Checking Your Baggage: Sorting Through Your Issues Before Settling Down

January 26th, 2012 - By Toya Sharee

1.   Am I over my infidelity insecurities?

I can’t say that I was never cheated on before, but I can say that I never stayed around long enough to find out. Once my gut felt like something was off with my man’s feelings, I hauled a**, which may not have always been the best decision. Unfortunately, I’ve seen many a woman sabotage their new relationship because they are too busy holding on to what the last boyfriend did against the new one. By chanting the mantra, “Every man cheats,” many women are creating a self-fulfilling prophecy where a man feels like he might as well do what he’s already being constantly accused of. Give yourself a chance to trust again and give that brother a break.

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  • http://www.facebook.com/Jayden.DeMari.Satterthwaite Mario Montana

    so true

  • D_moody20

    My boyfriend (ex) and I just broke up not even 2 weeks ago so this article was really needed. Thank you! 

  • Sugar_Spice

    I can attest to the “getting over your infidelity insecurities”.  I come from a family notorious for cheating & having children outside of their marriages (my dad, uncle, aunt) so needless to say my boyfriends have always suffered.  When my husband & I first started dating I was controlling & always had bad anxiety. I did some self searching & realized that you will let great opportunities & good men pass you by if can’t learn to trust.  If you don’t love & respect yourself how do you expect someone else to?

  • Sugar_Spice

    I can attest to the “getting over your infidelity insecurities”.  I come from a family notorious for cheating & having children outside of their marriages (my dad, uncle, aunt) so needless to say my boyfriends have always suffered.  When my husband & I first started dating I was controlling & always had bad anxiety. I did some self searching & realized that you will let great opportunities & good men pass you by if can’t learn to trust.  If you don’t love & respect yourself how do you expect someone else to?

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  • Angel Baby

    This was a really nice article.