Lesbian Couple Booted from Restaurant After Sharing a Kiss

February 29, 2012  |  

Kenyata White and Aeimee Diaz’s two-year anniversary dinner at the District American Kitchen and Wine Bar inside the Sheraton hotel in Phoenix didn’t go quite as expected this past Sunday. The two intending to celebrate their relationship with a simple night out but the night took a turn when they were asked to leave the establishment after a smooch on the lips.

“We were just doing anything any normal couple would do on their anniversary. We were hugging and talking and I gave her a kiss and we just continued talking,” Kenyata told AZFamily.com.

“It hadn’t even been a minute after we spoke and the manager came up to us and said we should get a room. That our behavior was inappropriate and we should leave the establishment.”

The manager wasn’t necessarily the one with the problem. He told the women they needed to leave because other patrons had complained about their PDA.

“Here are these men who are at this table, 6-8 of them, and they didn’t like what they are seeing,” Aeimee said. “I mean is it really inappropriate to hold someone’s hand or to show expressions of love?”

Obviously the couple doesn’t think so, and neither do their friends. Kenyata took to Facebook to rant, writing on her page: “Just got asked to leave the District in downtown phoenix for giving my lady a hug and kiss on our anniversary. We met there….I am very upset…” Soon after, Facebook users flooded the District Kitchen’s page with comments about the incident. Last night the restaurant attempted to do damage control by responding to the criticisms with a post that read:

“At District American Kitchen & Wine Bar, we embrace diversity and are proud supporters of the LGBT community. We are taking this incident very seriously. We have cultivated strong relationships with organizations dedicated to diversity. We have supported and we will continue to support many events that are specific to gay, lesbian and allied individuals. Additionally, we take pride in having a very diverse workplace – a workplace that offers benefits for domestic partners. Our restaurant is open for all to enjoy and we sincerely regret that this incident took place.”

Since the incident, Kenyata and Aimee have met with the Sheraton managers to discuss what happened. For Kenyata, she just hopes “this is now an opportunity to help awaken some people.”

I have to say I’m sort of surprised management buckled under pressure from these patrons in a major city like Phoenix, especially over a little peck. Are you shocked at all?

Brande Victorian is a blogger and culture writer in New York City. Follower her on Twitter at @be_vic.

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  • Latoya Davis
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  • Latoya Davis

    Haha, at the i dont want my children to see it comment. sorry buddy but your children live in a world where gay is the least scariest thing they will see. People have a hard time allowing others to live their own lives. If we all were given a brain to think for ourselves why is it so hard to understand someone making a choice that is different than yours? If what they say about jesus being held, and the community letting go of a killer and rapist in order to execute him is true, imagine what they would do to gays if they had the chance. to all of my gay brothers and sisters, this is the world we are living in. Educate yourself, Love yourself and Arm yourself, just incase anyone decides to hate you as much as they hated jesus.

  • Latoya Davis

    Haha, at the i dont want my children to see it comment. sorry buddy but your children live in a world where gay is the least scariest thing they will see. People have a hard time allowing others to live their own lives. If we all were given a brain to think for ourselves why is it so hard to understand someone making a choice that is different than yours? If what they say about jesus being held, and the community letting go of a killer and rapist in order to execute him is true, imagine what they would do to gays if they had the chance. to all of my gay brothers and sisters, this is the world we are living in. Educate yourself, Love yourself and Arm yourself, just incase anyone decides to hate you as much as they hated jesus.

  • Latoya Davis

    OH AND BTW, HOW IN THE HELL DID WE LEAVE GOLD, DIAMONDS, AND PYRAMIDS TO GET STUCK WITH THE WHITE MANS BOOK AND THEY HAVE THE GOLD, DIAMONDS AND PYRAMIDS???

  • Latoya Davis

    OH AND BTW, HOW IN THE HELL DID WE LEAVE GOLD, DIAMONDS, AND PYRAMIDS TO GET STUCK WITH THE WHITE MANS BOOK AND THEY HAVE THE GOLD, DIAMONDS AND PYRAMIDS???

