Your partner makes a decision you find unethical—he won’t go see his father in the hospital, he is embezzling a little money from work, he is lying to someone in a way that will negatively affect them—and you just swallow your thoughts. You tell yourself “that is not a part of our relationship, so it is not my business or my problem.” But yes, it’s your business and will eventually be your problem. Some women think that all that matters is how a man behaves towards them, but how he treats the rest of the world—his family, his co-workers, a server at a restaurant—does not affect her. Trust me, those behaviors are indicative of issues he has that will eventually affect you. He will lie, be rude to and hurt you one day, too.