Aisha Tyler Uses Interracial Marriage to Support Gay Marriage

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January 11, 2012 ‐ By

Aisha Tyler is one of the latest celebrities to join the Human Rights Campaign’s Americans for Marriage Equality Campaign. In her PSA, the 41-year-old co-host of “The Talk” draws on her personal experience of being in an interracial relationship to draw a parallel between the right to marry someone of a different race with the right to marry someone of the same sex. She says:

“I’m married and my husband is white. But did you know that 40 or 50 years ago in many American states it was illegal for black people and white people to marry?

“Well now we have that same injustice here in the United States, because gays can’t marry each other in many states. And I support marriage equality because I believe that everybody should have the right to marry who they love.”

Not long after, the comedian comes out of Aisha when she says:

“So let’s save traditional marriage by letting gays marry, because we straight people are f***ing it up.”

Jokes aside, a lot of people have taken issue with the comparison of gay rights to various aspects of African Americans’ struggles in society. Interracial marriage obviously isn’t just a black and white thing, but it will be interesting to see how people respond to her specific message.

Do you think the fight for interracial marriage and gay marriage are the same?

Brande Victorian is a blogger and culture writer in New York City. Follower her on Twitter at @be_vic.

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  • http://www.facebook.com/RosarioRed Rosario Stefania Scarsci

    Aisha Tyler really needs to sit down. Seriously…you only married a white man for the trophy status. 

  • Sdennis334

    I am so sick of people claiming that gays are trying marginalize the struggles of Africans and African Americans. The comparison is a tool to show that gays are experiencing similar struggles as we did, and they are in need of advocates, just like we needed others to stand up for us as well.  Homosexuality is not a choice. Research sexual orientation and you will find that there is information to prove that it is biological.

     Same-sex marriage isn’t Biblical, but perhaps you Bible thumpers should realize that the law and religion are not one in the same. Gays aren’t bullying Christians into allowing them to get married in the church. They want to be recognized as equals under the law. They want respect and acceptance.  The Bible was used to justify slavery and it forced Africans to stop practicing their traditional religions as well. But if ‘times have changed’ and slavery is no longer right, why can’t we accept that times have changed and homosexuality is no longer wrong?

    • Georgecastanza

      Once you said BIBLE THUMPERS, as if to disrespect us Christians, you lost my attention. If people want support for anything they shouldnt disrespect others in the process.

      • Sdennis334

        I am not intending to disrespect all Christians, I am stating that there are some people who mix religion and politics…which is why there is so much confusion about the subject  of gay marriage. If you are a Christian who understands that church and state are separate, the comment wasn’t intended for you. That’s all.

        • Georgecastanza

          It wasnt your comment that offended me.  It was the word bible thumper. If i was talking about a homosexual and used the words @$$ vandal, can I override by saying it wasnt intended for you.
           

  • Leanne

    I do not support nor do I oppose gay marriage. I do not agree w homosexuality for myself, but to each its own. God made me unique, and gave me the ability to chose between right and wrong. I would like to think that most of the time I chose right, but I know that there are plenty of time that I do not. I am a sinner. I need to work on myself getting closer to god. I don’t believe that I could do this if I spend my time being consumer by others sins. God said to not judge, and America is the land of equal rights for everyone. Let America stand by which it supports, and in the end God will judge us all based upon the freedoms that we took. 

  • Lorenzo

    Bussymommy, understand the logic behind your response.

    Maybe the stop to think processes would prevail, and that is my primary point. Ms. Tyler evidently was interviewed for a reason (interacial union I suspect) but IMO to lump that union with the plight of the LGBT community is a stretch and a long one. If a gay couple gets married they need to be able to balance thier check book too.I have always heard you cannot control whom the heart love. In that same realm, if you love it do the things to keep it. People have a tendency to cherish and keep safe major expenditures/purchases. Treat your love and life in that mindset, if you are serious prepare for the long hall. If you can’t balance your check book don’t get married.

    The comparison of the interracial union with same sex union and the 50 years ago analogy. I am going to assume Ms. Tyler is working on her routine for entertaiment or her quote was taken out of context. If that is how she see it , so sad.

    • Bussymommy

      Gosh, it was a joke. Corny joke, but a joke.

  • Realife

    No, no , no. I wish people would stop comparing black people to gay people as this is a very misguided analogy. It irks me even more when it comes from a black person. Race and sexual orientation are not the same people!!

    • Bussymommy

      agreed

  • Lorenzo

    How about putting parameters on getting married that will influence the success of that union. If you can’t balance your check book you should not get married. If you don’t take care of you kids from a previous union you can’t get married until  you have provided data to support that you can and are doing so. If you don’t have a job you definitely cannot get married. If you live with you parents and have not established your on residence, you can’t get married until you have done so.(this fosters independence and a source of self reliance)……,.