  • Latoya Davis

    OH AND BTW, HOW IN THE HELL DID WE LEAVE GOLD, DIAMONDS, AND PYRAMIDS TO GET STUCK WITH THE WHITE MANS BOOK AND THEY HAVE THE GOLD, DIAMONDS AND PYRAMIDS???

  • Latoya Davis

    One thing that heterosexuals often fail to understand is, just like kids, Gay people are a reflection of your environment. If from birth we are made to believe we are already in sin, and if you are unlucky enough to realize that you are actually gay, then the torment, abandonment, “sin”, and abuse are added on to this persons stresssors. so to all of my logical thinkers, if u have a child that is demonized from as long as they could remember, told that they are wrong and will never see the light of day, parents (more than likely) disowned them, what do you have left? A misguided individual. A PRODUCT OF YOUR ENVIRONMENT. I know it may be too much for you guys to understand. As a professional woman who happens to be a lesbian take my word, “”everything in life isnt for you to understand””. And to the young lady that feels as if gays are pushing our lifestyle upon you, let me be the first to apologize. I undertand how you feel. if there was a way to make gays and straights happy i would be the first to do it. now i need you guys to be man/woman enough to take some responsibility for my gay brothers and sisters whom never got a chance to see thier light due to suicide, because they couldnt take the ridicule that comes with this life, lost to AIDS, that was made in a US laboratory and targeted umongst OUR people, and lost to insanity,, because you people can be over bearing. How can anyone choose a life where you may be killed if you live it????? For years, as a teenager, I prayed that i wont love women when i woke up. I prayed for change. Then when these feeling became too much, and they didnt change,  I prayed God would take my life. My mother kicked me out at 16. only because 14 was too young. Her boyfriend, a faithful Muslim, tried to take my life with his hands around my neck, i asked my mother to choose between us,, i had to leave. hes some where smoking crack right now. Nobody wants to be this way. trust me. And the only reason why I havent taken my own life is because i have faith that we will all overcome our differences one day and we all may actually see true bliss. Until then, I will Kiss my woman where and when i choose, with my memories in hand, i will march every year to prove my pride for who i am no matter what you, these people, or my family has to say. LOVE YOURSELF PEOPLE!!

  • J.B.

      I
    don’t give a damn. Watching that sort of thing brings my food up and
    frankly I don’t want to see that while I’m out in public. Not only that
    but if they want to sit around and pretend there’s nothing wrong with
    what their doing, that’s on them but I think I have the right to not to
    want my children to see it and think that it’s ok. We can all sit here
    all day and spend more time trying to jump on this bandwagon and be PC
    but the bottom line is that if God, the Universe or whatever wanted 2
    women together or 2 men together then they would have been able to
    procreate. They can’t which means that no matter what their proclivities
    are, people of the same sex were not MADE to be together.

    So no,  I do not want that kind of thing polluting my mind or the
    minds of my children and I’m not going to let the Gay Mafia try to bully
    me into seeing things their way so that they don’t have to face what
    they are doing. So I’m with them….. go get a room.

  • J.B.

    I don’t give a damn. Watching that sort o thing brings my food up and rankly I don’t want to see that while I’m out in public. Not only that but if they want to sit around and pretend there’s nothing wrong with what their doing, that’s on them but I think I have the right not to want my children to see it and think that it’s ok. We can all sit here all day and spend more time trying to jump on this bandwagon and be PC but the bottom line is that if God, the Universe or whatever wanted 2 women together or 2 men together then they would have been able to procreate. They can’t which means that no matter what their proclivities are, people of the same sex were not MADE to be together.

    So no,  I do not want that kind of thing polluting my mind or the minds of my children and I’m not going to let the Gay Mafia try to bully me into seeing things their way so that they don’t have to face what they are doing. So I’m with them….. go get a room.

