Young, Black, & Female: Does it Work for or Against You on the Job?

December 8th, 2011 - By Brande Victorian

Being a double minority in the workplace brings its own set of unique issues, and when you add age into the mix—whether you’re the most junior of the group or the seasoned employee—these factors can pose a triple threat—or advantage.

Medill Reports recently profiled three young Chicago women, asking them how being young, black, and female in the work place either works for or against them. Their experiences made me think about my own struggles with a previous employer. I had never felt like any of those qualities mattered—except for the time I was asked to fact check slang words to make sure the editor was using the right ones. In a few years I had become the youngest, first black, and first female editor of a publication and I was the youngest and only black editor in my group, but oddly it wasn’t until I got that promotion that suddenly my age became the focus of everything I did and how I was treated.

Instead of the freedom and respect that comes along with becoming an editor, I was reduced to having to run everything by someone else because “you’re just so young.” Conversations were held behind my back about how I had a lot of potential, but I was just “so young,” and it’s not that I don’t think she’s capable, it’s just—I know, I’m so young. It’s hard not to think some of that age discrimination was just a cover for what their real issue was—the fact that I’m so black—but of course they couldn’t say that out loud.

On the other hand, there are environments where being a young black female works to your advantage. One of the women profiled in the article was Brittany Foster, 25, a Howard grad who works in marketing and said being the only minority has its perks.

“It works for me because I am the only young black woman on my team. It’s like of course we know who Brittany is. People tend to gravitate towards the minority sometimes as far as like opportunities and things like that and are willing to give them a chance. But at the same time you have to keep in mind that when they give that chance they might have underlining thoughts like ‘I hope she can do this and I hope she can do that.’”

Some stereotypes do come with the territory, though, she says:

“I was at work and I remember one time this Caucasian girl goes, ‘if I got into a fight with Brittany I would be scared. I feel like you would beat my A$$’ And I’m like ‘do I come across that way?’ That was a misconception that I was down to do something I don’t even necessarily agree with, because you think ‘oh she’s black, and she always has something sassy to say.’ There are just so many things people think about black women that just aren’t even true. You don’t take the time to get to know any of us because you already have these thoughts manifested in your head. So you’re already thinking ‘she’s going to pop off.’”

There’s also a double edged sword that comes with people’s perceptions about black women, banker Maria McKiever, 27, said:

“One aspect of being a black female is having to be this iron-clad women. In a negative aspect, people think that you’re going to have a certain attitude and you’re going to cause certain problems, but on the positive aspect, you’re already naturally considered strong, which we are, but it makes it hard to ever have those moments to let your guard down.”

You also have to pick your battles, she noted:

“You kind of have to find that balance between what I should stand up and fight for and what I should let slide. If you’re working amongst white men, it’s like what jokes do you let slide so you don’t come across looking pro-African and sensitive and when do you take that stance. You have to find that fine line.”

Black women are no stranger to walking that fine line and if the corporate culture of your work environment embraces diversity, you can easily take what seem to be three strikes and make them work for you. You won’t always be the youngest on the team, and hopefully not the only female or minority, but the lessons you learn about corporate America, office politics, and even your own abilities when you’re in that situation are invaluable.

How does being young, black, and female affect you in the work place? Does it work to your advantage or disadvantage? Does one trait seem to overshadow the others?

Brande Victorian is a blogger and culture writer in New York City. Follower her on Twitter at @be_vic.


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  • reese

    Being black or minority is definately working against us these days.  Have you noticed the anger alot of people have since Obama has one.  We have more discrimination suits than we have had ever.  Just be professional and do your job.  You can speak to everyone and keep it moving.

  • guest

    This was a great article. Here are some rules that may help young women/men entering the work force. These are rules that I had too learn. Some the hard way some common sense. 

    1. Your first job: Consider this job a learning experience. Very few people land their “Dream Job” right out of college. So do not go that deep. You are in that space to learn. Stay no more than three years if possible.

