Reasons Why Black Women Don’t Date White Men

January 4th, 2012 - By MN Editor

Interracial dating has been one of the biggest conversations within the black community. Black men have made it no secret their liking to white women. Regina King recently raised the argument that we as black women still have not become completely comfortable dating outside our race. I recently did a survey on a group of black women regarding their reasons for not dating men who are not of color. Through my findings it seems as though black women aren’t actually opposef to dating outside of their race. Part of the dilemma lies in women of color thinking that men outside of their race won’t be attracted to them. Below are the 5 top reasons black women are apprehensive about going there with a white guy.

Tags:

, , , , , ,
More from StyleBlazer
More from MommyNoire

Comment Disclaimer

Comments that contain profane or derogatory language, video links or exceed 200 words will require approval by a moderator before appearing in the comment section. XOXO-MN

← Older Comments
Newer Comments →
  • Worldpeacecutie

    Statistics are a lot of times off and some are just wrong. I believe for the BW who have never been aproached by a WM it’s about location, where they live, how much they get out and places they go when they go out. As far as appearance just be confident, love yourself and your curves / hair. Always try to better yourself in life anyway possible. I am a BW happily married and my WM husband is right here agreeing with this comment, and he also adds: ”If you dont put yourself (safely) out there, mingle and be noticed as an open minded woman, how will you give yourself a fair chance. Eventually the right WM will aproach you, if its meant to be it will; regardless of any racial barrier you may or may not experience. And high self worth is always attractive.”

  • Mwenya

    Since when was a survey of six women worth publishishing? I am less then impressed by the regurgitated rhetoric.

  • Derrick Witherspoon

    ”
    We are naturally attracted to black men but the majority of black men now and days marry outside of their race”—————-

    Why was my comment deleted? Only 10% of black males are married to white women, it is totally inaccurate to say that the “majority” of black males are out here with white women. All of internet media seems to be pushing to get whites and non-whites in bed with each other….

    Why don’t I ever see an article about the whopping 40 and 30 percent of Asian and Hispanic women, respectively, who marry white men…and that Asian and Hispanic males should look to black women (you know since “the majority” of the brothers allegedly are out with white women, or on the “down low”, or in prison) to compensate? 

    It simply doesn’t happen. All “media outlets”, including the ones supposedly “for” black people seemed hell bent on promoting sexual intercourse between white men and non-white women…and since their number has already worked on Latinos and Asians, and to some degree Native Americans, they are now turning to black women.

    • angieb71

       Black women should sate whom ever they want tooand do not worry about what others say and think about them . Their are other men in the world. 

  • Derrick Witherspoon

     ”We are naturally attracted to black men but the majority of black men now and days marry outside of their race.”Last time I checked, only 10% of black men married women who are not black. Just another black male bashing propaganda story IMO.

  • Barbaralee1146

    Women are sometimes fragile, want a real-man to protect you? Come –uniformedkiss.c0m–,
    here you will meet lots of servicemen and find friendship, love, romance,
    marriage or even more with those armed forces, police, navy, security, medical,
    ambulance, prison, air crew and fire fighters! You will not regret for dating with
    military personnel. Just sign up and nothing will lose if you don’t like it. Thanks.

  • Hannah

    Hi All,
    Actually I don’t think this article reflect us -Black British Women- I don’t know about the Americans… Most of my friends, people I met would describe me as STUNNING Lady .. I have been approached by different races : Asians, Black nd White… I RATHER to date BLACK or Mix Race Because TO ME they are more ATTRACTIVE..its just matter of Preference you like Tea , I like Coffee…

    I have been approached by highly Educated, Wealthy…etc White Gentlemen, but although  I do respect ALL, I like black or Mix-race.. 99.9% of th black  ladies I know just like me; feel ‘Home’ with our men…IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH ALL THE ”’ INSECURITIES”’ your article reflects… I worked, studied in places where I was the ONLY black and my Lecturers, Managers, Colleagues …etc were always checking me out… articles like this  , with due respect 2 u, are just UNFAIR and reflect a tiny minority of black women…

    Thanks,
    Proud to be Black 
     
     

  • Whatev

    What a depressing and downright f*cked up article. And where is the fact published that “most” Black men MARRY outside their race? I have heard exactly the opposite. They may try the other flavors, but when it comes time to marry, they far and wide marry Black. In places like Los Angeles (where I am) it may seem they are all selling out but according to real facts that is not so.

    One reason you left out is we have no desire to wash out our melanin/features in our bloodline, and want to continue the Black race. If we can’t have a Black man and Black kids then some women won’t want another. Which lead me to another obvious point you left out.

