Clutch Answers the Question We’ve All Been Asking: Why Tiny?

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February 20, 2012 ‐ By

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OK, so maybe we all haven’t been asking this, but as a lover of T.I. I can admit I have been a hater of Tiny. And as my Twitter timeline often shows on Monday nights, and obviously author Shahida Muhammad’s as well, lots of women find themselves asking, out of all the women T.I. could have, why did he choose Tiny?

As Shahida points out in her case for Tiny, the question over T.I.’s choice is totally rooted in superficiality. We make comments about Tiny’s face, shape, hair, clothing, and everything else on the outside to suggest Tip can do better without any thought for the fact that she’s a good mother, a talented singer/business woman, a devoted wife—you know all those things we should be looking for in a partner. You could argue that “ghetto” is an internal trait, but considering T.I. is straight from the hood, that argument is only going to get you so far.

But we’re also being hypocrites when we criticize her. Shahida writes:

“We often call out artists for constantly displaying such unrealistic and unhealthy images of women in their videos, but when we see an artist settle down with someone like Tiny she gets ridiculed.”

You can’t argue with that point at all, and it says a lot about how men bring out the worst in women when it comes to jealousy, cattiness, and wanting something they’ve got.

As T.I.’s Family Hustle has gotten through more and more episodes, I find myself thinking these two are the cutest, country couple I’ve ever seen. The way they interact, their Atlanta accents, even both of their short statures make them look like the perfect match on the outside—and as a few Clutch readers pointed out, if you happen to think T.I. is nothing more than your average, ordinary dude in the looks department, then the question becomes why not Tiny?

Whatever the couple has that attracts them to one another seems to be working. They’ve been together for 10 years with minimal rumors of infidelity, and T.I. doesn’t skip out on a chance to acknowledge his wife for holding him down throughout years of legal battles. At the end of the day, those are real examples of love and honor that will get you to the alter if you’re looking for something real; not looks. T.I. appears to have made the right choice.

Have you ever questioned why T.I. chose Tiny? (Be honest) What do you think about the couple? Perfect match or he could do better?

Brande Victorian is a blogger and culture writer in New York City. Follower her on Twitter at @be_vic.

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  • babegirl31

    What’s good for Tiny should be good for anybody else. Noone has to walk in her shoes sleep with her or pay her bills….. TI’s opinion is all that really matter and he seems to be happy as hell with HIS WIFE! It is a proven fact rich or poor people still going to talk about you.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Vatrice-George/1081271964 Vatrice George

    People questioned why Tamika, when Usher married her. Society has conditioned us to believe that famous men must be with a certain type of woman. Also must we forget yellow skin and hair go far, Im sure Tiny just like Tina Knowles is considered pretty in their southern communities. They prolly hear “red bone” comments all day.  In a Sister to Sister article Tiny said her and Tupac use to date, so obviously more than one nice looking brother finds her attractive.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=513670008 NationPam Williams

    Honestly I think she’s adorable and I love them together.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_67SJUVP7QHZ57KE5YTETAYMC3E Pamela

    Who’s asking why Tiny? this is the first I’ve heard, I like this couple a lot, Tiny seems like a cool down to earth person that will always have your back, she’s real, I did read a blog a few months back about her bringing her pig face to Toya’s wedding, -some dogged Toya out to, that upset me to read that, these women are beautiful smart, intellegent, trend setters, go getters, they are strong sisters doing it for themselves, you can’t stop people from hating, the only thing you can do is keep your head up and keep on strutting because no matter what you do in life, some one will always dislike you for what ever reason, and looks have nothing to do with it, there are a lot of beautiful  women out there, some are vain and inmature, which goes to show that beauty is only skin deep in some cases, Tiny has stood the test of time as she stood by her man through the grind, not to mention that he is fine, hang in there girl you’re one of a kind, I hope to see a show featuring both couples together, I love them.

  • Karizma wit a K

    No I get upset when people clown Tiny she is pretty. TI is cool but I like em tall and chocolate, LOL. I love them as a couple and wish them all the blessings and happiness in the world. Hope to see them and their beautiful family a second season.

  • KANYI

    CAN I JUST POST A GENERAL COMMENT HERE. SOMEBODY PLEASE MAKE THAT VIDEO IN THE SIDEBAR STOP ALREADY. DUE TO HOW THESE ARTICLES ARE POSTED EVERYTIME I WANT TO FLIP TO THE NEXT PIC. OR PAGE THAT ANNOYING VIDEO STARTS ALL OVER AGAIN. SERIOUSLY, PLEASE FIND A WAY TO LOOP IT ONLY ON THE FIRST PAGE OR MAYBE ONLY IN THE ARTICLE THE VIDEO IS REFERRING TO.

