Why The Whitney Houston Gay Rumors Need to Die

February 23rd, 2012 - By Charing Ball

I swear folks really do like to show their behinds after someone has passed.

No, I’m not talking about Bobby Brown and his entourage/uninvited family members, who decided to ignore the immediate family’s request that attendees bring only two or three additional guests to Whitney Houston’s funeral and then made a scene/spectacle because he couldn’t get his way.  We’ll just chalk that up to the silliness and family drama that often occurs at funerals.  No, instead, I’m talking about LGBT Activist Peter Tatchell, who penned a piece for the UK Daily Mail entitled,  “Whitney’s REAL tragedy was giving up her greatest love of all – her female partner Robyn Crawford

Oh yeah, folks get real messy and ballsy after someone passes. They start fighting over money and estates and challenging each other over who loved the deceased more and showing up at the funeral to declare that they have been having a secret affair with the deceased for 20 years and have several children in another state – unbeknownst to the deceased’s faithful wife.

But Tatchell, who as far as I know didn’t attend the funeral, claims to have inside knowledge of Houston’s alleged lesbian affair with long time assistant/best friend Crawford. According to Tatchell, he met Whitney and Crawford at an HIV vigil in London in 1991, where Houston was speaking in support of people with HIV.  He says that, “When I met them, it was obvious they were madly in love. Their intimacy and affection was so sweet and romantic. They held hands in the back of the car like teenage sweethearts. Clearly more than just friends, they were a gorgeous couple and so happy together. To see their love was infectious and uplifting.”

He then goes on to say that homophobia undoubtedly added to the pressures on Whitney to stay quiet about their relationship and is a contributing factor to her early demise. According to him, “Whitney was happiest and at the peak of her career when she was with Robyn. Sadly, she suffered family and church pressure to end her greatest love of all. She was fearful of the effects that lesbian rumors might have on her family, reputation and career. Eventually she succumbed. The result? A surprise marriage to Bobby Brown.”

I have lots of problems with this article and it is not for the reasons that we all think. As many folks both within and outside of the Black community know, the rumors about Houston’s alleged relationship with Crawford go back a while and folks have long speculated that her marriage to Brown only happened in an attempt to maintain her squeaky clean image. So I don’t know the purpose of bringing this up again, for the umpteenth time because the rumors aren’t certainly news worthy.  Nevertheless, she is dead so let’s just again rehash old Isht knowing full way that she is not in a position to answer back.

With that said, at every junction both Crawford, who is openly gay, and Houston denied that they were having an affair. As it has been reported, both said that they are just good friends who have known each other since they were teenagers and when Crawford dropped out of college, she took a job working for her superstar friend. Houston has long dismissed the rumors as gossip and in one interview said, “My mother taught me that when you stand in the truth and someone tells a lie about you, don’t fight it. I’m not with any man. I’m not in love. People see Robyn with me, and they draw their own conclusions. Anyway, whose business is it if you’re gay or like dogs? What others do shouldn’t matter. Let people talk. It doesn’t bother me because I know I’m not gay. I don’t care.”

My close friend John made the statement that women get this lots more than guys and how he has never been accused of being gay because he was tight with one of his homies.  Normally I would call my friend John sexist for statements like that however I happen to think there might be some truth to that. Some folks have a hard time dealing with two women being good friends without something extra happening. The whole thing kind of reminds me of Oprah and her best friend Gayle, who for years had to denounce rumors that they were secret lovers, to the point that Oprah cried. And we all know that there is a fiery place in Hell for those who make Oprah cry.

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  • 4given

    I am sure that someone is going to comment on the fact that I did not specifically speak on the issue as to whether or not Whitney Houston was gay or straight or whether her mothers moral stance attributed to her depression.

    Whitney Houston was a beautiful, talented, accomplished woman that choose to end her life in a most gruesome way because she did not choose to live in this world anymore. She has proven that acceptance and relationship are what we all need to feel like we belong and are loved and that no amount of money, fame or power can ever replace that.