    Black women have not forgotten history. Many don’t want to “Open up” to a white man, because of the genocide and destruction of our African culture, and abuse in America.

    This self-hate/selloutedness is a mess. I pray I find just one Black soldier.

    • Kiaser

      People who are willing to marry regardless of race are actually exhibited to opposite of self hatredness.  So many bw are so willing to be by the black man’s side but according to 2008 US Census Bureau, 22% of bm are married to or cohabitating with non bw.  And the more educated a man is the more likely he is to marry non bw.  You exhibit self hate b/c you are willing to not have children if you can not have a bm. You hate yourself so much that you are willing life of lonliness for a group of men who dont believe the same as you. I love myself enough to know by not turning down the love from my white husband (in hopes of beling with one black soldier) that I will have the life I want.  I love myself enough to know that Im not going to count on a group of men who are not providing for their women and in high amounts not choosing me although our skin colors match.  Women like you stress self hate and selloutness while being 40+ still hoping for your king.  Your king, especially in LA, isnt checking for you. 

      • Kiaser

        Read the comments from the bm on this post, they are not in support of you.  They are throwing women of our color (the same color as them) under the bus. 

        • angieb71

            Dear SIsters
                                            Their are too many men too worry about BLACKMEN!!!!!!!

      • Derrick Witherspoon

        ”
          So many bw are so willing to be by the black man’s side but according to 2008 US Census Bureau, 22% of bm are married to or cohabitating with non bw.”

        How is 22% (1 and 5) the majority?

        • Kiaser

          Did I say it was the majority?  No.  I didnt mention anything about MAJORITY.

        • angieb71

          FORGET ABOUT BLACKMEN WHO CARES!!!!!!!!!!

      • angieb71

         YOU ARE SO RIGHT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • Anony

    Sincerely, I found this article useless and a gross generalisation. Why did you not just write at the top, in my own opinion cus honestly unless your sources are the girls you meet in the hairdressers, I find these ‘reasons’ ridiculous and untrue. Black women do date white men, that is the women who aren’t blinded by what colour they’re skin is to put themselves down for bein the way God made them. You first four ‘reasons’ or should I say excuses are merely insecurities that a black woman may have that would prevent her from pursuing a white man, and even at that – they’re an assumption. You assume white men are not going to know about black women’s hair – we’re in the 21st Century, multiculturalism is everywhere so that’s a ridiculous assumption. You assume a white man is going to only want to date a girl of his own stature/class; again an assumption. And we all know that class is not something you can buy or learn in a classroom, it’s in the way you carry and value yourself. Treat yourself like a crumpled up 5 pound note, and you’ll surely act like one too. You say that all the black men are interacially dating, is there an invisible barrier that stops black women from socialising with other races and therefore opening up the opportunities to form an interracial friendship even?? After reading this useless diatribe of useless, outdated, closeminded nonsense I figured out the essential problem. Why are you suggesting that there have to be reasons for why a black woman might not date a white man, a hispanic man or even a black african dating a black european? Surely we should respect ourselves for who we are and date whoever we see fit, regardless of what colour they’re skin is or how much money they make. I would never let my hair stop me from going out with a guy, that’s just ridiculous. And I say this as a black, african woman who has lived in 3 continents and dated guys; I’ll not reduce them to the colour of they’re skin because it’s about time we all started to look further than the shade God painted us!

  • Guest

    So Black women are fat, dumb, poor and have major hair issues … got it… 95% of this article was what’s wrong with Black women or how we don’t “measure up.” Am I supposed to think I’m actually special because a Caucasian man finds me attractive? Is that what it’s come to seeking validation of beauty/self-worth from an inter-racial relationship. Really? 

  • NikoWozz

    I am a 27 years old doctor,mature and beautiful. and now i am seeking a good man who can give me real love, so i got a sername Andromeda2002 on  Agedate.СòM, a nice and free place for younger women and older men,or older women and younger men, to interact with each other.Maybe you wanna check out or tell your friends.

  • Msddre

    LOL! go somewhere, fido.

    • ClassyInHtown

      Sure Scooby

  • Alexis

    I am a very dark-skinned black woman and have all shades of men approaching me. I do mean ALL shades. As I get older, white men are starting to approach me just as much as black men. I do prefer black men, but have dated a lot of shades. I will admit I discriminate, but in height only. If he’s tall and approaches me with respect, the chances of him getting my number are high.

    • Rick

      Apparently I don’t fit the statistical norm. I’m a white guy and I am much more attracted to black women. Of course I like women in general, but I’d rather date black women when possible.  

