As I got older and started interrogating men about their thoughts and views on things, I came to understand a few things like…your number does matter, no man wants to wife up a slore, and you gotta stroke a man’s ego.
In any case, I thought I understood things but news like Wiz Khalifa proposing to Amber Rose got a girl like me confused. Not to mention, I’m still trying to wrap my brain around the fact that Reggie Bush took Kim K, a woman who built her fame off a sex tape, seriously. But back to this Khalifa thing – I assumed that other men would look down on him considering that Rose publicly came up as Kanye’s arm candy and exploited her body in all its nakedness to promote her fame and popularity.
On SingleBlackMale, Dr. J contends that Wiz “won” on account that he did get the woman of a more famous rapper. Interesting. Confusing.
Does this mean that men are becoming more open minded to a woman’s past? I mean, I’m all for it but I find that in my circles, I don’t find that level of open-mindedness and I wonder whether the actions of the Reggie Bushs of the world steer women in the wrong way, who will get punished later by more stern suitors. But hey, in any case, it shows that men are evolving to hold themselves to the same standards that they subject women to.
What have you observed? Do you find that friends with questionable pasts are unharmed by it when it comes to their dating potential?
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