    In the end, we all must live with or die from the choices that we make for ourselves. If the truth, coming from a person that loves you, makes you fell less loved, then you do not know what love is.

    I believe that most of us, truly do not know what love is, and Hollywood is not the place to go to find the answer.

  • 4given

    Gay=Sin please don’t try to glamourize it.

    Yes, beautiful, accomplished, successful people throughout history have committed some very immoral acts. Just because you are talented doesn’t mean it isn’t wrong. Just because you engage in sexually immoral practices doesn’t mean that you can not be intelligent, talented, beautiful or funny.

    Homosexuality is and will always be a Sin no matter how much we try to embrace it.

    What makes us as a society think that embracing immorality will solve the problem. What makes us think that condemning those that see this behaviour as morally wrong will make our society better or make the transgressor feel less of the guilt, shame or disgrace of their actions.

    What if we were to celebrate all of the murders, thieves, abusers and lairs for their accomplishments in society while ignoring or justifying their Sin? Would that make for a better society?

    All Sin is a violation of an unwritten law of morality that the transgressor knows deep down within their conscience. They always know that they are doing something wrong so they always feel guilty. Making laws that violate the conscience will only make people feel more depressed unless they are just pure evil (e.g. Hitler – Great Leader).

    We all have evil tendencies as well as good but we must choose to act on our freewill, choice or behaviour in a way that doesn’t hurt the moral fiber of our conscience or laws of the land .

    Artists, musicians, dancers, government official, and lay people alike can all do deplorable things. Their race, gender or socioeconomic status should not be what we use to promote or denounce them. If any commit an offense against the moral fabric of our society we ought to speak against it and not celebrate it. Even if they have proven to be talented and gifted in other areas of their lives.

    People practice or engage in homosexual behaviours and sexual misconduct. Condemn this behaviour without dehumanizing the individual. Sin is an act against the law but a person can turn away from any act that they choose, and we can reach out to them with compassion and love regardless of their condition. We should not have to embrace any sinful lifestyle choice which brings harm to individuals and others in order to show love for the person as a whole.

    Homosexuality has never contributed anything positive to a society except to breakdown the moral standards of it. People exercising their talents and gifts and determination are what truly benefits society. Morality strengthens society and individuals.

    Gay people are still people, they are just involved in sexual sin as a life style choice. This behaviour should never be embraced by a society on a whole but the participants should be offered compassion, love and help to break free from this condition.

    For example, being selfish, self-centered, egotistical and deceitful are all characteristics that we can all identify with at some point during our youth but we certainly didn’t frown upon our parents when they tried to redirect or discipline us as a result. We know our parents were concerned about what these behaviours would have caused for us as we got older. As a society we praise the parents that are successful in curbing these behaviours within their children and we wag our fingers at the parents that make excuses for their children’s disrespectful and uncouth behaviour.

    However, when it comes to sexual immorality, we chastise anyone that speaks out about that. We bash them and call them names.

    We are a confused bunch of hypocrites when we create an environment that calls the oldest immorality a cause to defend and embrace, as if some injustice, of sorts, were being levied against the participants against their will simply because of their race or gender. Homosexuality is and will always be a Sin. The law of procreation condemns it, among other things. Black is a pigmentation of the skin and female is one of the two chromosomes that a human baby can be born with. Gay is who you choose to have sexual intimacy with; just like telling a lie is your choice over not speaking the truth; and stealing is your choice as oppose to not taking something that doesn’t belong to you without the permission of the person to whom it belongs.

    Never confuse the issues of human rights with life style choice.

    You can not choose your race or gender but you can choose to sin or not to sin.

    In closing, while I do not support or promote the practice of homosexuallity, I am outraged by individuals that feel they have the right to harm another human being because of the choice that they make for themselves. Help them don’t hurt them. Reach out to them but don’t embrace their behaviour. Treat them the way you would want to be treated if you were struggling with an addictive behaviour that you knew was wrong but wanted to break. Oh yes, we are. Don’t you want someone to be patient, loving and kind to you without being condemning as if you have no hope.

