Feel Like He’s Just Not Into You? Reasons Men’s Feelings Develop Differently

February 25th, 2012 - By Julia Austin
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Most women, when they meet someone they like, decide to really give it a shot and see how it goes. They don’t date other people.  They are making a strong effort to let a guy get to know them. For them, the momentum is constantly building from day one. Men, however, stay in the “deciding” phase for a bit longer. They can be spending a lot of time with a woman, which makes her think he has decided he likes her, when really, he is still feeling her out. He may not be as emotionally or mentally present as she thinks he is—he may not be giving it his all yet. This is often the case when two people have been dating for about a month, maybe two, and suddenly the man just ends it. He just made his decision at the end there. He didn’t go from being crazy about her to changing his mind. He just hadn’t made up his mind yet.

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  • Mr. Mention

    I won’t say that there arent immature man. Because there are.
    But some of these reasons do make sense, and can be applied to both sides. Not just men.

    I have dated a woman for just ONE week. And she asked me for a key to my house.
    And then asked what would WE be doing in 2 years.
    This is from ONE week of dating.

    I just always find it amazing that “some” women, never see women as being able to do any wrong.
    Always the man.
    Ridiculous.

  • Edward

    You just dont get it. We dont want a relationship. We just want sex. Stop making something out of nothing and you wont get ur feelings hurt.

  • Ms T

    I understand what y’all are saying, but I have to disagree.  A lot of this makes sense.  I’ve read several scientifc studies (I know how sketchy that sounds but bear with me) that have shown that when a serious relationship ends, it takes longer for a man to regroup and move on than it does a woman.  It would make sense then that in general men would be more cautious before getting into a serious relationship.  I know this doesn’t apply to every man any more than it applies to every woman, but I’ve found that there’s definitely some truth to it.  Also, I’m a woman and when I was dating, if a man started to get too close too soon, I got suspicious. Dude, we met a month and a half ago and already you’re talking that “we we we” and setting up double-dates with your brother and his wife?  I’m sorry, but that’s the sign of someone who is a) way too needy, or b) full of **it.  And, if he’s texting me every 20 minutes, he just may be the stalker.  I do however agree that any man who can’t take a hug or two after some good lovin’ is simply a dispassionate idiot.

  • Jenn M Parks

    After reading this I was really about to ‘go-in’ BUT you lovely ladies have said it best…If men truely feel like this, they’re idiots and I’m not going to be fake just to ensure they don’t get ‘scared off’. Grow up! eye roll…

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