How Terrell Owens’ Brokeness Reminds Us of the Importance of an Education

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January 25, 2012 ‐ By
I’ve never been a huge fan of Owens. Even though his reality show on VH1, The T.O. Show, gave us new insight into him and even a bit of sympathy (he cries a lot, but there are reasons why), I’ve never been a real fan of him on or off the field because I’m not particularly a fan of arrogance. However, it’s hard not to feel sorry for the brotha. In an effort to catch the eyes of a NFL team this past year, he held a televised workout in October hoping to get some love again, but no NFL teams chose to show up for it.  Ouch. In addition to that, he’s fallen out with Monique and Kita, his homegirls from The T.O. Show for what he feels were their efforts to shop their own reality shows without him being part of it. “They said they were planning to make me an executive producer, but if we were business partners, don’t you think I would have known about it?”
And while Owens has recently announced his intentions to take six figures to play for the Indoor Football League (yes, it’s a downgrade…) this year, who can really call how long that will last? That man was on five teams since entering the NFL in ’96, and depending on how he keeps his attitude in check, it could be the same story all over again—just indoors.
I think it’s moments like this where it’s nice to value an education over the glitz and glamour of being in the public eye as a dwindling football star. After doing some digging, I can’t seem to find any info that says what kind of degree this man obtained while in the midst of playing football (and basketball too!) for the University of Tennessee-Chattanooga. It is my hope that his concentration wasn’t solely focused on ball and that he does indeed have a degree to fall back on, just in case he continues to get the cold shoulder. If his situation, that of the NBA players during the lockout and countless other real-life stories tell us anything  (PLEASE see Hoop Dreams), it is that the people making money off you, getting shine through you, whether in college or professionally (and usually not black), have the power to use you until they use you up. When they’re done with you, as you can see in Owens’ case, they’re too through with you and can have you out in these streets blacklisted. I’ve seen it happen with my own family members–my brothers at that. That’s why having something to fall back on and not putting all your eggs in one basket is essential. But then again, not being impossible to work with and settling down with ONE lady helps too.
Owens is a clear example of the problems with a lot of NFL, NBA players and the like. He got caught up with the money, cars, and the women, and now that his star isn’t rising as high as it used to, everybody is gone, or even worse–they’re around with their hands out. I think NBA player Shannon Brown said it best during the NBA lockout: “Dreams do come true but plans B and C are just important as A.” Whether that means taking the time to go back to school or putting a degree to good use, having an education as a cushion is better than sitting in a big old house staring at furniture that’s about to get taken because all that was ever counted on was  a man’s athletic potential. Good luck in the IFL Terrell, but now might be the time to start getting real about checking out other options…

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  • http://soundcloud.com/kottikadotti Kotti ︻╦╤─ KaDotti ™ ©

    IF YOU CAN PAY CASH FOR YOUR CONDO OR HOUSE, THAT IS YOUR KEY TO RETIREMENT. YOU CAN WORK PART TIME TO PAY UTILITIES. I DON’T FEEL SORRY FOR ANY OF THESE MILLIONAIRES WHO GO BROKE

  • http://soundcloud.com/kottikadotti Kotti ︻╦╤─ KaDotti ™ ©

    WHAT A DUMB A**?  HE JUST DIDN’T KNOW HOW TO MANAGE HIS MONEY! I DON’T FEEL SORRY FOR TERRELL OWENS BEING BROKE ONE BIT! ONCE YOU PAY CASH MONEY FOR THE CONDO OR HOUSE YOU HAVE YOU HAVING NOTHING BUT UTILITIES TO PAY THE REST OF YOUR LIFE! YOU CAN WORK PART-TIME AND PAY THAT! SMH 

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  • t_99

    This is exactly why I have no interest in my sons playing sports.  I’d prefer that they cultivate their intellect instead.  They enjoy sports for fun, but I catch flack from other parents all of the time for not having them in organized sports.  I’ve even seen parents do homework for their 7 years old so that they boys could focus on football!  This worship of athletes is just out of hand.  TO’s story is tragic and should serve as a case study for what NOT to do as well as a serious wake up call.  

  • Squelette1

    And he still hasn’t learned anything. Such a pity party. Dude, man up. You HATE yourself? How about you just take some responsibility for your actions?

  • FAMURattler85

    He fell out with Mo and Kita?!! When did this happen?? Does that mean no more T.O. Show?? NOOOOOOOOOO! He needs to get it together.

  • Olivia

    Let’s be real…having a college degree still would not help this dude.  It’s not education that he’s lacking, its good ol’ fashioned common sense and as per his own admission, the ability to judge character.

    I do feel sorry for him because what happened to him could happen to anybody rich or poor.  We all get betrayed his was just on a more grand scale to the tune of 80 mil…

    His baby mommas should probably look into getting an education though instead of taking him to court they should show some compassion-REAL TALK.  

