Demi Moore Reminds Us How Sick Break-Ups Can Make Us

January 27th, 2012 - By Brande Victorian

If you can die from a broken heart then surely a break-up can make you sick—that’s what level-headed people suspect led to Demi Moore’s hospitalization two days ago. As Demi’s rep said in statement earlier this week:

“Because of the stresses in her life right now, Demi has chosen to seek professional assistance to treat her exhaustion and improve her overall health.”

While some would rather suggest that Demi’s exhaustion is a result of substance abuse, courtesy of a nitric oxide binge from Whip-its, or an eating disorder, science actually backs up the idea that divorce can make one sick.

A recent review from the University of Arizona found that divorce can raise the risk of early death by as much as 23 percent. The researchers also likened the effects of divorce to other health risks like smoking up to 15 cigarettes a day, getting limited exercise, being overweight, and drinking heavily. Although the cause and effect relationship between death and divorce wasn’t conclusive, the correlation isn’t hard to imagine. According to psychotherapist Rachel Sussman:

“When you are processing the ending of a marriage you are overcome with a variety of complex emotions–sorrow, anger, shame, fear.

“Sleep and one’s ability to eat may be impacted by the sorrow and stress, [which in turn] may affect your overall health and cause you to get very run down.”

We’ve all been so stressed or sick that we couldn’t eat—or ate too much. We may have even stayed in bed for a day or two and shut out the rest of the world. Unfortunately Demi is a recovering addict so the potential for her to return to drugs is much higher, but I don’t think people should jump to that conclusion considering the effects the stress of divorce can have on someone. I think most of us would be a little sick if our marriage of seven years was ending and our soon-to-be ex-husband was making a public mockery of our relationship.

Do you think Demi is suffering from a broken heart over her divorce? Has a breakup ever made you sick?

Brande Victorian is a blogger and culture writer in New York City. Follower her on Twitter at @be_vic.

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  • CarmyneRevolver

    It’s possible for this effect to happen to someone going through a relationship in which they were truly invested.  It hurts whenever you lose someone you love, but I’ve been there myself. I lost 30 pounds (which I viewed as a good thing, being that I’m plus sized), started smoking, became depressed and could barely get out of bed to make it to class.  But I had to come to terms with that myself.  I slowly started eating again, tried to keep myself positive throughout the day, stopped smoking, etc. After a break up, things that used to come naturally, you have to make a concious effort to do.  I pray she finds happiness within herself. 

  • Wow

    Demi is old enough to have birthed Ashton…Stevie Wonder could have seen this coming.

  • Pivyque

    I think this is ridiculous. People should not let someone have that much of an affect on them. If my husband left me today, I would be devastated BUT best believe I am going to continue my normal eating and exercising routines. I can nurse a broken heart before I go to sleep.

  • F3ral Anarchy

    a man isnt destroying demi….its that pale white powder that is. 

  • rose davis

    The thing about these older Women getting with younger men is that sooner or later they get tired of you and want the young and more exciting woman,it doesn’t matter how young you look, act, or dress the fact still remain you are just that (OLDER) and you can’t erase the age.I don’t think that 3-5 yrs is a big diffrence but when it gets to 10 plus years than you seriously need to think if this is a wise thing too do. I know that there are some couples who have had great relationships and sucessfull marriages despite the age gap but far too many do not take it from one who has been there done that.

  • tastythoughts

    bendito….i hope she gets better soon

  • queenie

    There is no excuse. She is way too old to be sniffing or smoking some nitrous oxide over some man! We all have fell hard over love and been screwed over before that’s no reason to succumb to drugs. At almost 50 years old, she’s not setting a good example on how to deal with issues for her young daughters.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_65MHCOJ5WFX2ZUX242QQU2WU4U homie

    I feel sorry for demi because she’s letting a man destroy her well being, he on the
    other hand is going on with life and has a woman. There are tooo many things to get
    upset about in life and a man ain’t worth it.  I also think he married her to enhance his
    career. She must move on.