    ANNOYED

  • Sassybeemergirl

    Has anyone ever thought, why did Tiny choose TI?

    • http://twitter.com/MrFukUrFeelins Delvin

      Exactly. Tiny and T.I. got together and he didnt have sh!t and she was writing hit songs like No Scrubs. And plus more than anything Tiny has showed her self to be a real ride or die chick. T.I. should be thanking GOD everyday

  • http://twitter.com/GarlicAndLemons Halona Y. Black

    Maybe the question should be, “Can Tiny do better???”  TI has been in and out of jail for some stupid stuff while Tiny had to handle the children and the business.  And y’all worried about Tiny’s looks???   Tiny deserves an award for loving a man through his mistakes and ensuring that she continues to nurture him and her children.  Madame Noire is getting down right triflin’ with these mean spirited articles…

  • Bibi Krasin

    Tiny has sooooo much class.  I think that TI is really lucky to have her.  She is smart and s*xy as hell.  he has a lovely and vibrant family life.  Honestly, I give the two of them props.  

  • Tammi

    I respect them both. In the field they have careers in, most people are superficial,they seem very in love with each other, respect each other, and keep it real.We can say whatever but, in the end,we are not married to either of them.  To each, his own. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. 

  • VAM

    Who are we to ask why? Problem now everyone in everyone else house public figure or not but can’t keep their own houses up!

  • LeeLee

    I have always liked Tiny. T.I. is good for her and shes good for him.  She didn’t skip town on him and they made/make it work. Real Love!    

  • CAJJAT

    He made the RIGHT choice!!  They were made for each other.  They understand each other and are good together.  They are BLESSED to have each other.  They will be together forever!!  BLACK LOVE!!

    • it_is_what_it_is

      Well…1/2 black love…her mama IS white an all!

  • Empress J

    write some real articles you sapless celebrity perusing sloth’s…interestingly the article about a woman’s quest to buy black only products to boost the black economy got absolutely no views (1 view now that I have), and admitting your a hater is just incredulous! it pains me to know there are women like yourself using your finely honed writing skills to manipulate the views and ideologies of others, how audacious of you to go through a relationship which by the looks of it is clearly successful with a fine tooth comb using some ratchet, lonely black woman rhetoric to justify this pitiful topic

  • guest

    I don’t get it……WHY r some of you implying T.I. is fine or a catch physically? 

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Rachel-Hudson/100002960157467 Rachel Hudson

    I use to be the same way but after watching them together on the show I really think they are a good match.. I don’t think Tiny is an ugly girl I just think that like most she has played around with plastic surgery etc. and it shows.. She was in show biz way before him so I think they both have something to offer each other and that’s a blessing so I wish them well..

  • ValdaDeDieu

    Tiny is an attractive woman. Now if you’re saying she should look like a “video vixen”, well–that’s just idiotic.  Many of the “video vixen” women are merely tools for men. Models, strippers, dancers–those with glamorous looks that convey a fantasy on-screen are (sadly) vapid, empty people…and a lot of times what they project, is nothing like WHO they are. 

    Last time I checked, being photogenic is not a requirement for a happy marriage. Move it along, haters. Tiny looks good where and when and TO WHOM it counts.

  • Tyrone Brown

    My Salute to T.I.P for demonstrating another side of himself that most young men should aspire to. I too was being superficial about his wife’s looks but really wouldn’t ANY man want a woman to hold him down like she does her man? Applause to the Harris’

  • http://www.facebook.com/aliagmama Alia Green

    One of the reasons TI probably chose Tiny is because financially she never needed him. She had money way before he even had a name out here. Tiny seems down to earth and she really doesn’t put their business out there other than TI being in jail which was common knowledge. She had his back. I think they are perfect together.

  • Techlilinu

    I see Tiny and TI, Beyonce and Jay Z, Carmelo and LaLa I see love.  When I see Jada and Will more of a performance than love.  No, TI and Tiny are perfect for each other.  You can see they generally like and love each other.  Hurray for Tiny and TI, hurray for love. 

  • Techlilinu

    I see Tiny and TI, Beyonce and Jay Z, Carmelo and LaLa I see love.  When I see Jada and Will more of a performance than love.  No, TI and Tiny are perfect for each other.  You can see they generally like and love each other.  Hurray for Tiny and TI, hurray for love. 

