Kissing Frogs: Men Every Woman Dates Before Finding the One

December 15, 2011 ‐ By

Anyone with good sense will tell you that you should date around before you decide to give up your freedom…singleness and settle down with Prince Charming. While it’s good to learn what you do and don’t want in a relationship, we know from experience, that the process isn’t always nice and smooth. Here are the men that we’ve all run into a time or two during the course of our dating lives. If you see yourself in this list, feel free to share your story in the comments section.

The School Girl Crush

Aww young love! Don’t you remember how you felt the first time a little prepubescent boy showed you some attention? Your life became consumed with  honeyed thoughts of your shared affection, declaring to anyone within earshot that you had a boyfriend and the awkward first conversations and kisses. It was grand, absolutely lovely. Nobody could tell you that it wasn‘t love. You just knew that you would be with this manchild forever. And then, you realized he was just…boring. Your conversations consisted of nothing more than the school day’s happenings. Dang. “We can still be friends, right?”

Lesson Learned: Infatuation is not, I repeat, is not love.

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  • Love_Sexy

    I think the majority of women have experience those list of men or atleast I have…..We all would love to avoid those type of people because it would save alot of time and heartache….Unfortunately life does not always happen the way we like…..To some degree I am glad that I went through different experiences to help me learn about men, relationships and myself as well.

    • JLHsays

      I totally agree!

  • Jessica

    Number 7 is definitely hitting home right now


  • Janee

    *sigh* You don’t have to date a bunch of frogs to find your prince….

    • SoTrue

      But how do you know you’ve found your ‘prince’ when you’ve never experienced any ‘frogs’?

      • Janee

        The game isn’t new. You can learn from other people’s mistakes. Plus maybe if you take time to take your tongue out of each other’s mouths or stop having sex with someone you’re not married to you’ll figure out who they REALLY are without having that emotional connection.

        I realized a lot of guys were frogs just by being friends with them and I found my prince (husband) by being his friend first!

        • So true. Women connect sexual compatibility with emotional compatibility. They aren’t the same thing. Ask Rihanna. Chris is probably handling the business in the bedroom but is miserably failing her in every other aspect of their ‘relationship’. My golden rule for successfully dating is to pump the breaks on introducing sex and physical intimacy until you’ve given yourself enough time to figure out if you even like him as a person.

      • Alexis

        That’s stupid. So you have to have bad dating experiences to know what a good one is? That’s logic for idiots…kinda like saying I didn’t know what it was like to be generous because I’ve never seen anyone who was. You aren’t smart enough to know what qualifies as generous behavior? It literally has to be presented in front of you with a sign saying so? Lol

    • Alexis

      If you’re an idiot then yeah. But so true.

  • Ashley Jane

    HA! 5 down 2 to go lol. At least I’m learning my lesson and not dating the same dude over and over… thats a positive I think lol

  • Jamy_47

    Black women end up having kids with all of those before meeting the ONE, bad timing sisters, dont forget protection.

  • Bubbling

    Had I found 7th I would have never settled with “isn’t meant to be”… We bust our asses off for things we want in life and it’s considered a virtue, right? Sadly, I had to learn the hardest way that timing is everything. Great site, love u guys, keep ’em coming

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    • mhmm

      you are not alone lol. Sadly I feel like I am dating the “the one you think is the one”. But you know what they say if it’s meant to happen it will happen.

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  • MrsIndependent

    i keep meeting 2 and 3…more 3 than 2, i never met the rest. It will be nice to meet a 7 just for the experience. I think im dating a 3 right now, the jury is not out yet. I’ve been told im too quick to cut things off without give it a chance…i’m too impatient..whatever. So I’m just watching cautiously and giving it a chance BUT…one wrong move and im cutting things off permanently and not looking back.

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