I know as women we love to give advice and share our opinions amongst each other. This is how we bond, connect and build sisterhood. But we must be careful to not confuse someone’s opinion with our truth. Everyone operates differently and nobody is one in the same, so be cautious when taking advice, especially when it comes to matters of the heart.
It’s easy to receive counsel from your friends instead of asking yourself those hard but truthful questions about the state of your relationship or situation. We seek validation when we aren’t confident in our decision making or ourselves. Never second guess yourself or undervalue your own feelings. If you know deep in your heart that you love your man despite his flaws, then so be it. If you want to take him back after he messed up, that is your prerogative. Or if you want to leave him, and find your happiness again, don’t wait for permission. Your friends may call you a fool (and they may or may not be right) but regardless, if that is what you want to do, then go ahead. Nobody knows you better than you know yourself. You are the only one who can satisfy your needs.
We are all on a different timeline on this journey called life. Our experiences are uniquely made for us. They will teach us important lessons that will apply to our next chapter in life. So don’t block your blessings by walking in someone else’s shoes. It’s okay to share your experiences and situations with close friends to vent and get things off your chest. But don’t rely on others to be your problem solvers or the captain of your ship. Because woman to woman, at the end of the day you just have to do what works for you.
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