         

  • http://hizzandherzorganics.com/ nelson

    The hilarity of all this is I posted 2 entries that had to be ‘APPROVED’ before posting, And I guess they didn’t meet the requirements. ITS ridiculous because CARIBBEAN IN THE HOUSE & 1 of these ANONYMOUS’ are saying any and everything they want, AND ITS GETTING PUBLISHED. Well I’m just going to try to make my point once more, but I know it wont be posted. The facts are THE CARIBBEAN ISLANDS were enslaved by Europeans and given your freedom after abolition. ITS A FACT!! So whether they say it to your face or not, Africans consider ya’ll Eupo— whatever your Island is TOO!! And Africans really shouldn’t talk $%^T!! White people run South Africa & many many other countries of Africa. THEY CAN’T STAND UP TO THE MAN, so they take their issues out on American Blacks. Just like the Caribbean/Island FOLKS. They can’t talk s%^t to ‘THE MAN’ so they hate on American Blacks. BUT maybe soon they will get over all the SELF HATE they spit out!! I’m only commenting through you, MIKIMII cause for some reason I’ve been trying to past today and I can’t seem to get through. I LIKE YOUR POST< SO this is not to you. ITS JUST A GENERAL POST TO EVERYONE!!

    • Caribbean in the house

      wrong stupid b!tch you dumb afro-american negro, go stick to the cotton feild because you don’t know my culture. we were not enslaved by the european & the clansmen don’t exisist in the 3rd world brainless girl. it was the spaniards took us into slavery, from africa to the caribbeans/westindies. then they [the spaniards killed off the arawak indians & put us in chains. then the british people came around & challenged the spaniards in a war & the british won & have the spaniards running. then the british took over slavery & enslaved the caribbean/westindies people.

                                                                                                    you have the nerve to talk about the real africans from africa when they took down several black hawks which you negro’s couldn’t because you afro-american negro’s were busy on the cotton field picking it with no benefits, pay or 401K plan. go see or google the movie in “black hawk down” its a true story. dumb broad.

    • Anonymous

      Oh ..are you tryna get started again…?
      You say plenty of shiit too and you just hate the fact no ones going to put up with it…if you can’t stand the heat stay the F out the kitchen sweetie!

  • http://hizzandherzorganics.com/ nelson

    I didn’t have a problem with anything in your post. I liked it. But MY POSTS kept getting denied, so I tried with the first post after my last one. SORRY!!

  • http://hizzandherzorganics.com/ nelson

    THE HILARITY of all this is, I have posted at least 3 entries that were evidently, TOO MUCH FOR WHOEVER runs this MESS!! BUT somehow CARIBBEAN IN THE HOUSE & the ANONYMOUS that keeps posting the most negative things they can come up with ISN’T BEING CENSORED!! That’s ludicrous. BUT anyway I JUST WANT THE ONE POINT I MADE TO BE POSTED. OF COURSE since they censored me twice, most likely they will again. But I can try. TO ANYONE LISTENING, when brought from Africa we as a whole were separated & sent to different corners of the earth WIT A MASSA SUH!! I hope no Islanders or Haitians actually believe you decided as a people to rise up and migrate from Africa. BECAUSE its BS!! That being said, IF ANY AFRICANS are calling American Blacks, European Negros….. REST ASSURED THEY ARE CALLING YOU European —Whatever Island you are from!! Believe it. After all, Africans know better than some historians the FACTS THAT slavery being abolished is what allowed ya’ll to ‘TAKE BACK’ your nation. ITS A FACT< LOOK IT UP!! And Africans don't need to speak on American Blacks, with their nose turned up. White people RUN SOUTH AFRICA & a lot of the other countries in Africa. I guess that's how they make themselves feel good. THEY ARE TOO AFRAID to stand up to 'THE MAN' so they take their frustrations out on American Black. Just like the people from the Islands, THEY NEED A SCAPEGOAT!! ANYWAY I've probably wasted my time, cause this post probably wont go through again.

    • Caribbean in the house

      wrong stupid b!tch you dumb afro-american negro, go stick to the cotton feild because you don’t know my culture. we were not enslaved by the european & the clansmen don’t exisist in the 3rd world brainless girl. it was the spaniards took us into slavery, from africa to the caribbeans/westindies. then they [the spaniards killed off the arawak indians & put us in chains. then the british people came around & challenged the spaniards in a war & the british won & have the spaniards running. then the british took over slavery & enslaved the caribbean/westindies people.

      you have the nerve to talk about the real africans from africa when they took down several black hawks which you negro’s couldn’t because you afro-american negro’s were busy on the cotton field picking it with no benefits, pay or 401K plan. go see or google the movie in “black hawk down” its a true story. dumb broad.     

