Hold Up!: 7 Things You Should Stop Your Girlfriends From Doing

February 29th, 2012 - By Erica Renee

Since crossing into the highly anticipated, yet arguably overrated terrain of adulthood, some women have become frequent users of the words ‘I’m grown’, as if our adulthood requires some sort of proclamation. The use of these words is usually a result of receiving unsolicited advice whether from strangers or some of our closest friends. So it’s likely that if you have become accustomed to spurting out these words, you probably attempt to stay away from offering unwelcomed advice to other adults, even your girlfriends.

But although a grownup will do what a grownup wants to do because, well they can, there are some instances when we should stop, or at least try to stop our grown girlfriends from doing things we know they will probably regret. After all, that’s what friends are for; and even grown girls need extra guidance at times. From simple reminders to carefully planned interventions, these are seven things you should stop your girlfriends from doing before they regret them.

 

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Buying that new car when she really can’t afford it

You’ve witnessed her financial irresponsibility with small purchases yet remained mum. But when her irresponsibility has elevated to larger purchases, it may be best to intervene. If you know she has a Honda Civic budget but Mercedes Benz dreams, it’s okay to bring your girl back down to a responsible reality. A simple reminder of the debt she can accumulate may do the trick.

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  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_JAI4SRENU2A5WKRTELXXYJPDSI Kayla

    after a while there must come to the point where you realize that your friends are grown.

    • cake211

      They are grown, but that doesn’t mean that we can’t a positive influence on them. 

  • msgeegee

    Speaking from personal experience, its damn near impossible to stop your friend or relative from going back to an abusive man if she is hellbound on doing it. You can talk to them till you are blue in the face but it wont change a thing if THEY arent ready to make a change.

    • Sky

      Having been in an abusive relationship, I wish my friends and family would’ve have told me to get out. I would’ve left much sooner than I did. I stayed because he was manipulating me into staying and my people were acting as if nothing was really wrong with it when I would tell them about it. So I actually thought something was wrong with me..until I finally snapped out of it with God’s help.

      • tastythoughts

        …im glad u were able to pull out of it and are in a better place. 

      • cake211

        Thank you for posting this. I think people are too quiet too often because they think they  can’t do anything for someone who “obviously” doesn’t want the help- but I wholeheartedly believe that even if the words fall on “deaf ears”, those same words will be remembered exactly when it needs to be. Even if a friend “ignores” the advice or concern, those same words could be the split-second defender that can change the situation. Life and death are in the power of the tongue, we may not see change immediately, but we must say something in hopes that the change will happen when necessary.

  • Nina Dashotta

    #8: telling your friend to stop seeming so desperate chasing after a man who clearly stated he wasn’t interested in you

    My confused friend tells me there is this Haitian guy at her job that she likes. He came over to her area to help another employee and this desperada says to him “oh you came over here for me huh” the guy was vehemently “oh no no no” and age even said her ego was hurt a little. Tell me why later that day at check out time age walks by the same guy and says “think about me this weekend” WTF? And she is insistent on getting this guy to notice her. I’m not one to chase a man if he clearly stated he wasn’t interested. She is all over the place though, fienin for her ex husband of 12 yrs one day then her emotionally abusive Jamaican ex boyfriend another. But she is so Christian and its “god this, Jesus that” all the time with her. I’ve NEVER seen a Gemini like her….and I’m a Gemini. Things she does, says and puts up with I would NEVER do..

    • tastythoughts

      and what did the writer say about talking about your friends behind their back? i think you need to just tell your friend what it is and be done….u cant make her bed and then make her lay in it….a person wont change until they are ready…and if it gets to a point where as friends the situation is too much for you to bare…then let it go and move on from being her friend. 

      • Nina Dashotta

        Who said I didn’t tell her??? Look I’m one of those ppl who are blood raw in telling things..I hold no bars or punches however when your a 33year old woman making 16 year old mistakes I call you out. Talk behind her back??? Lmao y’all aren’t my friend so that doesn’t apply.

        • tastythoughts

          uhm…yea it does apply…your making comments about her that aren’t to her…on the internet to say the least….but my point is and remains…instead of being mad that she is 33 and makes 16 yr old mistakes…be rid of her as a friend that way you can both do what makes you happy separately…alot of times as friends we forget that people are individuals who will do act and say things we wont do….if u cant deal with her then by all means…on to the next friend…your not helping her by belittling her actions.