    Think about it. And choose to love.

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  • http://www.facebook.com/people/L-Pat-Williams/1122891334 L Pat Williams

    First of all, Why is it that the moment somebody dies the Gay Community is always talking about the person was “under cover” gay. The Gay Community believes EVERYBODY is gay. C’mon y’all! The way WHITNEY was about to break Stacey Francis face over RAY J — A MAN is a far cry from a woman who is trapped in “gay closet.” Especially, in this day and age, people are CELEBRATED for being Homosexual, so Whitney had nothing to lose to “come out” but, everytime you turned around, Whitney was LIVING and LOVING it up with Brandy’s playboy brother RAY J. Homosexual women in 2012 do NOT have to “pretend” to dig dudes. Whitney was stone cold crazy about Ray J. So, c’mon y’all. Just stop it. You make yourselves look silly! I don’t know if Whitney had or had not “experimented” in her past, I do not know that. I mean, HOLLYWOOD loves turning people… on and out to all sorts of off the wall sexual experiences. But, no doubt Whitney LOVED Bobby Brown and anybody could see that. This Thatchell dude should watch BEING BOBBY BROWN on YT. You can’t fake that! Whitney was in love with Bobby. There was one episode where Whitney and Bobby were having a “private moment” by an elevator and Whitney was like “I really love you” Bobby says: “I love you too” [they are cooing and this close to making out] Whitney says: “I know I can tell by the look in your shiny eyes.” GAY WOMEN ain’t doing that with a Man. That was real. A woman can’t fake that moment with a Man. If you think so, then go ask any LESBIAN to stare into a Man’s eyes and be about that man like that. And, at the last stage of her life she was mad in love with Ray J. So, much so Whitney’s conversation at the party to STACY FRANCIS was “You know RAY J is my BABY, right?” This is STACY FRANCIS words two days after Whitney passed away!

    But, I have to agree with the AUTHOR of this article on a KEY issue raised, I am a female and was accused of being “lesbian” because I did not have a lot of boyfriends (I started dating in my late teens/early twenties) and just was not promiscous, PLUS, I have a close friendship “sisterhood” with my two best friends!  But, mind you I was “accused” by a guy who I did not “put out” to.

    So, yeah… Go figure!  

    Anyway, I do think it is very true as the author says that almost EVERY WOMAN gets “accused” of that at some point for three reasons:

    1. Sad to say, but you do have a lot of lesbian chicks that “mask” their “girlfriend” relationships as a means to deal with each other (on the low).  I mean look at these garbage shows on MTV and “Girls Gone Wild” commercials where these “girls” will deal with each other “Katy-Perry style” kissing and doing all manner of debauched behavior with each other.  So, because of this nonsense, a lot of people do not TRUST that two women can truly be sisters and sincere friends without any foolishness.

    2. There is the “mindset” that women do not get along, for the most part this stereotype holds weight. It is very difficult for women to find “common ground” because by instinct most women we feel as though “I’m the baddest chick up in this piece!” :) So, it leads to a lot competition and fighting. Therefore,  unless women are cat-fighting, gossipy, back-stabbing and ripping each others weave out or trying to steal the other woman’s man, people cannot fathom that sometimes women truly can find a “kindred-spirit” and a true sister-friend in another woman. So, when that happens, people think:  ”Uh, oh.. something must be up with that.”

    Which is pretty sad.  That is an indictment on our sick society.

    3. There is also a “mindset” in this very lascivious and licentious society that takes pleasure in wickedness of “seeing” two women deal with each other in an unclean manner.  So, much so, this ”Roman-Greco-Babylonian” culture actually comes to “expect” that a woman should or could
    or would “dabble” into lesbianism. Why? Because that is what this culture promotes and wants to see. So, it again, cannot fathom that some of us girls are as they say: “Strictly —- ly” and have not even the most remote desire to go deal with some soft-body broad.

    But, as far as Whitney, who knows what she may have had (or done) in her past. God does not hold our past against us, when we truly give our past to Him and change direction.  I personally, do not believe in Homosexuality.  I personally, believe that with GOD ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE. I don’t believe that people are “born gay” and thus, “have to stay that way.” 