  • Hottness

    Would transsexual exist without clothes and sex surgery and hormonal pills? NOPE

  • Hottness

    Id be happy aslong as my husband and I have intercourse using our reproductive organs as reproductive organs no oral sex or anal sex, toys, or artificial hormones.

  • Hottness

    How about all humans use their reproductive organs as reproductive organs no oral sex or anal sex or sex toys ect. Would homosexuality exist then?

  • Bella

    WTF is wrong with people on this site spouting their homophobic rants about how the bible says it’s wrong to be gay and/or how gay people don’t need to be so open with their love!? Firstly, the LGBT community have every right to display the same amount of PDA as heterosexual couples do and nothing you can say or do will stop that, so STFU on that front. Secondly, people here really need to stop with their hatred towards gay people. Do you not realise there are gay people within the black community who should be treated as equals? This is partly why black people aren’t taken seriously when it comes to an important issue such as this. Most of us have such self-righteous hatred towards agy people and you should be ashamed of yourself.

  • Akosua123

    Amen sister, amen!

  • i will sue their asses that is no way to treat people gay or straight

  • FromUR2UB

    “Whom or whatever they please”?  What does the “whatever” part include?  I’m concerned by what that infers and wonder where it will end.

    • Mrsadkiah

      It includes WHATEVER they want. I don’t think that’s hard to understand. I don’t care if some fool wants to marry a damn rock; it is not my business and it has entirely no effect on me whatsoever. As I said, if religious institutions don’t want to recognize unions they find morally corrupt, that is fine and no one should force them to. However the law, which has nothing to do with the Bible and religion, should not stop someone from LEGALLY marrying as they please based on “moral beliefs” because everyone has a different set of moral beliefs. 

      • FromUR2UB

        Yuck!  That opens the door for all kinds of things.  It’s only a matter of time before people try to marry their dogs.  But if that’s OK with you, then hopefully it’ll only occur near you.

        • Mrsadkiah

          And if that occurs near you it effects you how? Yes I will be utterly disturbed if I hear of someone wanting to marry their dog or whatever other ridiculous thing we can come up with, but that has nothing to do with me. I’m not gonna attempt to have the law limit what they can do because MY “moral beliefs” contradict THEIRS. 

          In our country, a pretty much our culture, 1st cousin marriages are taboo and are understood to be disgusting. However in certain ethnic groups in Africa they are actually favored first because it keeps the wealth with in the blood line, and also because, they believe, that people who look like you are actually more attractive to you, therefore making this union natural. 

          There are plenty of examples where we could turn up our noses and scoff at how “disgusting” and “unnatural” something is but at the end of the day, just because YOU may be uncomfortable with something doesn’t make it wrong. There are few things in this world that are concretely right and wrong, we now that incest is supposed to be a universal taboo however I have provided you with an example (you may research it if you please) of where the thoughts and “definitions” of incest are different than our own. 

          I’m not even here to tell you that homosexuality is natural and whatever else because IMO, that really makes no difference. Black and whites couldn’t get married; this was seen as unnatural and these people are CLEARLY born that way. The bottom line is if you don’t like it, don’t partake in it and pass your feelings and beliefs onto your children. 

          I feel that smoking (a choice) is gross and unnatural and I cant imagine why someone would want to slowly ruin their bodies and die looking 20 yrs older than they actually are. However it’s legal and should remain legal regardless of how “unnatural” I think it is. 

          • FromUR2UB

            And why would it disturb you now?  You’re the one who said “whatever” someone chooses to marry.  I just wondered if you had really thought that one through, and what it would entail.  You’re also the one who keeps injecting religion into the conversation. though I didn’t.  Yes, it would bother me if people began marrying their dogs.  How about because it’s just plain sick? 

