Open Letter to Single Black Women

February 15th, 2012 - By MN Editor

Ama Yawson, co-founder of http://www.loveessence.com/ a dating site for black women and all men, penned a letter of encouragement to single black women looking for love.

Dear Triumphant Scientifically Attractive Marriageable Single Black Woman,

Sweet kisses? Tender caresses? Inspiring words? Early morning love-making sessions with the person who has promised to love and support you through poverty and wealth, sickness and health as long as you both shall live?

Yes, yes, and more yes. That is exactly what you deserve if your heart so desires.

So to the extent that the negative media surrounding black women’s beauty and relationship prospects, or what Ariana Proehl refers to as the “Tragic Scientifically Unattractive Unmarriageable Single Black Woman Narrative,” has led you to consider giving up on love for one millisecond, I pray that you will reconsider.

Yes, I understand that during the past two years the media has been throwing spears in your direction. Pop singer John Mayer proclaimed that his white supremacist penis won’t allow him to date or mate with a black woman. Our own black brother NFL player, Albert Haynesworth exclaimed that he can’t remember the last time he dated a black woman. Quack scientist Satoshi Kanazawa published an article with “scientific evidence” that black women were less attractive than other women. Countless academics continue to pontificate on the African-American marriage decline while citing black male incarceration rates and high-school drop-out rates to explain the dearth of eligible black men to marry you. It is enough to make you vomit, lose hope and decide to solely focus on other things such as community or political activism.

But I have a question for you.

When have you ever allowed the stereotypes, negative statistics or euro-centric notions of beauty heralded by the mass media to define you or circumscribe your aspirations?

Read the rest of Yawson’s inspiring letter at Black Voices.com.

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  • Blink999

    I am a white man and I would be happy to date/marry a black woman.  A beautiful woman is a beautiful woman.

  • FromUR2UB

    Who asked John Mayer to date or mate with black women?  What’s that…Tourette Syndrome making him blurt out answers to questions he wasn’t asked?

    “scientific evidence” that black women were less attractive than other women.

    HAHAHAHAHAHA!!  That is too funny!  “Um…we have ‘scientific’ evidence that you’re ugly.”  How do you do that?  This may qualify as the most stupid thing I’ve ever heard!!  How much grant money did they get for that study?  The tests probably involved a black woman, a white woman, an Asian woman, a hispanic woman, and a dog.  In three separate tests, the black woman was placed on a chair while the other three women were instructed to sit on a pile of Milk-Bones.  Whoever the dog approached in each of the test, was deemed the prettier of two women.   In each case, the dog approached the white, Asian and hispanic women, even accepting the Milk-Bones they offered because they were prettier.  This provided conclusive, scientific evidence that black women are less attractive than other women.

    heeheeheehee!!

  • KIR12

    Black women had a higher marriage rate than white women between 1900 to 1960. The liberals with their social engineering programs (new familial structure agenda /rejection of the nuclear family) and feminist (the man is wanted but not NEEDED in the home) has screwed black women and the black family completely up. Black illegitimacy has increase from 24% to 72% black illegitimacy and 50% of black kids are aborted. I’m not saying progressim and liberalism can’t work. I’m just saying it does not work in the black community and has been a disaster for the black family, black women and black kids. According to 2011 U.S. Census Black women between the ages of 35 and 44 have the highest rate of singlehood compared to other women in the same age bracket. 31% of African American women by their early forties have never married as compared to only 9% of Whites, 11% of Asian women, and 12% of Latino women in the same age group.

    • http://www.facebook.com/RosarioRed Rosario Stefania Scarsci

      I agree. We were used by the conniving white liberal media and their stupid “feminism” support system.

  • tastythoughts

    interesting piece…

  • Kelly

     John Mayer, NFL players, Japanese scientist. Pitiful. And you think white women be jealous of this? Who wants to get shame up day in and day out like the black woman?

    • Smacks_hoes

      You must be mentally ill. Why do you waste so much time on like every gossip site speaking down on black women. Get a life. Hate and jealousy is such a ugly trait. My advice to you is to seek some help my darling.

      • Tiredofthebs

        You’re ignorant beyond words. Charring Ball writing skills would put anything you could ever say, or write to shame, With that said, she wasn’t attacking children, but in typical racist minded fashion you took negativity from the article. Also, you are really delusional if you have bought into the hype tht Black women are jealous of you, for what? Of course you will think you’re better than a Black women, the ppl you grew up around probably spoonfed you that lie, and the media co-signed it, but deep down you probably cringe when you see a beautiful Black women, or any other woman that wasn’t White, but couldn’t deny they were beautiful. You must hate Naomi Campbell, Gabrielle Union, Ya, Ya and Beyonce, makes you question if the lies you been fed were true,

        LOL

    • Tiara

      Your black too. This is Kelly from bossip & she’s black ya’ll. YEP one of us … the so-called “undesired”. Can’t WAIT to see the look on folks face judgement day when Jesus come through those clouds with copper skin & wool hair. WHEW LAWD! I can’t wait. HAVE to see this :)

      • MISRA

        Why are you here then, Miss Universe?

      • TheWife

        Standard of beauty. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

      • tam

        ITS ALWAYS BEST NOT TO RESPOND TO TROLLS.

      • Tee

        I am willing to bet that your probably not that attractive in the first place. Delusional all the way around!!!!

      • Tiara

        LMFAO Mariah Carey doesn’t look black either & guess what? STILL A N****! Eat it, digest it, shyt it out & get over it SISTER! 

      • http://www.facebook.com/RosarioRed Rosario Stefania Scarsci

        LOL. I’ll bet anything that you are NOT black or anywhere near black.

  • Smacks_hoes

    Interesting

  • Kim3473sf28

    My friend just met a black man on Mixedmingle.COMit’s where for men and women looking for interracial’ship for a fabulous lifestyle
    It’s a nice place for black white sing’les, to interact with each other…no bounds or extremes in front of true love.

  • KEERTLOVE

    Happy every Day Honey!..Are you still single???+Life is short. Enjoy yourself.  {{-_-}} 
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  • Tee

    Its Albert Haynesworthless. I pray no black woman would want to marry him pluuueeese. I really do hope that our beautiful black sisters don’t listen to garbage like this.

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