Warning! These Moves May Have You Headed to the “Friend Zone”

1.  Don’t be the rebound band-aid.

One of the things that landed a close male friend of mine in the “friend zone” is unfortunately the fact that he was Mr. Nice Guy.  This is no way implies that I think all men should play Mary J. Blige’s infamous “Mr. Wrong” in order to be thought of as sex symbols, but being too nice of a guy (or girl) could in some ways weaken your love interest’s ability to see you as a sexual being.  Whenever I had a boyfriend break my heart, my male friend would rush in to save the day, telling me everything I wanted to hear even if it wasn’t true. In many ways, knowing that this guy would think the world of me no matter what I did took away the tension and suspense that initial sexual attraction is all about.

If you ever want to be sure someone is with you for the right reasons, don’t try to pursue them immediately after they’ve ended a serious relationship.  When someone is fresh from a breakup, they are high-strung off of intense emotions and haven’t had a chance to sort through the baggage.  This can cloud their judgment and instead of focusing on what they really want in a mate, they may be more likely to cuddle up to whatever is making them feel good for that time. That could be you.