10 Life & Love Lessons Your Child Needs Long Before Birth Control

December 14th, 2011 - By Toya Sharee

Just like you when you were an adolescent, many of today’s teenagers can’t wait to be grown. They’re out here trying to see, do and experience the best “grown up” life has to offer, not realizing that it’s ok to slow down and appreciate these carefree moments before they really learn what it means to be an adult. While your child is learning and growing in who they’ll become as a person, make sure you find time to impart these words of wisdom.

1.  If you can’t talk about sex, you may not be ready to have it.

There is one word that perfectly describes adolescence: awkward.  Hormones, peers and the media are placing tremendous pressure on your teen’s physical self to do things that their brain and emotions may frankly not be ready for.  So I can’t say that I’m too surprised when I am teaching a class of sexually active teens or furthermore, teen parents, who are still extremely shy and nervous about discussing sex.  Many teens can’t even fathom the idea of condom communication and conversations about intimacy and sexual responsibility with their partner (in fact, that can be challenging for many adults) but that’s not stopping them from having sex. We all know that sex without communication can be a dangerous game.  Try to facilitate an environment where talking about healthy sexual relationships is natural and not intimidating.  The more a teen feels comfortable discussing sex and relationships within the home, the easier it will be for them to confidently express their sexual values when dealing with the outside world.

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  • Girliusmaximus

    I agree Sugar… What’s sad is witnessing the adults who missed out on these lessons… I don’t understand the obsession teenage girls have with staying stuck on one little good for nothing dude… Then they turn into 30 and 40 year old women with no self respect. Can’t tell you how many times I’ve wanted to sit some little 15 yr old girl down and slap some sense into her… And I’m not talking about the girls who have been brought up to sniff out future athletes and get pregnant by them (at least they have a plan albeit a TERRIBLE on). Nooo I’m talking about the girls who follow a boy around school, do his homework for him and his buddies, do sexual favors for him and his buddies, take humiliation and all other manner of nonsense because they think they’re in love. Who told you that was love? PLEASE. Parents get your daughters. Tell them they are beautiful everyday and that they only deserve the best. Build up the self esteem so they don’t go around thinking they need a man to validate them. My sweet pea is a princess and she knows it at the ripe old age of 1.

  • Sugar_Spice

    #2. If you don’t love yourself you can’t truly love anyone else.  I think this is a love lesson many adults find out late & I honestly don’t think children/teenagers are fully capable of grasping this concept.  I also think it’s a good example of why CHILDREN shouldn’t be having sex or forming these intimate relationships in the first place.  I commend you for this wonderful article!