Should Rihanna and Chris Brown Just Get Back Together Already?

December 30th, 2011 - By Brande Victorian

It’s been nearly two years since the physical altercation, and resulting media frenzy, between Chris Brown and Rihanna occurred. Since then, both stars have claimed they want to get out from under the shadow of the incident, and judging from the steady rise of Rihanna’s career, and the way Chris was able to bounce back, you could easily say they have. One thing the past lovers haven’t been able to escape, though, is speculation that they still want to be together, and when you look at the subliminal twitter affair they’ve been carrying on for quite some time now, it makes you wonder, should they just do it?

I came across an editorial on Global Grind recently that proclaimed C Breezy and Ri Ri are getting back together. The article was more about  BlogXilla’s own infatuation with the celebrity couple as he talked about looking forward to reading daily blog posts and seeing photos of the pair out together. He wrote that he wasn’t ashamed to admit that he had gotten attached to “ChRihanna” and that he could relate to them in ways he can’t relate to Jay-Z and Beyonce. “I’ve been on line kissing my girl while waiting for a two piece and biscuit, and I can say that’s when love is at its finest. That’s when love is at its most pure, and seeing that moment between Rihanna and Chris was an added blessing as a fan.” Of course no couple should ever get together, or back together, to appease their fans but Rihanna seems to be more hurt by the split than onlookers.

There is a non-stop trail of tweets from “Just because I let you go doesn’t mean I wanted to,” to “I’ll always love you,” followed up by “Love U more than you know” from Chris. And then there were those in between tweets from mama Chris: “HELLO LADY I MISS YOU AND LOVE YOU!!!!!! YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE!!!!!!,” to which Rihanna responded: “Miss+Love u 2.” Plus Rihanna petitioned to have the parameters of Chris’s restraining order modified to allow physical contact, so long as it’s not abusive. The situation is utterly and completely speculative but it forms one heck of a case of circumstantial evidence.

If the young lovers truly want to be together, there’s no sense in attempting to keep it on the hush for the sake of disapproving fans who no doubt have just as much drama going on right under their own noses. I’m with BlogXilla when he says spare me the line about the message Rihanna will send young girls if the two reunite. That girl is already sending plenty of messages to teens through her lyrics and the way she dresses. Her position as a celebrity may put her on a pedestal as someone young women emulate but that doesn’t mean she’s a role model. It’s up to parents to set appropriate examples for their children. Besides, the public has clearly forgiven Chris. Is it no OK for her to do the same? Sure, we weren’t the ones who were assaulted but we are the ones who have made his redemption possible by buying his albums and supporting his shows.

It’s tough for anyone to say what they would do in a situation like Rihanna’s and most women don’t leave after the first incident. While I don’t believe the mantra “love makes people do crazy things” excuses Chris’s brutal attack, I do believe in lapses of judgment, mistakes, and opportunities for change.

The media would clearly never make it easy for these stars to reunite but if that’s truly the only thing holding them back, they might as well stop putting on a show at their expense and give most of the public what they really want—a C Breezy, Ri Ri reunion.

What do you think about Rihanna and Chris Brown getting back together? Can you see it happening?

Brande Victorian is a blogger and culture writer in New York City. Follower her on Twitter at @be_vic.

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  • Kai

    I have to say, I am really surprised at how many people actually blame the victim when it comes to Domestic Violence and try to write Chris Brown’s abuse off as a “one time thing he did as a teenager”. Hey, teenagers kill and it still makes them a murderer. In addition, there ARE police reports of Rihanna calling 911 prior to the attack, for pushing and shoving her. The man clearly has a serious problem, let’s not forget that just last summer he smashed a window on Good Morning America because he didn’t like the questions he was being asked. In my humble opinion, he needs to set up camp in anger management class. Rihanna should not allow him to have any access to her…there’s just no reason. She should also get therapy…abuse is not something a person can just “get over with time”…

  • Yllza_ramadani

    rihanna and chris forever

  • Guest

    I don’t necessarily trust that these two are ready to be in a relationship together. In fact, Chris Brown has had numerous temper tantrums on television, which makes me a little nervous for Rihanna’s safety. And as for those saying its not domestic violence, because they only had one fight is a rather pathetic and disturbing way to justify this violent and abusive relationship. Once your partner puts his or hers hands on you, you are in an violent and abusive relationship, period. Also, who is to say that this was the first time Chris Brown had gotten physical with her? I am a huge fan of both Chris Brown and Rihanna, I think they are talented artists, but I’m not really sure I’m comfortable with them getting back together. However, at the end of the day, I couldn’t even imagine what their lives must be like and I have no doubt that they were madly in love so just like any individual it must be hard for them to be apart. They are adults, so no matter what I or anyone else thinks they should and will make their own decisions. The best we can do be supportive and find compassion rather than be judgmental.