  • Techlilinu

    I never questioned why TI chose Tiny.  She is adorable, she is real and she is herself.  I doubt that TI would settle for less than the best. There is something about Tiny that we may not know that he feels makes her the best for him and vice verse.  I love seeing true love and to me they truly love and respect each other.  That is all that matters.  I am so proud of them and wish them and their family all of the best. 

  • Angelee

    I ask, why not? It appears to me that Tiny is an extremely sincere person.

  • http://twitter.com/NewNaturalSista High GrAdE KarMa

    I never really judged him by his choice nor talked about Tiny. I find her to be a nice person because she ain the one to be on tv being an attention w***e.. She also appears to be respectable and like the article says loyal to her man. At the end of the day it is what pleases him Im a big fan of Ti and Tiny and compared to most of these fake woman in the industry she is as beautiful as beautiful can get!!

  • Bella

    Lol, funny article. I, too, have somewhat looked at Tiny with question, but if the part in the article where it states that men bring out the worst in women is anything to go by, I know the jealous part of me would’ve commented on Tiny just as much if she was a hottie. Either way, neither T.I. or Tiny care what others have said about them, as well as the amount of women who have literally thrown themselves at T.I. and obviously failed, which says a lot about their commitment to each other. Because of this, I say well done to both of them. It can be an odd look when your partner looks hotter than you, but at the end of the day what is fantastic about T.I. is the fact that there is only ONE woman who has his heart and she always will. Good luck to both of them and their beautiful family.

  • Bella

    Lol, funny article. I, too, have somewhat looked at Tiny with question, but if the part in the article where it states that men bring out the worst in women is anything to go by, I know the jealous part of me would’ve commented on Tiny just as much if she was a hottie. Either way, neither T.I. or Tiny care what others have said about them, as well as the amount of women who have literally thrown themselves at T.I. and obviously failed, which says a lot about their commitment to each other. Because of this, I say well done to both of them. It can be an odd look when your partner looks hotter than you, but at the end of the day what is fantastic about T.I. is the fact that there is only ONE woman who has his heart and she always will. Good luck to both of them and their beautiful family.

  • Shena Bowers

    To be honest i dont have problem with her looks and who are you to even question that, like seriously. What you look like ? and where is your man?

  • Shena Bowers

    To be honest i dont have problem with her looks and who are you to even question that, like seriously. What you look like ? and where is your man?

  • http://profile.yahoo.com/VAMCHLB5TLGUUF2JISHAL5OMBE M

    Her face is her face… nothing we can do about that. The person that loves her as a whole is TI and that is all that matters.
    As far as I can tell, she loves him hard, and he loves back just the same.

  • http://profile.yahoo.com/VAMCHLB5TLGUUF2JISHAL5OMBE M

    Her face is her face… nothing we can do about that. The person that loves her as a whole is TI and that is all that matters.
    As far as I can tell, she loves him hard, and he loves back just the same.

  • Maryboggarty

    Someone need to get a life ! Leave them alone !

  • Cashmera_17

    perfect match!

  • Krystal

    I just question why she got plastic surgery. As for them together they seem to really love each other!

    • Naffy70

       The person above said she had to have reconstructive surgery after a car accident.

  • Blvdjewel

    Why NOT Tiny? Who do you think T.I. SHOULD be with? Why should anyone care? Aren’t our lives enough to tend to? Why try to tear another woman down or pose a question that’s not coming from a place of respect? SMH

  • Yana

    We as African Americans have gotten superficial …we down each other to the point of no return and we look at how big a woman’s butt is, how fake or real her boobs are, how straight her teeth are, her nose, her eyes, her hair, her height, and skip over the REAL things like her HEART,,,the love she has for her children, and her husband and the loyalty she shows. TI found in TINY something only he has to be happy with and he shows and proves it all the time. Pat her on the back for having a real love instead of punching her in the gut with the constant insults about her outside looks. Either way in reality it doesn’t matter what anyone says because THEIR love and life will still go on. 

  • Suemitch65

    Not a fan of  hers…but i love that she loves her man with all she has. she’s a hands on mom. she takes care of everyone in that  house. she’s not the most attractive gal, but she’s got a heart as big as ATL…plus she’s a freak and that keep T.I on his toes…you go girl!

  • Other is Better, Right?

    Nope never questioned why Tiny..it is obvious they love each other and its obvious that they LIKE each other.The women who voice negative comments about their relationship seem to be so bitter, obsessive nutts.  U know the type who sits around and questions why others have what they want….

