Joy & Pain: Reasons Why Women Stay In Abusive Relationships

February 18, 2012 ‐ By Julia Austin

For many of us, the question is simple: “why doesn’t she just leave?” But, surrounding that clear notion that abuse is bad, is a whole cloud of other emotions and twisted logic that makes it hard for women in abusive relationships to focus on the only thing they need to know: there is no excuse for abuse.

Here is some of that “logic”:

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  • donna

    I am passing through this and I also said I would never allow it. But it is more difficult then u think. Especially if rhere are children . He could be abusing me but to my kids hes wonderful. Wat do i do?


    I said it once and I’ll say it again, awesome sex, awesome sex, otherwise why put up with someone’s mindless BS. It’s even more sad when the abused person is rationlizing and making excuses, especially for some jackoff off of the streets. Ladies and gents  you need to love yourselves before allowing this kind of nonsense in your lives.

  • Njgal81

    If I knew the answer to this my sister wouldn’t be in the one she’s been in for over 15 years.

    • Nina Dashotta

      Don’t be fooled, your sister enjoys getting her azz whooped, that equals love to her…smh

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  • some woman stay in them because they are afraid to leave, they are afraid for their life, which should also be added to the list. 

  • Nina Dashotta

    Nope, I DGAF!!! My self esteem is not that low to allow a man to put his hands on me and like coco black said, my own father never laid hands on me, not even jacked me up when I was wilding out as a teen, why the hell would I let some random dude try that??? Most of the abused women are like the abusing man, they grew up in that environment and think its normal. I have mixed feelings with women who are abused because NOTHING in life you have to deal with except death, that inevitable. Being abused is not and my only advice to a woman that is being abused: you choose to stay because you thought he would change or you could change him, now what?

  • College kidd

    Sometimes women are afraid to leave because they don’t think they can find someone else to love them…it all comes down to insecurities.

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  • Coco Black

    Nope!!…never ever. My own Father never slapped or hit me so there’s no way on earth I’d allow a man who is supposed to care for me..abuse me!! I’m 35 now and know exactly what I would and wouldn’t put up with in a relationship. I have however dated men in the past who have def displayed “signs”…those signs were the reason I moved on.

  • IllyPhilly

    Apparently if anybody seen that The Game episode when Tasha gave that whole speech to Jason, That’s supposedly the top reason why.