Reasons Why Black Women Don’t Date White Men

January 4th, 2012 - By MN Editor

Interracial dating has been one of the biggest conversations within the black community. Black men have made it no secret their liking to white women. Regina King recently raised the argument that we as black women still have not become completely comfortable dating outside our race. I recently did a survey on a group of black women regarding their reasons for not dating men who are not of color. Through my findings it seems as though black women aren’t actually opposef to dating outside of their race. Part of the dilemma lies in women of color thinking that men outside of their race won’t be attracted to them. Below are the 5 top reasons black women are apprehensive about going there with a white guy.

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  • batk427

    @Mark Howard thank you. The blk women who are very interested in white guys needed to here this. I know my days of waiting for a blk prince charming are done. Time is slipping away too fast. I did try.

  • what?

    This made me feel like black women don’t date white men because they have low self esteem

  • Orly

    Out of a list of pathetic reasons to exclude a whole race of men, there has probably never been a more pathetic vomit of excuses ever committed to posterity.

  • Orly

    Out of a list of pathetic reasons to exclude a whole race of men, there has probably never been a more pathetic vomit of excuses ever committed to posterity.

  • Orly

    Out of a list of pathetic reasons to exclude a whole race of men, there has probably never been a more pathetic vomit of excuses ever committed to posterity.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Mark-Howard/100003889374839 Mark Howard

    This is so wrong. I’m not a black woman, but let me tell the black women out there that they are wrong about us white guys. WE DO like black women. The hair, the color, the curves. You are unique! White guys are shy to most women despite race. In most cases all you have to do is give a white guy the look that it’s ok and everything will fall into place. Yes, there’s a handful of white guys who are either too shallow or not interested, but a lot of us are interested. I’ll admit that when I enter a room full off mostly white women and one black woman, the black woman catches my eye immediately. No, it’s not jungle fever. I hate that term. It’s just my preference. The look, the eyes, the confidence, and sometimes the cocky/flirty attitude catches my attention. I just feel more natural and comfortable being around them. When a black woman rubs up against me I just melt. Anyway, keep an open mind cause we are out there. More than you think.

    • http://www.facebook.com/msfeistysmith Regina Risque Smith

      If there are some out there then howcome I cant find one for me :-

      • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100004346231169 John Phillips

        Regina what state are you in?

      • JPW

        LIke Mark said, white guys, like me, often prefer black women but are shy to approach, thinking they will not be interested or get mad. As a result we approach what we are used to, ( white women ) even though it is not what we prefer. Regina,show interest toward a white man you are interested in and watch the sparks fly!

    • nikole

      then where the hell are they cuz i am looking for love i would date a white boy but they seem to lacking in the department

    • Ashley

      True. Dating anyone has everything to do with who you are comfortable with, confidence, common interests, and of course physical attraction to certain features.

    • besides

      i agree. i like men, regardless of race. i have had white men hit on me and i have dated different races. i think they do like me because i am slim. i like them because they always have something to talk about that would be new for me. just a different lingo and attitude. for those who stick to their own race, you are selling yourself short.

    • TexasGal007

      Sooo true! I love your post. I’m a Black female who married a pretty fly White guy! LOL Well fly to me anyway, he pretty much said exactly what you said. Of course that was when we first met and started talking. We have now been married for 5yrs, been together for over six and have one super beautiful little girl. Might try for another one someday! He loves my curves, loves my natural hair. He loves everything about me and while I should admitt it to him more, I know he would lay down and die for me if need be. He has a whole lot of love in his heart and I am glad we are together. I’m a blessed woman! I dated a few other White men before him and they all told me y’all notice! :)

  • Cris

    The person who wrote this article is clearly a huge racist. Some white men do find black women attractive as do some black women find white men attractive. I actually see it all the time. Color does not dictate beauty, a person does, physically and emotionally.

  • FF

    I think white guys with brown hair, blue eyes and olive skin are the hottest on the planet! I also love Spanish guys (who are white)

  • trey

    its only 4 million black american man!

  • trey

    its only 4 million black american man!

  • Guest

    I get hit on by black women just as much as white women, I also live in St. Louis. This area is probably the most segregated left in the country. The southern part of the area is mostly white, and the northern part is mostly black. The point I am making is that even living in an area like this, I still find it hard to believe that a majority of black women are not attracted to white men.