  • Harsh Reality

    Didn’t Tiny get bad plastic surgery?

    • Tee

      Reconstructive due to a car accident.

      • Cherryisbombn

        So they reconstructed her lips and her a**???

  • Candacey Doris

    I’ve never questioned their relationship. She stuck with him through jail and lord knows what else. I’m glad to see a family that’s staying together. 

  • NOMYSTERYHERE

    Why Tiny? What man wouldn’t love a woman who is loyal to him no matter what he did?? Cheat- it doesn’t matter. Possessive – it doesn’t matter. Jail time- it doesn’t matter. If I had a man that stayed faithful to me no matter what I did I wouldn’t leave him either. No mystery here.

    • LALATAREA

      Thats actually REALLY sad. its like she puts him over her own self worth. smh

  • Mrsedwards04

    I actually love this couple, regaurdless to whatever people say, rather it be her looks are whatever, I dont see anything wrong with her. I feel like they are haters, and yes this article is correct, she is a great spouse, good mother and they dnt have any infedility rumors. You just have to love them!

  • Wuluwulu

    I have never questioned TI’s choice because Tiny is highly talked about as being a really, really good and decent human being.  Looks eventually fade and ugly happens to everyone aka old age.  If I had a son I would want him to choose the woman who would honour him, respect him, love, cherish and devote her  herself to his upliftment.  A good heart and spirit is worth more than  twenty hundred weight of gold. 

  • jaclynsd

    The sad reality is that people judge what’s on the outside
    and think that the same must be on the inside. For all we know T.I. may be the
    one that’s SO blessed to have someone like Tiny but we think he’s good looking
    so the inside has to match and he can do better. I never questioned why he was
    w/Tiny…obviously she’s holding him down and by looks on the show she’s a real
    sweetheart and loves and adores not only T.I. but his children as well. I did
    however ask why she got w/T.I. in the beginning. She was successful, cute
    (regardless of others opinions), and she was well established. She could have
    picked a man w/no kids, famous and well established like her. But she picked
    T.I. and believed in him when no one even knew who the guy was. At the end of
    the day they both  love each other on a
    deeper level than looks, and I know for both of them even if the world doesn’t get
    it…they do, and that’s what’s most important and clear (by the show) that it
    works for them and their families.

    • Girliusmaximus

      Hecky no! I’ve never thought to question why he married him, actually it was the other way around. Looks aside or whatever, correct me if I’m wrong, but didn’t she put him on in the first place? She been loyal to T.I. since FOREVER so in my opinion he should have picked her. I guess people don’t think she’s good enough for him?? Not sure why because it seems like T.I. like to plant his seed in whoever garden is looking to be watered and she is GREAT for sticking with him through all that. Just sounds like a bunch of women who couldn’t snag T.I. hating on her. I’m not mad at her at all. 

    • Vernaallen50

      I couldn’t have said it better! I think people are hattin on the rare Idea of true love. I wish them all the best. It’s that negative attitude that keeps people from finding their true love.

  • Mikkalotious

    I think they are great for each other and they are a very cute couple. as for Tiny…there is nothing wrong with her and I am happy that she has a successful career, she is a great mother and most of all she has a husband that loves her just they way she is…now…what is wrong with that. As the old sayin’ goes ” All that glitters ain’t gold.

  • lara

    I questioned it for like 2 nanoseconds.

    But honestly, she is not unattractive.

    When a black man Does settle with a black woman, these heaux still ain’t happy.

    At the end of the day, people are irrational stupid creatures.

  • Darcampb

    No, “we” all have certainly not been asking this question. Why is a man with a criminal record, a history of cheating and average looks at best considered a better catch than this woman? If anything, hes the lucky one to catch a supportive woman for his trifling a$$

  • Monique

    I think you guys are haters, she is beautiful. I would question why she stayed with him so man years? Even though the show look stage, I think they have a really cute relationship

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  • Edie D

    Now that Ive been watching the show more regularly, I actually found myself liking Tiny. And I can understand her better too!

  • LaTashaSW

    I Love them both!

  • LaTasha

    Yea I agree that tiny is beautiful and they are so good together

  • Angelsong 321

    Love him ,love her ,love them as the heads of a blended family – and the only way you know it is because people ask- they act like all the kids are both of theirs. They are a couple of color – she is mixed but clearly conciders herself Black even though she also clearly loves her mother.America, you all would have been angry no matter who he was with because he is cute and talented, but looks like he went for the best woman for him- she is a ride or die she has proved that and he loves her – it seens I can feel it though the TV!!! I hope that make it for the long run……

  • QnShebasince1979

    I’ve never questioned his selection of Tiny as he partner, wife, and children’s mother/stepmother. I like them as a couple.