    T.O is broke in both financially and spiritually and there is nothing he can do for anyone until he gets himself together.  Asking him for more money at this time in his life is kinda border-line wicked IMO.

    He needs his kids in his life more than ever now.  Children love with no strings attached. 

  • Olivia

    Let’s be real…having a college degree still would not help this dude.  It’s not education that he’s lacking, its good ol’ fashioned common sense and as per his own admission, the ability to judge character.

    I do feel sorry for him because what happened to him could happen to anybody rich or poor.  We all get betrayed his was just on a more grand scale to the tune of 80 mil…

    His baby mommas should probably look into getting an education though instead of taking him to court they should show some compassion-REAL TALK.  

    T.O is broke in both financially and spiritually and there is nothing he can do for anyone until he gets himself together.  Asking him for more money at this time in his life is kinda border-line wicked IMO.

    He needs his kids in his life more than ever now.  Children love with no strings attached. 

    • Squelette1

      The last thing he needs are his children in his life. He is an emotional mess and is broke. Children need and deserve stability. And while I can’t say much for their mothers (as I don’t know them) I’m sure the routine they have now is better than what they would have with him. He needs to get therapy ASAP. 

  • NikkitaMichelle

    I like T.O.  He’s not the only NFL player to have multiple kids by multiple women, one guy can’t even name all of his children.  It’s embarrassing.  His epic failure was not preparing for his next career as football began to wind down.  He should have started to make those plans to transition into commentating or acting or whatever.  Pro baller or not, if college is not your thing you MUST have a plan.  Floating and hoping for the best is just not going to cut it anymore.

  • NikkitaMichelle

    I like T.O.  He’s not the only NFL player to have multiple kids by multiple women, one guy can’t even name all of his children.  It’s embarrassing.  His epic failure was not preparing for his next career as football began to wind down.  He should have started to make those plans to transition into commentating or acting or whatever.  Pro baller or not, if college is not your thing you MUST have a plan.  Floating and hoping for the best is just not going to cut it anymore.

  • FromUR2UB

    It makes absolutely no sense for someone to blow through $80 million dollars.  I understand that when people who never had anything first come into wealth, there’s a need to buy everything they ever thought they wanted…much of it frivolous.  But shouldn’t that wear off long before the money wears out? And some of the ballers need to step back and think it through before they go around planting their seed.  Three things they should know: 1) there are some women out there whose main goal in life is to get pregnant by guys with money, as a way of generating income for themselves.  2) They meet these women at the height of their career, so of course, their child support payments are based upon their highest income.  Judges, DA’s and Attorney Generals don’t take into account what they’ll be making after their time in the spotlight is over…and why should they if the guys aren’t thinking about it? 3) The courts are going to stick it to a black man, especially if his children are by women of other races. 

    So, paying more than half a million in child support every year until those kids turn 18, of course the money won’t last unless they live somewhat frugally.  Most athletes can play only into their mid 30s, if they don’t try to push it.  At that age, many of them still have young children.  It makes you wonder why large sums of money often falls into the hands of fools.

  • Meika79

    I need to get in contact with his people, or TO himself. I have the perfect idea for him to make some money. He needs to get in contact with one of these “Debt Consolidation” companies and become their spokes person.

  • wheelnut53

    what did he think they wanted him for ? a vasectomy should have been the first thing he when he was drafted no I mean way back in college . I seen a 47 yr old woman give birth just for a check WTF

  • joie

    There’s no crying n football

    • Mniki2008

      Ha ha ha..
      Reminded me of chef Roble..’there’s no crying in catering’..
      I love the living shit outta Roble
      I’d let him have me..all of me..I ‘d marry him if he asked me..lol..i love him

    • Mniki2008

      Ha ha ha..
      Reminded me of chef Roble..’there’s no crying in catering’..
      I love the living shit outta Roble
      I’d let him have me..all of me..I ‘d marry him if he asked me..lol..i love him

    • Mniki2008

      Ha ha ha..
      Reminded me of chef Roble..’there’s no crying in catering’..
      I love the living shit outta Roble
      I’d let him have me..all of me..I ‘d marry him if he asked me..lol..i love him

  • Guest

    Education has nothing to do with it, he lacks (or lacked) common sense.  Guys need to understand that you can’t sleep with or impregnate hos and think that the outcome will be all good. They need to change their minds about the types of women that they deal with. I suspect that T.O.’s ‘brokeness’ and the average person being broke are two different things. He can make some money off of his name alone and I think that he’ll be ok. 

