Lazy In Love? Ways To Re-Ignite The Fire In Your Relationship
“Relationships take work.” We tend to associate these words with embittered people whose relationships have become more work than any fun. But, that isn’t always the case! The work required to keep a relationship alive and exciting can be pretty simple.
Here are few things you can try to add some spice….
Boast about them
Your boyfriend might be totally chummy with your parents and friends by now, but that doesn’t mean you no longer have to talk him up. When first introducing him to your friends and family, you probably would tell them all about his recent accomplishments. Continue to show your man you are proud of him. Yes, he can boast for himself. But do it for him.
Explore your city
When you meet someone new, you’re Googling fun things to do every weekend. You want indie-film type adventures and hidden romantic spots. But, over time, most couples stop exploring their city and just stick to what they know. And that’s a shame, because a big part of them falling in love was seeing how the other person reacted/thrived in unique settings.
Yes, I’m talking about the bedroom. If you’ve been together for a while, you undoubtedly know how to get yourself that Big O fast. But, if you resort nightly to the same position that gets the job done, you’ll begin to feel like a sex object to your partner, and visa versa. Slow down. Continue to be adventurous in the bedroom.
You know you like each other so, at this point, why not just cuddle up, order your favorite takeout and turn the TV on, right? Wrong! Don’t stop updating each other on things in your life—co-workers you’ve been bumping heads with, the progression on a work project you’re really excited about and so on. These topics keep you seemingly interesting and dynamic to your partner.
Random gift giving
You know your partner so well, that it’s pretty easy to get them exactly what they need. And that’s what you end up doing. And while it’s thoughtful, it’s not exciting! Instead of getting them an iPod holster to jog with, get them tickets to a show, some ridiculous book, or ingredients to make a whacky meal.
Hang out with friends
Too many couples cocoon. Once things get good, they stop hanging out with friends. They stop planning dinner parties, attending dinner parties, or even going to a bar where all their friends are. But, familiarity can breed contempt. Having others around is healthy and makes you cherish your alone time even more.
Send pointless texts
“What time are you coming home?” “What should I order from the takeout place?” “Should I TiVo your show?” Don’t let these be the only types of texts you end up sending. Send the pointless ones too. The texts of funny things that just happened to you on the subway. The pics of something gorgeous you think they’ll like. Or just “I’m so lucky to have you in my life.”