  • http://aa2243002.com a2243002

    I’ve said that least 2243002 times. SCK was here

  • http://nachalooman.wordpress.com Anna Renee

    Tiny is beautiful! What’s the problem? Sometimes we sisters are way mentally jacked up. We get mad when the men get with the Latina beauties, but we snarky when they get with the natural black beauties, (that we subconsciously feel are ugly and for that reason, undeserving of a black man’s love)
    We all calling her “cute”. WOW!
    No boo, she’s beautiful!!!
    Dayum, sisters get your minds right!

  • IBACKN

    I think Tiny and T.I. compliment each other. They have struggled together to achieve their dreams and I bless them for that. What ever our thoughts good or bad it doesn’t change the fact that they love each other. I pray they stay together FOREVER.

  • http://TractHerTrailHer.com Meiqua

    I love them both and I’ve never understood why people are always hating on her! All that matters is that they love each other. Truth be told, she learned all that loyalty from her mother. As you can see her mother is still with her dad and is a ride or die chic as well. I’m sure they endured all sorts of hate and she is still with him today! I love T.I. and Tiny! I think they are a perfect match!

  • Andrea

    I never question why a certain someone is with someone
    Beauty id I’m the eye of the beholder. I had a husband and a long-time lover that people use to ask me what did I see in them? Implying, they weren’t the best looking. I was no raving beauty but what was and still is true they are both still upstanding gentlemen and beautiful inside. Maybe that’s what T. I. sees SUBSTANCE.

  • Martha Falconer

    I love the both of them. They are a real couple not always trying to be in the limelight, but a real family, and the love that they have for each other is so obvious, I just think they are wonderful, despite what they been thru that just shows nothing can come between them, but makes their marriage stronger!

  • Caprena B.

    I think they make a good couple…..Looks are not everything in a relationship…….It takes a lot more than that these days…….The total package……

  • Beautifulmami

    I totally agree with Baps.. Quite honestly before I started watching the show I didn’t care too much for T.I. I loved his music but I thought he was a dog. The show has given me a whole different opinion of him. I do think they are a cute couple and were made for each other.

  • Kee

    I still think she’s ugly and ghetto, but they make a good couple and have a great family.

  • Toria

    I think they make a cute couple !!

  • Baps

    Ummm…If I remember correctly, Tiny was rich, famous, and successful waaaayy before T.I. even hit the scene…so maybe the question should be why did Tiny choose T.I.? He is forever in and out of court/jail. “Minimal infidelities are STILL infidelities”… he has MULTIPLE baby mamas…js

    Personally, I like them together. I HATE her stylist, but as a couple; as parents they work…so good for them.

  • Liz

    The whole premise of this article is mean-spirited…. I can’t get with it.

  • Dafra

    I haven’t watched the show, but this article is a great way for all of us to check what we say or think. Things that seem strange to us on the surface could make all the sense in the world, if we knew what to look for.

  • sholla21

    I don’t understand why people hate on Tiny. They act like she’s the most hideous looking woman in the world. She seems sweet and supportive. It seems like she loves TI and takes care f her family.
    Maybe TI is smart enough to choose a woman who has a good heart, a good soul and who knows how to be a good wife. Get off Tameka, lol.

  • dcarter910

    Finally a black man that doesnt make relationship choices with the end of his d@ck and people hate on him. A nut is a nut and what she brings to the table by way of loyalty and compatibility, superhead or none of those other superficial hoes cant touch that!

  • Drdoseofreality

    I have always liked Tiny. She’s an attractive woman who appears to be grounded, respectful of her man, loves her family, and values her friends. Maybe more women should aspire to these qualities and stop being so petty and negative! Kudos to you both TI and Tiny! Until the next episode…keep up the good work!

  • lovinlife

    I admit I asked the question until I started watching the show and checked myself for being superficial. When you’re beautiful on the inside, you’re beautiful. They are a cute couple and I can tell they love each other to death. Some people never experience love like that.

  • rose

    amen keme amen

  • http://www.bonita-keme.com keme

    I don’t think there is anything wrong with Tiny. She is beautiful. I love her personality and she’s shown that she is a chick that will ride for her man. Who wouldn’t want that? People are just way too superficial and judgmental. Keep hating while Tiny is the one with the ring on…