  • trey

    white men view dating black women as being disgraceful. And as for black women having to work harder than whites, what a joke, affirmative action took care of the need to be qualified. The only people more entitled than blacks are American Indians. In both instances we are paying for things that happened to ancestors that no one met.

  • Andrew

    These types of articles make me sick. Race is a social construct and an outdated one at that. Making blanket statements that “White people do/think this” and “black people do/think that” is the very reason we still have racial problems in our world today. By perpetuating the idea that skin pigment plays a role in how we think and who we are, you are preventing the human race from coming together and treating people as individuals. As a white man who has dated mostly black women, I cannot begin to tell you how much pain I have dealt with because of this outdated idea that just because someone’s skin looks a certain way, they must think and act a certain way. I fear for this world, and our entire future generations. We must wake up and recognize Mr Luther King wanted us all to be colorblind. To treat each other as individuals. Articles that include blanket statements regarding one “race” or another, and then making statements and assumptions about that “Race” are inherently and inarguably racist. Please everyone, follow MLK’s dream. Drop the race talk, completely and altogether and love each other as human beings and for the soul and character and individuality we each possess. I don’t want my children and grandchildren to grow up in a society where articles like this still exist.

  • jamss

    hey im a white female and i’ve NEVER been approached by a white guy either!

  • Justin

    To all the black women out there, please don’t be ashamed of yourselves, you are undoubtedly the most beautiful creatures to grace this planet. I’m a white guy, and I love each and every aspect of your body–from your bodacious curves to your curly hair–and your very warm and colorful personalities!

    Black women for the win!

  • railbaron62

    I am a white man and have been attracted to black women since jr high. At that time there was still the stigma not to date outside one’s race. I am still running into brick walls though with some black women hesitant to date a white man. I would like to find a black lady in Oklahoma to fall in love with.

  • michael145

    I’m a little late to this conversation but I just saw the article now. Truthfully I think it is on both sides. I think many times black women don’t notice white men and white men don’t notice black women. I’m a white man and I go out to clubs and from what I’ve seen its very rare that these two groups are attracted to each other. I don’t get a sense that there’s any animosity between black women and white men, I just think we don’t even notice each other. Its kind of like a woman in her 50s and a man in his thirties in a club. Despite what Hollywood would have you believe I rarely see that happen in real life. You don’t hate each other or have any bad will towards each other its just that neither party is interested in the other. I think its like that with black women and white men, no ill will, just not interested on both sides. Are there occassionally exceptions to this rule? Sure. There are occassionally exceptions to ever rule but I think in general that’s what’s going on in my opinion.

    • deb

      I think part of it is both groups have been programmed and are USED to just ignoring one another. It’s like a guy seeing his friend’s sister as just a little sister but then one day after spending more alone time with her, he starts to really notice her.

      There are just way too many attractive black women and white men for anyone to just sweep what we see with “oh they don’t notice one another”. I do think things are changing though with younger people. I came across a tumblr that featured everyday, normal black women/white men in relationships and there was an endless array of them, I was kind of surprised. Anyway most of them where pretty young…teenager and young adults (early-mid 20′s). I also hear BW/WM dating is the norm in areas like the NW and Philly. I love IR pairing of all sorts though because it shows people are widening the scope of who they can date and it’s better for their chances in finding relationships! I’m even noticing an increase in asian men and black women dating which I hardly even imagined (sadly enough).

  • Bianca

    I almost forgot. Women with curves, regardless of their skin color, will eventually be fat one day. Who wants that?

    • AZWhiteGuy

      Those of us who love BIG, BLACK women, that’s who.

  • Bianca

    Wow! This is a terrible article. I am a black woman with dreadlocks that is currently dating a white man. He loves my hair and doesn’t want me to get rid of it. I have no reason to be intimidated by him. As for the education thing, I have more education right now than he does. I’m trying to figure out who in the heck did you survey. It is not 1940, its 2012.

  • abeeb

    there pussys are to big and streached out

    • http://hizzandherzorganics.com/ nelson

      I think the words you are looking for ABEEB, are ‘their’ and ‘stretched’. TRY USING PROPER ENGLISH WHEN GOING OUT YOUR WAY TO BE INSULTING!! It will keep you from looking like a COMPLETE DUMBASS! Thank you.

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