    2. Gossip: Do not get involved with banter about your co-workers. PERIOD. Some white people gossip just as much but they view it as “venting” or “discussing”. Shaquanas gossip about Mary in accounting will not be viewed the same as Beth venting about Mary. In short have no opinion but a pleasant one about your co-workers. 

    3. Avoid the Gossip: At all cost do not engage this man/women on any level but “good morning”. Everyone in the office knows this person is a gossip and if you hang with them you will be taken as such as well. And anything you tell this person will be repeated, no questions asked.

    4. Keep somethings to yourself: Its not your job to keep a company or brand afloat if your are not being paid for such or your name is not on the building. Some bosses will mislead you to think that they are hopeless and have no clue. Then in you come giving them every thought and idea which made you unique. Pick and choose what you give. Once you give the idea, let it go. Its theres.(Learned this the hard way) LOL. Still managed to keep some things for me though. And I got what I needed from the situation anyway.

    5. Get what you need: If its your idea, own it without being cocky about it. Only tell the boss your idea. Avoid co-workers that want to pick your brain when they are not your boss. You’re not a library. They can research for themselves. Just make sure you get out just as much as your putting in. I’ve seen people leave jobs devastated. They spent to much time trying to be the “cool black guy/girl” and end up with no real discernible job description or skill set. Take this time to define and learn about what you do. Also learn the language of your field or skill set

    6: Do not apologize: You are who you are. Unless you are a nut job, lazy worker or gossip, you have no time to decipher why Carol in HR does not speak to you in the morning. Or why Lisa ignored you when you asked her a question. Some people have poor social skills or other things on their mind. And sometimes people just do not want to talk to people they cant get anything from or are not on a management level. If you apologize or ask why, it will make you look insecure and weak. It will also leave room for those same people too question you. 

    7: Other Black men/women: If the office is predominately white and you are 1 of 2 AA, do not get offended if the other AA does not want to say to much too you. Although we share common experiences we are not the same. You may have grown up with a “working class” family. They may have been raised in a “wealthy” family. Don’t assume saying “Hey Girl” or “It was because Im black” is going to create an office sister hood. You may get a blank stare and crickets.You are there to work and make associations not girlfriends.

    8: Personal History: Its okay too share major moments in your life at work i.e. getting married, the death of a loved one or the birth of a child. Nowadays most jobs have programs for battered women as well. These are acceptable because they will require you being out of the office. Sharing every moment in your life is not okay. Everyone does not need to know when your time of the month is, how your man put it on you last night, if you have gas or how smashed you got at the bar last night. YES, I HAVE HEARD ALL THESE CONVERSATIONS: NO THANKS!!!

    9: Borrowing: Please oh please do not be the “office bum”. Believe it or not we have a reputation for this in the office. I had to fire a sister for this infraction. She was borrowing money from co workers. Her colleagues gave it to her but they complained to me that she was borrowing money from them. She made 75,000 a year. REALLY??? I always keep money in my desk or a change bin on my desk for those times when money is tight. I was embarrassed for her. Manage your money. No one cares if you come in with a tuna sandwich and cant go to the restaurant for lunch. And never ever accept charity (my white colleagues try this with me sometimes). Like “let me take you to lunch” or “I’ll pay for _______”. If its not your boss rewarding you for a job well done, PAY YOUR OWN WAY. Even if they insist. You refuse. Going dutch is fine.

    10: RELAX. LOL. An old boss taught me everything is about perception. If you come to the table with these thoughts they will manifest themselves as such. Some situations will be race related. Sometimes its just you. Learn to discern the two. Also speak up for what you want, be aware of the office culture and try to avoid putting yourself in the position of being hurt. Take what you need from the situation and move on until you find or create an environment that suits your needs. If you’re lucky enough to own your own business or be a Director, you will have the right to structure your office anyway you want. But you have to deal with the BS in the beginning. It is what it is. DO NOT GIVE UP OR GIVE IN.