    • Guest

      I agree.  It’s sad that many people on hear feel that resorting to physical violence is acceptable and a normal part of relationships.

  • guest

    I dont think chris should be contacting Rihanna why is he still talking to her he beat the crap out of her. He’s a convicted felon and its not right. He has that temper and I think he would honestly risk it all to hurt her more without even blinking he never really fully apologized with no details which is cool i can live without details the proof was in the pics. Now he want to talk to her uhhh im disgusted. Not only does this make me mad this is horrible we all know rihanna fast. She dont know no better. We have to do our best to protect her, but hey they grown. I just feel really uneasy about this in less then a day the new years about to be here. And nobody wants to go through that again america the whole world went through what he did to her now its ok for him to tweet her. o no not again Rihanna do what you do best. Be sweet but please tell us you wouldnt even consider this. Besides You guys aint supposed to be texting each other isnt that how all this crap started in the first place im just like no chris brown didnt. No he didnt……

    • guest

      ok right

    • Guest

      Yeah why is he contacting Rihanna, why is he harrasing her. Im scared.

    • Sdennis334

      She appears to welcome the communication, so I wouldn’t call it harassment. She is old enough to make her own decisions.

    • FaReelDoe

      She tweeted first.

  • mrs.j.cole

    i think they should remain friends and keep it movin’ I wouldn’t want to run back to somebody who keeps hitting me I’m sorry…. Knowing that 3 of the women in my family went through that it won’t be me…..# damn cole world

  • who?

    why is that I never hear anyone state the fact the rihanna initiated the assault and brown simply responded…smh

    • ay

      that wasn’t some “simple response” you simple woman smdh

    • musiqsoul

      um it doesnt matter what she supposedly did or said, no woman should ever be beaten like that…

  • Devildog808

    Honestly, some folks really need to get a life and leave these two kids alone. Yes, as TEENAGERS they had a fight. I’m not sure how much more we need to say about it nearly 3 yrs later? Whatever the two of them desire should be their call to make. Chris is with a lovely young lady, Karreche Tran who seems to be very nice and calm. I doubt if he would leave her for the drama of a relationship with Rihanna at this time in his life and busy career. However, if one day they find their way back to each other, the world should shut up, mind their own damn business and let them be happy without trying to ruin their lives and careers. These two young people should not be made to suffer burdens never placed on the backs of many adult blacks and many more adult white celebirties in this society!

  • Guest

    With all the ridiculous comments on here, I’m not surprised that so many woman return to beaters and cheaters.  Women always want to believe that people have changed. Time does not heal all wounds or change people.  Domestic violence is very serious. People who have no control over their anger and resort to such extremes usually don’t change.  It’s unwise to waste time on such broken relationships.  

    • devildog808

      What are you talking about? Yes DV is serious but one fight is what these two had. Don’t be fooled by “popular media’s” ploy to turn 19-year-old Chris Brown into their new O.J. Simpson. One fight is far from the ongoing cycle of DV. And if you are so concerned please address the fact that Riri was the 1st person to start swinging or are you one of those that believes as long as a female is punch, smack or kick its all good?

      • Guest

        Fighting to the point that someone suffers serious cuts bruises and is choked is NOT part of a normal or healthy relationship.  It is NOT an acceptable way to handle conflicts.  They are both to blame and have some serious problems.

        • FaReelDoe

          How do you know what problems they have?  How do you know they did not address and work out their personal problems?  Do you know them?   Are you the same person you were when you were a teen?   Have you learned from your past?  And they did not?  Oh.. I see.   I guess you are the same bitter, unforgiving person you were back then. Good luck with your boxed in life that has no room to forgive, no room for growth and no room for change. 