            First of all, if the dog had a choice, it might not want to participate in that.  Secondly, there’s no such thing as living in a society without being affected by what goes on it.  But, the rule has been that as long as people do whatever they choose within the confines of their own homes, others will generally respect their privacy, provided that it doesn’t victimize anyone or intrude upon the rights of others,like playing music too loudly at all hours.   But anything done publicly, becomes other people’s business.  To use your smoking example, yes, it is legal to smoke and buy cigarettes and people certainly have the right to ruin their own health.  However, in the last 25 years, it has become illegal to smoke in public buildings and spaces.  These laws became necessary, because people who smoked were often so disrespectful with their habit, that they didn’t care if the smoke was bothersome to others.  So, they had to be forced by law, to exhibit courtesy to others.  Living in a society means everyone has to compromise something, which also means that no one gets to do whatever he wants, when he wants, the way he wants, because other people will either be directly or indirectly effected, the way a rock hitting water sends rings outward.  That’s why every society or culture, has it’s own sets of rules, standards and laws that people live by.  The “live and let live” philosophy you subscribe by may work at home or some controlled environment. But, if everyone did what was personally right for them outside their homes, without regard for how their actions impacted others, there would be complete chaos, not bliss.

            Now, if while you and your boyfriend kissed and hugged in public, people decided to gawk at you, you might feel that was an invasion of your privacy.  But it wouldn’t be, because you weren’t engaging in your actions privately.  By doing that in public, you would be subjecting yourself to the scrutiny of others.  And, if someone asked you to stop or go elsewhere because they found it offensive because of their religion, then why would you consider that less valid than your desire to display your affections in public?

            • Mrsadkiah

              I would be disturbed because I find it sick. However, no matter how sick I find it I’m not going to tell them that because I belief in a certain thing it’s wrong. You’re the one who brought up dogs so I don’t know how I didn’t “think this through”. In Washington state it’s legal to have sex with animals, again, this disturbs me but I really don’t care what other people do with their lives. 
              What I do does not becomes someone else’s business when I decide to go public. If my boyfriend and I decide to kiss and hug in public and someone decided that it violated their beliefs I am not obligated to stop because of that. Yes, to most people would see stopping our PDA as the nice and “socially” responsible thing to do, but that’s all based on social constructions, all of which I am not obligated to follow. I know that once I step outside I’m subjecting myself to the judgements of others, and I don’t care. They can feel free to voice their opinions, because that’s really all moral beliefs are, all they want to; just as I do. However I will not feel obligated to change my behavior.

              • Renee

                Girl I suggest you give up on whoever that person is. You can’t argue with stubborn ignorance. 

  • Ladybug94

    God’s laws are always first and always true.  We shouldn’t be conformed to things of this world.  You can’t make right what the Lord says is wrong.

  • FromUR2UB

    Romantic kissing in public is crass, regardless of who does it. 

    • Candacey Doris

      But it doesn’t get you kicked out of a restaurant! Kicking them out was going too far. They could have asked them to stop, but no, they listened to those ignorant men. They should have told those guys to shove it.

      • FromUR2UB

        I seriously doubt they would have respected the request to stop, without argument, even if they had been asked. 

        A store or restaurant can ask a patron to leave for entering without shoes or a shirt.  A movie theatre can ask a patron to leave for using a cell phone during a movie.  I suppose the difference is that in both cases, those policies are either posted or stated in advance.  Understanding these policies, most people don’t challenge them.

        The women said they had been hugging and holding hands, so they had already been expressing affection.  But then, they took it further and kissed, and then got a reaction from that.  They said that the manager said  they “should get a room. That our behavior was inappropriate and we should leave the establishment.”  and “because other patrons had complained about their PDA (public display of affection).”  By their own statements, their sexuality never came into it.  The two women made their sexuality the issue.  I suppose if they decided to sue, they would have to be able to prove through instance, that the restaurant treated them differently than other patrons who hug, hold hands and smooch on the lips in the restaurant.

        • Mrsadkiah

          And if they did sue they would be able to prove just that. My boyfriend and I hold hands, hug, and “smooch” all we want in public and we’ve never been asked to leave any establishments because of our PDA. There is no way that this has nothing to do with their sexuality. 