    • YBFintheCity

      This is amazing and complete changed my outlook THANK YOU!!!

    • chaka1

      What a great response! This should have been the lead article.

  • YBFintheCity

    Thanks you everyone! Your words have been helpful. 

    It’s just unfortunate that there are so many grey areas! I worked for an dominantly black company prior to this and I knew if I wanted to learn the ends and outs of my field, I would have to surround myself with more than just African Americans in order to (truly) come back and help my community prosper. 

    “Dddooonnnttt” “ZC7463″ “BLACKANDPROUD”, I’m thankful for this article and your words! It has reminded me why I am here;  to continuously move onward and upward dispute the challenges.  

    • No Disrespect

      Honestly, don’t try. You will be amazed how people gravitate to you. When you hear people talking or they come to talk to you, don’t EVER take their side. Instead, see it from the opposite perspective and say something to get them to think about whether they are wrong or what they could do better. The trick is to say it in a caring way. People will think you are honest and they will ask you for all type of advice. Just be yourself and don’t share your business or the fact that you might be having a bad day. 

  • Zc7463

    Blacks will never truly be apart of the White Corporate America inner circle, no  matter how much education they have.  That is why we must create a Black Corporate America and learn unity amongst ourselves, and then only will we truly be able to compete with them and accomplish some sort true balance and fairness. 

  • BLACKANDPROUD

    Im tired!  I give up! lol

  • BLACKANDPROUD

    Oops!  I meant to type I dont care about they think or say about anything.

  • BlackandProud

    I am the only black woman on my team and I agree with YBFINTHECITY.  You just cant win.  I try to fit in and be nice and not seem too serious.  It does not matter.  I have had a couple of bad experiences and I dont give a damn anymore.  I have my Master’s Degree.  I am attractive and articulate and I am just happy to have a job right now.  To hell with these white people.  I dont care about what they think anything.

  • Zc7463

    It is just a fine line, and you are damn if you do and doom if you don’t. That’s how White Corporate America works!!!  Just make it work to your advantage, and beat them at their own game.

  • YBFintheCity

    This came at a perfect time. I started a new job where I am the one of two black females working in a dominantly white environment. 

    The other black female has worked at the company for years but is often considered a bully; so (as a result) no one seems to say much to her. And then there’s me.

    I’m generally an outgoing, bubbly type but also know when things need to be taken seriously. I’ve found it hard finding a balance between how to show  my professional side while not coming across as “angry” or “too serious” and how to show that I’m easy to get along without pretending to be someone I’m not or coming across as meek. 

    But it seems as though no matter what I do, no one has taken the time out to get to know me or allowed me the room to find my place at the office as I’ve seen them do for other new employees and I  I’m constantly being sized up in comparison to my white predecessor. 

    It become a negative working environment for me and I’ve only been there a month. It’s hard not to think these problems have little to do with my age and ethnicity when I see my white peers being treated completely different. 

    • dddooonnnttt

      Girl, just do your job weell and keep it moving. Because the other side of that coin is them getting ‘too familiar’ and thinking thye can say stuff they really shouldn’t even be thinking.

    • Guest

      Your not alone. I just left a job for these exact reasons. But I dealt with it for two years to get the experience and name under my belt. Don’t stay too long. It will make you bitter. Max out at three years. Im sure they like your work but they don’t want you to get “cocky” about it. So they keep you in this nice little box of how far they may or may not let you go.

      As far as being serious. Be proud that you take your work serious. Believe me when your co-workers are doing work do you you view them as angry. No. Not all offices are like this. But if you find yourself to be the only AA or 1 of two AA its more of a “were doing you a favor”. Like DDDOOONNNNTTTT said. “Do your job and keep it moving”. I know I have.

      P.S. Find strength in your personal life. It will take some more experiences but once you know that you know your job and skill set you wont feel as shaky about the office relationships. You wont care.