          • Guest

            People who get arrested for violence have problems.  Couples that need to fight like that have problems. If that kind of violence exists in a relationship then something is seriously wrong.  I would recommend that they forgive one another, but returning to such a relationship is usually foolish.

  • DeepThinker

    I think it is great they have forgiven each other for what happened between them. Even if the beating did not occur, I think they should keep the past in the past. They are young and the relationship was a learning/growing experience that was not meant to last forever.Plus they are both too tempermental and have egos too big to be together without bumping heads. If they did get back together, it would never be the same. I also wonder is Rihanna just feeling lonely and wanting Chris back because he’s moved on.Some people are selfish like that.                   
    Is it just me or does all this public expression of “love” very disrespectful towards Chris’s current GF? The tabloids act as if she doesn’t even exsist. The mother even speaks of how much she misses and loves Rihanna. If I were Karruache I would not even feel like I have a fair chance.

  • http://twitter.com/kekesmith8 keke smith

    I do believe he is  changed man. Although anyone would be hesitant to get back with someone like that. It would be different if Chris is known as a person who goes around beating up woman. Him and Karraache(sp?) seem to be doing fine. There are men out there who beat up on their woman ALL the time. This was a one time incident, and hopefully they can learn from this, and become better people. 

  • Hampton

    Get out of their business…first was griping about it being wrong for them to be together , now yall want them to get together maybe if you all just leave them alone they could figure out what they want to do for themselves!

  • Lonzization

    I didnt read the article, nor do I care to. Beating is sorta like cheating. Once a beater always a beater. I could never gain that same respect back for a man who put his hands on me. I could never trust you enough not to do it again and my life is not worth that risk. 

  • Guest

    I do not think they should get back together not as yet at least, it has only been two years, what has changed about them that is going to assure her that it will not happen again. It is too soon, Time heal all wounds, and changes people, they need to wait and be patient for each other.

  • http://twitter.com/GaptoothDiva I’esha Hornes

    I personally feel like if these two decide to get back together, it’s not fair for the world to judge. We can all look deep within our own past and even our present, and find someone in our lives that our peers thought weren’t worth forgiving, but we all let them off with a slap on the wrist. Why are celebrities held on pedestals like they aren’t human being?. If they love each other, and they have truly learned from this experience, then why not give it another try? This year I’m hoping for a little less eye rolling judges and more faith holding motivation. Let those people be, I’m fans either way.

    • Guest

      I think they have forgiving each other, and the world has forgiven him for hitting her and her for being in the sistuation, but when it comes to Domestic Violence it take a little more than two years before u decide to date each other again, he has a anger issue and she knowa how to much his buttons they need to work on themselves before they can be with each other and knowing the industry they r in two years is not long enough.

      • Lonzization

        I agree with this. I definitely say forgive but Domestic Violence is no joke and time heals all wounds for sure and a little therapy and counseling as well lol. 

    • http://www.facebook.com/mwclyburn Monique W. Clyburn

      I couldnt agree with you more.  People in glass houses should not throw stones because everyone has made bad choices in their lives when it comes to relationships; and in the same token people CAN and DO change.  If this is what Chris Brown and Rihanna wants then who are we to judge.

  • Kai

    My calendar must be off…because I thought we had a few months before April Fools Day…this article can’t be serious…

  • Guest

    Once you break up its unwise to go back.  Relationships end for a reason.  Domestic violence is a reason to never return to a relationship.

    • devildog808

      Domestic violence is a repeated action not the one fight that these two young ppl had. That was a very young “heat of the moment” altercation started by Rihanna. She has admitted to striking him first. Regardless, these two young blacks should not have to carry burdens the likes of Charlie Sheen (Denise Richards & Brook Muller) or Mel Gibson (Oksana Grigorieva) or Sean Penn (Madonna & Robin Wright) and many ohers dont also have to carry!

      • Guest

        This is the only incident we know about.  It’s not likely the first.  I’ve never hit a woman and most men I personally know haven’t.  When people lose control to the point that violence occurs something is very wrong.  People who end up staying in abusive relationships make these types of excuses. “Oh it was just once.”  They both have violent personalities and obviously aren’t right for each other unless they are willing to change.

  • ay

    What’s the worst that could happen?……………….(rhetorical)

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