If this article is a snapshot of how Black women think and view of themselves, if the survey is legit, then that means BW need an self-esteem over hall. Black women need to stop looking in all the wrong places for self esteem building. We have to remember that we live in a society that is dominated by Western culture, ideals, values, and norms. No, we are not popular, and don’t expect to be even with some and I say some Black men. But that doesn’t mean by nature we are not of great quality, value, or importance. We, as Black women, mistakenly equate popularity with quality. We should not do that to ourselves. A prime example of why this thinking is faulty, look at the current music scene. Think of a list of no talent singers and entertainers out here and think of how popular they are and not think of the artists who you know are far more talented and their work is of high quality and they are nearly unknown and not even appreciated for their work. My point exactly. Remember, no human being could get to the planet without a Black woman. If you don’t get that comment, look at the history of humankind. Next, a quiet kept secret in the medical and science community shows and proves that we produce higher levels of hormones–that guy who put out that article that stated Black women were the most unattractive woman based on her producing more testosterone didn’t tell you this fact. His research also failed to mention that we are one of the few racial/ethnic groups on the planet that produce higher estrogen levels–more so than White women and Hispanic Women. Our counterparts in producing high estrogen levels are Asian women (hence, considered by some the most feminine women on the planet). So, now what does that make us? I leave that to you to answer. Furthermore, BW typically display sexual characteristics that is considered highly desirable on a woman–full lips, high cheek bones, full and round hips, and an hourglass or pear shape frame (when we are in good shape). We, as Black women, have our own unique look, features, body plan, and we should play that up and not down. We have our own market, and we should appeal to that market. We fail when we try to appeal to a market that is not our own. Just because a man is Black, doesn’t automatically put him in your market and if he is non-Black doesn’t automatically mean he is not in your market. Not telling you who to date, just simply stating the facts. I know I am long winded, but I just wanted to let it out. We are whining and crying over men-who is not in our market (i.e. Black, White, Asian) and we ignore the men in our market(i.e. Black, White, Asian) and we are trying to physically alter our appearance and behaviors and what not to appeal to men who are not in our market. That is wrong. We need to start thinking more like a business. Seriously. For example, Bentley’s do not compete with BMW’s. American muscle cars do not compete with luxury cars. If a person likes luxury cars, no matter how much you jazz up the sports car, the person is not going to want it because it is not a luxury car brand. Some people prefer American muscle over luxury cars. Some prefer sports cars over luxury cars. No group is better than the other, just different. The Bentley corporation knows its market and appeals to its market to be competitive with others in its class. The same with Dodge. Dodge competes with others in its class to compete in the same market. My point, White women, Black women, Asian women, etc… are not in the same class, and, therefore, do not share the same market- we typically have a different phenotype (their are some exceptions), we are not the same on a genetic or biological level, or culturally (some of us are not as acculturated into the dominant American culture as others in our ethnic group). Therefore, it is a lie when many men say that we are the same and they are wrong when they make comparisons. Men know we are not the same, they don’t consider us the same, this is nonsense they say to us to make us more compliant to what they want. In other words, be the best that you can be, know your assets and build on them, offer that unique brand of you within your class. Thus, If there is some competition for men, which I don’t think there is any, it should be with those in my class-other Black women. Non-Black women are simply associates, friends, mates, hang out buddies, etc…I see them as no competition based on our differences and experiences and culture. Even in attitudes. Attitudes are subjective–at least the perception of one’s attitude. Also, attitude is shaped by culture and experience. To expect for the Black woman to have the same attitude (i.e. outlook of the world, life, mental disposition) as an Asian or White woman is completely asinine and ridiculous. Also, many BM go overboard and a lot of times it is due to their own brand of chauvinism to accuse the majority of BW having bad/negative attitudes. Good attitude to certain Black men who attack BW for their attitudes means women you are–submissive. For many of these men, to even buck their perceived authority is having a “bad attitude”. Yes, there are emasculating BW and BW who can go to far with the verbal whip lashing, and who can be a over the top–I met them–I will admit there are many of them. But to generalize it to the overwhelming majority of BW is nonsense. The overwhelming majority are not these sassy emasculating women. Most of us tend to speak our mind, we are not going to O.K. everything you do, we are not followers, and we are more likely to be more confronting with you on what we do not like–we are assertive but not domineering. These men, are really saying they do not like assertive women. They want a woman to O.K. them, follow their lead all the time, and submit. If you don’t do that, you have a “bad attitude”. Anyway, Black women, you are in a different class (no better or worst) from the rest and each group (ethnic/racial) of women have their own market(men who find them attractive). Discover your market(men who love, date, have relationships with, and marry Black women) because you do have a market–a considerable size. And Black men still top the list of being your “buyers”. Don’t let junk statistics from secondhand sources, media, and some disgruntled BM fool you. Black men just like Black women have a choice of who they want to marry and reproduce with just like you. And the overwhelming majority still choose the BW. And that says a lot about the BW considering the popular negative depiction of her. So, appeal to your market. Don’t worry about others who are not in your market and don’t worry about how big or small your market is as long as there is enough in your market, and there is, you will be fine. Love yourself.

Chris Rock said it correctly when he said, “Black women don’t date white men because they’re not attracted to white men. Oh they’ll date a pretty white boy…”
I’m not attracted to them, period.

Are you kidding me? Black women are all over me.

For me the 5th reason is why I never have been in a serious relationship with a white guy. I have dated many of them but I never got that great chemistry like I have with black guys. If I see a black man who is nicely built or is confident and his skin is nice and he has pretty teeth I’m all over him. But I don’t have that same attraction to white guys.

Why does it say that “the majority of black men marry outside of their race”??? This is NOT true. That is a false statement, and black women need to stop buying into that BS. If you are attracted to someone GO FOR IT. Whether he is black, white, green. All this other nonsense is created by society.