      • http://hizzandherzorganics.com/ nelson

        AAAAWWWWWWW!! DID I STRIKE A NERVE??!!! Ha Ha HA HAAAAAAAAAAAAA!! GOOD!

        • http://www.facebook.com/RosarioRed Rosario Stefania Scarsci

          Lol, Nelson. How is he allowed to post with all the cursing? I am starting to believe that he is an employee of MN because there is no way in the world that he;d get past moderation with the first sentence alone. 

          • http://hizzandherzorganics.com/ nelson

            I think so TOO. He has to be in order to get away with those posts.

  • http://hizzandherzorganics.com/ nelson

    GOOD, MY POST DID GET THROUGH.

  • http://hizzandherzorganics.com/ nelson

    TOO AFRAID to stand up to ‘THE MAN’ so they take their frustrations out on American Black. Just like the people from the Islands, THEY NEED A SCAPEGOAT!!

  • http://hizzandherzorganics.com/ nelson

    AND I’m just speaking to whoever needs to know. I’M NOT TALKING TO ANYONE SPECIFIC!!

  • Caribbean in the house

    don’t date any afro-american negro ho white man, not unless you’re raping them like your fore fathers did back then.

    • Hawk

      You mean like their fore-fathers raped YOUR fore-mothers, hence your sorry and pathetic existence!

      I’ve been reading your comments on this article and frankly, YOU ARE A DISGRACE TO YOUR RACE!

      Now do us all a favour and jump in front of a speeding train!

  • http://hizzandherzorganics.com/ nelson

    YOU TRULY ARE A SAD MIXED UP INDIVIDUAL!! So this definitely will be my last post RESPONDING TO YOU!! I refuse to let you ‘GET YOUR ROCKS OFF’ by insulting me, because you are not worth the time. BUT UM I am quite sure your ‘actual name’ isn’t CARIBBEAN IN THE HOUSE! If so then you are the one with the idiot @$$ mother. No disrespect Ma’ am whoever you are. BUT I THINK IT’S QUITE OBVIOUS that people have screen names. IT’S my last name f@#$%ng DUMB@$$!! I’m  Regina…. Too bad that isn’t GHETTO OR whatever you want to call ALL AMERICAN BLACKS. You’ve heard of Queen Elizabeth Regina?? Look it up. She was real. But you don’t know & can’t know how each and every one of us live. IT’S NONSENSE. You are up here going in on Black Americans like ALL THE BLACK PEOPLE you’ve met have done something negative to you. But That’s Not Possible. It’s in fact impossible and just ridiculous. UNLESS YOU HAVE ONLY MET 1 or 2. OR MAYBE ON FAMILY!! Man get out of here with that crap. You hate BLACK AMERICANS because we wont accept why were here. You’ve conformed and so have ALL THESES PEOPLE you say feel the same way about us as you do. ANYWAY all and all your opinion is just that. So have it; I have my opinion. BUT post what you want from here on out. I’m done responding to you. HAVE A NICE LIFE MISTER CARIBBEAN IN THE HOUSE! Nice chattin wit ya!! I guest I can give you a lil Ebonics as you say we all use. HAHAHA!! You are funny though. Your views are at least….

    • Nointerruptions

      The reason why he continues to troll this site is b/c he gets attention.  Of people ignore and not respond he will not choose MN as a forum to express his ignorance.  You say that he is not worth your time, but you spent time responding to him.  IGNORE HIM.

      • Caribbean in the house

        are you up for the challenge afro-american negro, come i have something for you then. behold….i hold in my right hand a NOOSE ready for your neck man, please help me because my noose is starving & it needs to be fed o.k. punk. its favorite course meal is negro neck with hot sauce or barbecue sauce so if you could help me help you that would be just fine & dandy. hurry, it will die on me & i don’t know what to do. i supposed i could go on wefare & get foodstamps or wic check but i don’t think they have negro neck in the supermarket & i don’t think my noose will eat dog food.

    • Caribbean in the house

      go drink a cup of kum afro-american negro

    • Caribbean in the house

      thats right stupid b!tch, drink my cup of seed & run, i don’t need your mouth anymore so peace out. you see my caribbean/westindies people, i’m winning the war for you because i’m here to protect you. this is why i stick by my introduction by saying……….

      my words are like BRUCE LEE, i can’t be defeated, my encouragement & bravery is as strong as SAMSON & my heart is as heartless as PHARAOH’S heart.

      under any circumstances no afro-american negro’s is a match for me because they always run in the end when they challenge me so therefore if you NEGRO’S diss my caribbean/westindies people again prepare for my consequences & wrath upon you. to bad this broad won’t talk to me anymore because her mouth piece was good on my wood.

← Older Comments
Newer Comments →