    Take it away my friends

    • Bussymommy

      At that rate no one will marry…lol

  • Cairo5

    It never ceases to amaze me how judgemental black people are. We go through struggles/discrimination everyday of our lives due to our skin colour, yet their the first to discriminate someone due to their sexuality and use all that religious babble. Shame

  • reese

    Even if you don’t agree with it.  How is it hurting you.  Live and let live.

    • Smartinbrooklyn

      doesnt hurt me, at all.  Just dont support it.  So the gay community should live and let live, they dont agree with me…

  • Moosegrl_86

    How so? I don’t see gays that have children end up with their kids gays as well. There haven’t been enough studies on ths and as far as I know it is not an inheritable trait. If it was gays could pass being gay on to their offspring. That’s why some people dislike this comparison. “Blackness” can be passed on to your child, homosexuality cannot (if it can it has yet to be proven).

  • Msmykimoto2u

    What movie or tv show have I seen this chic on before? (Besides The Talk, of course) I just cant put my finger on it….someone help

    • F3ral Anarchy

      she was one of the guys girlfriend on friends.

      • Bussymommy

        according to another post (Long Lasting Love) you are opposed to marriage. Hummmm…

        • F3ral Anarchy

          all in fun mommy…just to keep the convos interesting.  im a divorcee from a horrible marriage and guess what…i still plan on hopefully marrying again one day.

  • Nia

    I just wanted to say……I’ve seen some really beautiful interracial couples and Aisha is very pretty but….is anyone else getting that serial killer vibe from her hubby? Something just seems really scary about him in this pic.

  • MixedUpInVegas

    Human rights should be the same for all humans.  The Constitution guarantees equal protection under the law.  That means that gay people should have the same right to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness as any other citizen.  You don’t have to like gay marriage, but how can you deny them the same rights we freely grant to all other citizens?

    The days when some citizens can pick and choose which other citizens get the same rights they have are over.

  • Marleycroom

    they are not the same!! i did not choose to be white homosexuals have a choice there is your BIG difference you cannot degrade race to choice of lifestyle 

    • Tami

      what evidence do you have that being gay is a choice??
      don’t WE ALL choose our partners if not our sexual orientation?  How is the love of two consenting adults anyone’s business but the two parties involved?

      there is a valid comparison here, whether or not you can see that is on you.  the same way people used the Bible and their own personal views on marriage years ago to deny whites and blacks from marrying is the same thing that is happening now with gay marriage.  

    • Tami

      what evidence do you have that being gay is a choice??
      don’t WE ALL choose our partners if not our sexual orientation?  How is the love of two consenting adults anyone’s business but the two parties involved?

      there is a valid comparison here, whether or not you can see that is on you.  the same way people used the Bible and their own personal views on marriage years ago to deny whites and blacks from marrying is the same thing that is happening now with gay marriage.  

      • Nia

        What evidence do you have that being gay is not a choice?

      • Nia

        What evidence do you have that being gay is not a choice?

      • Redblack

        So when people use verses from the bible about homosexuality, we are wrong?  I wish the homosexual community would stop telling us that The Word God gave us is wrong.

    • Lillias

      You’re an idiot. Die in a fire.

  • Marleycroom

    they are not the same!! i did not choose to be white homosexuals have a choice there is your BIG difference you cannot degrade race to choice of lifestyle 

  • Ona2684

    It is the same as far as I am concerned. I completely agree with her and have used the same argument myself.

  • Ona2684

    It is the same as far as I am concerned. I completely agree with her and have used the same argument myself.

  • Cheslie Danielle <3

    Love is Love .. regardless of other people’s opinions.  I have a strong relationship with my God & haven’t let anything get in the way of that.  Being judgmental of others is easy, but if you say you are a Christian you should be able to show God’s love by loving EVERYONE.  Hating homosexuals and judging their lifestyle isn’t Christian at all!  As a woman, I’m going to be devoted to my loving girlfriend for the rest of my life whether or not we are Legally able to become married or not.  It would just be wonderful if when the time comes we can be legitimately recognized by the state as being in a Marriage. 

  • Cheslie Danielle <3

    Love is Love .. regardless of other people’s opinions.  I have a strong relationship with my God & haven’t let anything get in the way of that.  Being judgmental of others is easy, but if you say you are a Christian you should be able to show God’s love by loving EVERYONE.  Hating homosexuals and judging their lifestyle isn’t Christian at all!  As a woman, I’m going to be devoted to my loving girlfriend for the rest of my life whether or not we are Legally able to become married or not.  It would just be wonderful if when the time comes we can be legitimately recognized by the state as being in a Marriage. 