    • Guest2

      Co-sign 100%.  I dont know what its like to have millions of dollars or for that matter 6 figures all in one shot or on a regular, but as youve stated, hellloooo!!  common sense. He is not the only one that this has happened to. Are we poor people to believe that alot of these celebrities are either so damn ignorant or just plain lazy and greedy that they dont have time to see whats going on with their money?  Do they really trust the people that supposedly are advising them.  Thats some B.S.  I honestly dont know how I would react to having millions of dollars but I do know one thing. Im a frugal person and I would always have to know where, when, who, what, and how my money is being spent.

  • grimyteddy

    ‘Brokeness’ and ‘education’ in the same sentence. One of these words is not actually A WORD. Stay in school kids!

  • Lajeune9

    Thats what I try to tell these boys at the school that I work at…atleast the ones that will listen to me. Even if his arrogance is ridiculous, an education and skills learned in anything would give him work or a foundation to start his own business

  • Prof1982

    I’m certain that T.D. Jakes will “mentor” TO….for a fee (can you say 10%?).

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_65MHCOJ5WFX2ZUX242QQU2WU4U homie

    This is very sad, we all make mistakes but I just don’t understand blowing
    that much money… all those white women won’t be wanting him anymore he
    should have learned from charlie sheen ( CONDOMS ).

  • DeepThinker

    Where the white women at Terrell? I guess this is why Kim Kardashian is not checking for him. It’s sad that he did not have anyone to mentor him and help him man up, but he needs to take responsiblity for his wreckless behavior.

    • NikkitaMichelle

      All his children are with black women which is probably why he’s not fooling with sisters anymore.  A few hefers make the rest of us look bad.  He’s wrong for not wrapping it up and they’re wrong for trying to trap him.

      • DeepThinker

        He never pursued a black woman for a relationship just “relations”.  He even admitted that himself.  Then he has the nerve to feel shafted because his ill intent with these women blew up in his face. Using this as an excuse to exclusively date “others” is lame.  Apparently, the “others” those struggling actresses and models didn’t have his back either, only difference is they took the pill and I’m sure his money too.

        I am not defending the naive, selfish, bitter women that take advantage of dumb, undisciplined athletes and other rich men, but these guys need to understand that you only get back what you put out in this world.   

        If you are looking to misuse and discard, that is how you will be treated. I just hope he can get a good therapist and get himself together he is a basket case and crying out for help.

      • DeepThinker

        He never pursued a black woman for a relationship just “relations”.  He even admitted that himself.  Then he has the nerve to feel shafted because his ill intent with these women blew up in his face. Using this as an excuse to exclusively date “others” is lame.  Apparently, the “others” those struggling actresses and models didn’t have his back either, only difference is they took the pill and I’m sure his money too.

        I am not defending the naive, selfish, bitter women that take advantage of dumb, undisciplined athletes and other rich men, but these guys need to understand that you only get back what you put out in this world.   

        If you are looking to misuse and discard, that is how you will be treated. I just hope he can get a good therapist and get himself together he is a basket case and crying out for help.

      • Squelette1

        That’s ridiculous. He wasn’t “fooling” with anyone because he was on some media-hyped high that made him think he was better than everyone. His sentiments were around the same time that Kim Kardashian was at her peak popularity, Ochocinco was saying the same stuff, and much of the underground hype media was painting the black man/”exotic” woman couple as the cool thing to do. But why is it with so many men that when they fault the finger is always getting pointed at SOMEONE ELSE. I don’t really care what someone else did. You have to take responsibility for you.

    • NikkitaMichelle

      All his children are with black women which is probably why he’s not fooling with sisters anymore.  A few hefers make the rest of us look bad.  He’s wrong for not wrapping it up and they’re wrong for trying to trap him.

  • Marina

    Boo hoo. So am I supposed to feel sorry for this overpaid oaf? I”m sure his white woman will stay with him being broke (NOT)

  • Ms_Sunshine9898

    In the words of Red Foxx, “You big dummy!”

    • Lagois32

      Wrong, but funny and fitting in this situation.

    • Lagois32

      Wrong, but funny and fitting in this situation.

  • Baybeegirl

    Truth be told, what goes around comes around.  You get back what you put in.  If you walk around this Earth dishing out negative vibes, you will be surrounded by NEGATIVITY.  You reap what you sow. That just doesnt go for Terrall, but everyone including me.

  • JustAshley

    Theres no such thing as respectfully cheating. Let me explain something. When you have s.e…x with someone 2 become 1. When he has s.e…x with you, your girlfriend, the chick down the block he is becoming 1 with them and SO ARE YOU! S.e…x isn’t just a physical issue. An unfaithful man is putting your “temple” at risk for physical AND spiritual illness. I pity women who trade in their emotional and spiritual health for material wealth. 

    • Baybeegirl

      wrong article

  • Laface51

    Karma. Forget everyone else’s character what about his character!!! Shame on him for being a pig and using women and shame on the women for being used and using the kids as meal tickets!!! Disgusting behavior all the way around. Open the bible Terrell!!!!