    I reject that lie and theory in The Name of The Lord Jesus Christ. I believe that Homosexuals can change and that God can give them a “new heart” and a “new desire” and a “new affection.”

    I believe that, because I believe HIS WORD and He says that (I Corinthians 6:9-11).

    So, if Whitney WAS participating in lesbian stuff in her past, before The Lord called her home, she was dealing with the Oh So Smooth Hottie Playboy — MR. RAY J!!! :)

    And, she wasn’t faking how she felt about that boy! Uh uh… I saw her goddaughter on TV talking about how Whitney was head over heels for Ray J and obviously so!  Shucks!  Two days before she went Home to be with The Lord she was “this” close to ripping X-FACTOR’s Stacy Francis face off about her “Baby Ray J”

    I am hard pressed to believe that a lesbian woman is ready to boss up with another chick over her man!

    Can’t fake that move player! :)   Whitney was about to put the SMACK DOWN on Stacy because she was deep into Ray J. 

  • Leticiaconcepcion

    Sorry to burst your bubble but Whitney was in fact in a relationship with Robyn they denied it because of her image family society and record label pressure. It was no secret to us on the inside of the industry. They even moved in and lived together for 4 years. I too feel that that led to her demise she could never be loved and accepted for who she really was. She had to put this front all the time and carried too much on her shoulders and she buckleddenser all that pressure.

    • Ilikehoney6

      she did give off a gay vibe, but i still need proof since she said in many interviews that she was hetero.

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  • Tychalla

    Gay people are not killing themselves because they are being persecuted by straight folk,they are killing themselves because this is and always has been a mental disorder.Most of us don’t care one way or the other,we just don’t accept your life style.I don’t drink or smoke ,nor do I allow it in my house,and I don’t care to discuss the matter,I am not a ciggerette or an alcohol a phobic,just don’t care for them.

  • Tychalla

    Bobby made arrangements to bring his three children and his brother,there was no entourage,no matter how much you liars try to make there be.And he sat where he was told ,but they kept asking him to move.He finally got tired of all the drama and left.Truth is ,he would have really gotten demonized if he had done like me and not showed up.Tina Turner’s life got better when she left Ike,and so do Ms Scily in The Color Purple when she left Mister.Whitney and Halle Berry’s lives got worst when they left their respective evil,anti Christ husbands.Note to all ,if your life gets worst after you leave your allegedly no good spouse,it was you that had the issues.No one found Bobby in a hotel dead,and he has not been kicked off stage for erratic behavior.

  • JACKIE

    i heard that along time ago…did not pay it any mind then and still don’t…and if so what?

  • Tytyskids

    Let me tell you i loved that Witney…..i.really loved that side of her sweetness her spiritual side and the best side wen she would let mofo’ s have it wen then would comment on rumors…no facts just on wat people said! I loved it wen she would give it to em, i wish she waz here to give it to em again…folks just talking loud aint sayin nothing, now this person who wrote these comments wasnt neccessary it dont matter so wat if she ead gay a man or had three eyes soooooo way!!! She brought good , beautiful music that thang could sanggggg!!! Any way we must understand gossip sales….guess wat the magazine that disrespected the privacey of witneys family by leaking those pictures of her in the casket…peopl were up set and had all kind of comments about how they shouldnt have done it…well the dang magazine has sold thousands of copies….um mymymymymy ….im listening to I LOOK TO YOU BY WITNEY….WONT YOU JOIN ME, PEACE YALL

  • Tytyskids

    To da person whom wrote this article above …it seem like to me u stiring up a bunch of crap don’ t nobody want hear about no lesbian affairs and bobby brown making a seen becuz he didn’ t make a seen he waz respectful Witney didn’ t marry bobby 4 no squeaky clean image …..GO LAY UR MISERABLE A** DOWN SUM WHERE ….LEAVE WITNEY AND BOBBY ALONE!!!!!

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