    • Topone1

      I dont hate homosexuals, I dont judge them. 
      Believe it or not, as a Christians, I can disagree with someone and still love them.   

      • Ona2684

        How can you discriminate against someone you love? If you actually love everyone and dont judge then don’t you think they should be afforded the same rights as you?

        • Topone1

          The gay community and it’s supporters like to throw around words like discriminate as if not accepting same seix is discrimination.  Can you tell me when I have discriminated?  No, you cant.  I have never discriminated, prejudged a gay person.  By not agreeing with same sex marriage is not discrimination. Im not prejudging a gay person because of their sexuality. Im disagreeing with their lifestyle b/c it’s opposed to my religious belief.  The guilt trip doesnt work with me

      • Ona2684

        How can you discriminate against someone you love? If you actually love everyone and dont judge then don’t you think they should be afforded the same rights as you?

    • Topone1

      I dont hate homosexuals, I dont judge them. 
      Believe it or not, as a Christians, I can disagree with someone and still love them.   

    • JustAshley

      If you know anything about God then you need to go and read your bible. Think about it- do you really think Jesus and the disciples walked this earth NOT judging anyone by the word of God? You “knock off” Christians are a joke. 

      • reese

        No, but jesus and God are the ones who are supposed to judge.  In the bible I read it says he always has punishment in place for the sinners.

    • JustAshley

      If you know anything about God then you need to go and read your bible. Think about it- do you really think Jesus and the disciples walked this earth NOT judging anyone by the word of God? You “knock off” Christians are a joke. 

  • RedButterfly81

    I have friends who are gay, so I support gay marriage. Everybody deserves happiness in their lives no matter what race, religious background, sexuality, etc. It’s 2012 people, live with it!

  • Torontochick

    I think the fights are similar, yes.

  • Caribbean in the house

    too bad for afro-american negro’s, if the clu clux clan can’t rid of them maybe the gays could & that’s why afro-american negro’s is the leading cause of aids in america. that’s why their stereo type programs B.E.T.V. always advertise wrap it up. that’s why i don’t mess with a afro-american negro female.

    • Crimjust

      You are truly uneducated and ignorant. First and foremost, you need to learn to spell anyone reading your comments have unwittingly grown dumber for taking a few seconds to read them. Secondly, you have fallen your ignorant self into the same trap others have, I am an American who happens to be black not African American. Although many enjoy this claim, I stand by being an American regardless of the color of my skin. Stop posting your ignorant comments until you can learn to spell. Finally, as a well educated American who is black and married to a wonderful blonde haired blue eyes Caucasian male, I would not stop to wipe my feet on trash like you. You should know that all black men and women do not have diseases and quite a few of us are well educated. Perhaps you would do well staying wherever you are and keeping your mouth shut as you reap ignorance every time you open it. I do agree with you on the stupid shows that many blacks watch but then again that is their choice not yours.

  • Lolaallen

    being black is not a choice.  being gay is.  one has nothing to do with the other.  comparing my struggles as a black woman to same sex marriage is an insult! While I love everybody, I do not support same sex marriage.  Its wrong.  God created man to be with woman and vice versa.  Anything else goes completely against his natural order.  God created marriage. 

    • F3ral Anarchy

      so for all the non believers in the world what do you say to them?  should i have to tolerate “bible driven laws” simply because the american govt is hand in hand with the church?  because marriage is “created by god” does that make my marraige not valid because im a non believer?

      • Gelly

        If I dont agree with same sex marriage, you shouldnt expect me to support it.

      • Msmykimoto2u

        Earthly, no it doesnt. (Well depending on your sexual orientation and what state you live in, then maybe)

      • reese

        Also they all have different beliefs.  The bible speaks of men being married to more than one wife.  And that is not allowed.  So they choose to follow what they want to in the bible.  I know all these good christans weren’t all virgins before they were married.

    • Tami

      so let’s say being gay IS a choice…so is being Christian.  so your choice trumps someone elses?? Live and let live.  Don’t support same-sex marriage…but your opinions do not override the rights of consenting adults who want to marry.  

      also, how do you know being gay is a choice? is being straight a choice?
      if being gay is a choice, so is being straight. 

    • Tami

      so let’s say being gay IS a choice…so is being Christian.  so your choice trumps someone elses?? Live and let live.  Don’t support same-sex marriage…but your opinions do not override the rights of consenting adults who want to marry.  

      also, how do you know being gay is a choice? is being straight a choice?
      if being gay is a choice, so is being straight. 

    • Guest

      God did not create marriage, you moron. Also, being gay is not a choice. Just so, so, stupid. 

      • Noauthority1l

        yeah, that’s the way to get support.  Insult others and their believes…

  • Belle-Sexie Canuck

    She needs to go sit down somewhere, because marriage is blessed between a man and a women.