          • FromUR2UB

            They can’t sue a specific establishment based upon what happens at other places.  Unless you and your boyfriend have been to that particular location and hugged and kissed without incident, then they would have to prove that the restaurant allows it to occur there, without taking action.

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  • People make it seem as if they were tonguing each other down. It’s not that serious.  People will always be ignorant.  If I were them I would sue. People should be allowed to kiss and hold hands with whoever they want without being discriminated against. 

  • sagm21

    Based on your logic, the civil rights movement was unnatural since we had to fight in order to be accepted as equals.  Our society is based on equal application of law; morality is a personal matter.

    • Tarre

      @SagM21 No that’s based on your logic. The bible does not condemn interracial marriage and it never did. It only condemned marrying someone of another religion. Check the story of Moses. Moses’s siblings were punished by God for speaking against their brothers wife (Moses) BECAUSE she was of another race. I believe she black. 
      The homosexual struggle and the black community have very little in common. Blacks cannot choose to be black. Until homosexuals can prove they are born gay and totally without sexual choice- you cannot compare the 2. They are different struggles. I am so sick of gays piggy backing on the African American struggle. Come off it already. 

  • b4gurl

    Seeing heterosexuals kissing and holding hands is quite normal, natural and acceptable behavior. Last time I checked the Bible, it was Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve or Eve and Yvette. Fact is, if what you were doing was right and acceptable, you wouldn’t have to be fighting to be ACCEPTED, that would come naturally.  Two men/women in an intimate relationship will NEVER be normal, no matter how you try to shove it down our throats and NO law can change that. The law CANNOT and will NOT change peoples morals and values of what’s RIGHT or WRONG.

    • Mrsadkiah

      So by your logic, heterosexual interracial couples aren’t “natural” because it was once illegal and there was a fight to change the law. The fact that your morals and values don’t agree with it means just that: YOUR morals and values (and those who think like you) don’t agree with it. Everyone is different and one set of morals and values does not determine what’s right or wrong which is why the Bible is, and should never be, apart of our government. Everyone has a different set of morals and values, therefore a different view of what is right and wrong morally. If you feel it’s wrong, then YOU don’t deal with homosexuality, simple. 

      There are still churches in the South that will not marry interracial-couples, and they are well within their right to refuse to do so. However under the law, that which has nothing to do with one set of “moral values”  and the Bible, everyone should be able to marry whom or whatever they please. 

  • F3ral Anarchy

    the ONLY way i’d feel violated seeing 2 women kiss….is if they both looked like butches….either it was 2 ugly women kissing, the manager was hyper-religious,a gay man, or a old woman….cause uhhh yea….grown straight men wont complain seeing 2 sexy women kiss each other….IJS  lol

  • Jus Sayin’

    i’d sue , get the restaurant, then fire the manager

    • Bawse

      I’m tired of having gay people shove their lifestyle down our throats. 

      • oh really

        So is better for you when an heterosexual couple kisses in public…I mean would you consider them shoving their lifestyle in your face!

      • but if that was racial discrimination you wouldn’t be saying that. 

        • Tarre

          Race and sexual choices are 2 different things. Until gays can prove they are “born that way” then I don’t want to hear it. Gays need to stop comparing the two. 

          • there has been studies done. if you care to do your research. where is the proof that it’s a choice?

          • Latoya Davis

            how about you prove gay people Arent born that way. Seems more even since your challenging it.

          • Latoya Davis

            how about you prove gay people Arent born that way. Seems more even since your challenging it.

          • Latoya Davis

            how about you prove gay people Arent born that way. Seems more even since your challenging it.

      • funny I see the “straight” life style thrown in my face all the time and guess what  i don’t see a different between life styles. People are people we do what we want cause we can plan and simple. if you have a problem with the gays just move some where were there isn’t any gay people o wait we everywhere guess your screw ijs