  • RedButterfly81

    5 years ago I was with this man for 7 years and we moved in together, no kids (thank god!) and were engaged to be married. But then he called me up telling me that he was in love with his ex and married her before breaking up with me and told me to keep the ring. I ended up moving in my mom’s house until I got my own place and the whole break-up thing had me drinking, doing drugs, not eat anything, cutting I was depressed and even attempted suicide by jumping into Lake Michigan, but I realized I have so much to live for, so I put myself in the mental hospital. After I got out a month later I realized I was damaging myself over this fool and it wasn’t worth it. I had family and friends supporting me and putting god back into my life also helped, I made more new friends at church, including meeting my daughter’s father. Even though her father and I are not together, he’s a great father to our daughter and I’m still letting god choose Mr. Right for me one day, but for now I’m focused on my daughter and going to nursing school. No man, especially Ashton is worth hurting yourself, just move on. Plus Demi has 3 daughters, she should always think about them.

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        I’m glad I’m happy too, thanks.

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  • OH MY!

    I think this is proof of how out of control this whole Cougar thing is. All of these grown women think that they can handle these young playboys. She should have been mature enough in the first place to know that she needed a mature man. Instead, she made a mockery of the fact that she is a mother and a grown woman and decided to have some fun. I have no sympathy for her. Hopefully in rehab they will teach her about maturity.

    • Michiswife

      I do think that the cougar thing messed her up especially since she was past childbearing age.  Unless they were planning to adopt or he didnt want children of his own.  Also I dont think a break up should be so devastating.  Maybe sad and hurt, but not weight loss, exhaustion.  I do have sympathy for her, though.

      • tastythoughts

        breakups suck…depending how far gone in the relationship u were….i went through one that tore me up…..i think everyone has that one person though..cause i dont recall her being ill after bruce’s divorce….i think she may have loved ashton hard. 

    • RedButterfly81

      I don’t get the whole cougar thingy either, I prefer older men and I’m 30.

      • Opinionated4Days

        I’m 31. I like older men for the reliability and stability….but must admit; the younger ones got TOE CURLING STAMINA! However; to seriously expect a mate who at one time, could have attended the same elementary school as one of my (underage) children to be able to maintain a Commitment for LIFE????? C’mon Gals. Gotta keep things in perspective.  Look at dear Vivi Fox! Gotta be realistic.  @Redbutterfly81; when weeeeeee were at our ripe, firm, late teen/early 20′s—–the men were like hounds to steak (not that they still ain’t over here, mind you. Few guys ‘hate’ a caramel, long-haired, 125 lb., 5′ 4.5″ fine thang like).  So why wouldn’t Ashton end up wanting the same versus a wife (who many articles implied was ridiculously insecure the whole time) who always kinda knew it couldn’t last forever?

  • DaRedNeckKing

    She was a mess before Ashton Left her whack az!!! This chick is another junkie, that’s all there is..

  • Love_Sexy

    I feel sorry for Demi Moore apparently the relationahip and whatever elae was going on in her life must have took its toll on her…..She does not look well at all…..Read an interview recently on her and she truly sounded like a lost soul…..Hope she get better.

  • NikkitaMichelle

    That picture of her is absolutely horrible.  She’s looks like she’s starving herself.

    • Sugar_Spice

      She really does, you can often tell by the sunken in cheeks. I hope she gets well soon.

    • Opinionated4Days

      Well Gals…every female doesn’t make a ‘wheels-with-no-brakes-beeline’ to their refridgerator in times of extreme emotional duress.  What she & I have in common (besides our beauty and enviably high metabolisms)….is that our appetite and emotions go hand in hand. I knew something ‘extra’ was going on when my own DOCTOR (more than a little chubby) glared at me like I flashed my boobs to her hubby as I explained my concerns over rapid weight loss following the ending of my engagement to the father of my oldest child.  Not a drop of empathy. Just jealous glares as her eyes raked my body up and down, and her spitting “eat more cheeseburgers”. Some of us LOSE our appetites when it hits the fan. Instead of hatin, how bout some well wishes.

      • NikkitaMichelle

        There’s no hate involved whatsoever.  I know plenty of women who eat when they’re upset and plenty of women who don’t eat when they’re upset.  Stress eating or starving is not healthy either way, but Demi is a grown a$$ woman who has been around the block more than a few times.  She shouldn’t be shocked that her marriage to a man 17 years her junior didn’t work out and walking around looking like a crackhead isn’t good for anyone.  She needs to let go and let God, learn from her mistakes, be thankful for her blessings, and move on.  Oh yeah and a sandwich wouldn’t hurt either.