    • F3ral Anarchy

      yes MARRAIGE between a man and a woman is biblical.  but in the end thats not what the issue is.  the issue is homosexuals being able to have by LAW the same rights as heteros.  folks need to learn in absolute seperation of church and state. Im an athiest so what does faith, religion or spirituality have to do with me when it comes to civil rights?

  • http://www.pyramidoftruth.com/ Nebankh

    Yes interracial marriages and gay marriages are similar in that they are both un-natural and a joke. The interracial marriage phenomena opened a pandora box. Now plenty Black males have taken the bait. Since tehey are going down a slippery slope, what kind of sinful thing will be next?

    • F3ral Anarchy

      interesting…i never knew it was unnatural for 2 humans of the opposite sex to get together because of skin color.  same sex…i could mildly get your point…but opposite sex and different ethnicities….really?

    • Caribbean in the house

      too bad for afro-american negro’s, what would puzzy dr.martin luther king would say about afro-american negro’s are gay.

      • Lagois32

        You sir works for this website. That’s the only way your crazy comments get put up and my comments have to wait for (your) approval

        • http://www.facebook.com/RosarioRed Rosario Stefania Scarsci

          I wonder too. If I found out that he/she works for this site I will no longer be visiting this site.

          • Caribbean in the house

            i am a he & don’t visit the site stupid afro-american negro b!tch

      • Msmykimoto2u

        Damn, I thought they banned your a**, finally

    • reese

      Odd you say this.  Do you that their has been ir and gay relationships thoughout history.  Either is nothing new and society has surveyed dispite this “un-natural” relationships.  So don’t act like the sky is falling now because of this new thing ir.  Gay goes back as far as ir relationships and one thing doesn’t cause the other.

    • Lillias

      You are the worst person ever. Not only is what you said wrong and mind-numbingly stupid, you yourself were dumb enough to bring it to a public forum and let everyone know how ill-informed and and ignorant you are. Congrats.

    • Leanne

      Who said it is un-natural? Did your parents teach you that? I guess their parents taught them that as well then, and so on. I agree that being gay is not the normal response to sexuality, but interracial relations is another ball game. Oh, I am pretty sure that my black man has a pole, and he sticks it in my hole. I am pretty sure that is the way sex works. Right? And if it was un-natural how is it that we are able to have beautiful babies? Something that is not natural is not able to produce.
       You know the truth is that you are able to believe what you want, but just because you feel a certain way does not make it wrong for others to feel different. Unless you are god that is. .So are you god..oh, you’re not? And to back my claim that my god doesn’t mind interracial marriage..Moses was married to an Ethopian!  My god was mad that others didn’t like it based on race. Need the verse: Number 12:1-16. So I am going to keep my husband despite the fact that “you” think it is not natural, and continue to have very real and natural children with him!

  • Pahleeze

    I am not against same sex marriages nearly as much as I am against ANYONE utilizing the struggles of Black Americans being oppressed for years and comparing it with ANY agenda politically motivated or not. STOP USING OUR HISTORY AND COMPARING IT WITH OTHER SH!T BECAUSE IT IS NOT THE SAME!!! and that is all

    • Nia

      *applause*

    • Nia

      *applause*

    • It is the same fight

      Oppression is oppression. It is a valid comparison, because like before, we once again face ourselves debating “separate but equal”. This country wants to give gay americans rights but make them different from straight americans’, e.g. civil unions versus marriage. The comparison is valid because it the same fight at heart, equality.  It is this idea, that all our histories are so very different, that keep us all divided and make it easier for those in power to protect the injustices that currently exist. 

      • Imagine all the people

        This isn’t just directed at you Pahleeze, but how is it not the same? Like It Is The Same Fight says Oppression is Oppression. We as black people need to stop acting like we own oppression. No one doubts that we are black,everyone can clearly see that we are, but if you’re gay people doubt that. Nobody says people aren’t born black, but gay people are killing themselves because people are telling them they aren’t what they are. I’m not gay but I think gays have just as much right to get married as anyone else, you can’t use the bible as an excuse because America is supposed to be a free country. In the black community we have men on the down low all because we don’t want to accept the fact that people are born gay, well guess what they are so get over it already. I’m sick of people hiding behind the bible, especially when they aren’t living their life right. What people believe the bible says has noting to do with people’s civil rights, that’s why we have the separation of church and state. The bible says a lot of things the we don’t follow anyone. We get tattoos, we eat pork, we have sex before marriage, and work on the Sabbath,but when it comes to gays it’s “Oh no the bible says it’s wrong” Stop throwing stones because we are ALL sinners

  • HONEY LOVE

    Let ANYONE marry whomeever they chose to marry. Let them be judged when their time comes. If everyone paid more attention to their lives and their bedrooms, the world would be such a happier place

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