Black Women and Weight: Not Hating Yourself and Not Caring Are Not the Same Thing

December 8th, 2011 - By Brande Victorian

I used to work in medical publishing so I know that studies have to be done over and over and over again to prove scientific validity, but when it comes to black women and obesity, I think we’ve got the point. A lot of black women over the age of 20—some estimates say nearly 80%–have a BMI over the recommended level for their height, some black women put off exercise for the sake of their hair, and some black women think it’s OK to carry a little extra weight. We know this. Now, yet another study has shown that  obesity is less of a stigma for black women and that they have a higher quality of life than obese white women when it comes to physical function, self-esteem, sexual life, public distress, and work. Is that a bad thing?

Some would argue that, no, black women don’t get it, otherwise so many of us/them wouldn’t still be fat, obese, overweight, morbidly obese, or however you want to label it. But that’s just not true. Just because you don’t hate yourself for being overweight doesn’t mean that you don’t care. Neither does the fact that you’re not immediately doing anything about it. How many goals do all of us label as priorities and still fail to tackle?

One analysis of the study, pointed out that white women tend to have a cruel outlook towards their body and when they are obese, tend to discriminate within themselves, or let themselves go in terms of the way they dress, and even possibly limit their social activity because they are ashamed of their weight. Overweight black women who are proud of how they look despite the weight are often criticized for being too flamboyant. There’s a way to have a happy medium that doesn’t involve compromising your physical health for your mental well-being, or vice versa. There are plenty of black women who aren’t necessarily happy with being a larger size, but aren’t suicidal about it.

I often think of my sister when I read studies about overweight women and self-esteem. While I tend to have a “white woman” attitude toward my weight, I suppose, my sister has always been able to maintain a healthy sense of self-worth in spite of the added poundage. She knows she needs to lose weight, she wants to lose weight, and she has in the past. But the fact that she is not an ideal weight right now doesn’t trump her self love or even the admiration she has for her frame in its current state. I, on the other hand, tend to need a little more coercing and affirmation when I get depressed about my weight. Which is healthier overall?

I know the goal of this study was to see if researchers could determine how to motivate black women to lose weight due to the increasing obesity epidemic—and I won’t argue that it is just that—but I’m curious what the conclusion would be if it was determined that obese black women have a low quality of life too? Would fat shaming be suggested as a viable tactic? If fat black women hate themselves enough, they’ll change? Guess what? Those white women who hate themselves aren’t doing anything about their weight either, and now they’ve got mental issues to tackle too.

Researchers need to be very careful throwing out generalizations about attitudes toward weight across races, and the public ought to be slower to draw conclusions about what’s seen as overweight black women’s delusional acceptance of their bodies. Positive thoughts trump negative ones, so it’s time for the medical community and society as a whole to sing a new song if they think they’re going to successfully motivate black women to lose weight because the “you should hate yourself because you’re fat” method isn’t going to work.

Brande Victorian is a blogger and culture writer in New York City. Follower her on Twitter at @be_vic.


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  • Girliusmaximus

    Here we go again… The author makes a great point.. Not stressing out about it and not caring DEFINITELY aren’t the same thing. To everyone on the obesity epidemic bandwagon, yes it is a problem and yes it exacerbates other problems but diseases don’t discriminate and people are going to get them regardless of their weight. Yes heart disease and diabetes are problems that can come from being obese but they affect normal weight people as well… No one ever talks about normal weight people who are unhealthy, let me see all skinny people climb several flights of stairs, they shouldn’t have a problem with it since they are the “right” weight… Don’t forget that there can’t be one standard of fat to measure everyone by because weight doesn’t tell the entire story and not everyone has the same body type…

  • IllyPhilly

    There was a time in this country when being aft was a sign you were rich. “Overweight” varies from person 2 person and in my opinion as long as you’re not fat to get a gobment check it’s fine.

  • F3ral Anarchy

    im sure not all overweight white women have issues with weight and dating….they just start dating us brothas  :O)   “sooo suzy how long you been dating black guys, i see all of your kids are blonde with blue eyes”   “well after my divorce i noticed that the white guys werent paying me attn when i went to hang out and the black guys did”

    • TimeAfterTime

      True

    • Darkman

      That’s true, it’s seems that black men and white men have a silent trade agreement on women: we give them our skinny women we don’t want (have you ever seen a fat BW with a white men?) and take their fat white women they don’t want. Good deal!

  • maggie

    I enjoyed this article.  this shows that there are cultural difference across color lines no matter how many generations your black family has been in the western world–Africa is strong in our blood. 

    • Guest

      African people generally are not fat.  Especially first generation Africans,  They eat real food, rice, beans, plantains, goat and oxtail.  American Black people are fat because they sit around eating McDonalds.

      • accordingtofadzi

        Actually in traditional African culture being fat is a sign of wealth it is a status symbol and the wives of rich men are not concerned about getting fat as it shows that they are well taken care of.

  • L-Boogie

    Um, this article dismisses laziness.  Get on that damn treadmill. 

  • Darkman

    Overweight BW are confident because it doesn’t stop them to have boyfriends, contrary to their white counterparts, simple. Black men enjoy round women with enough boobs and butt, while men hate that. That’s why big BW take care lf themselves, even the obese ones.

  • Guess

    Im sorry, but the writer was doing a lot of “what if’s” in this article and it wasnt necessary. Many overweight black women know that they should lose weight for health reason, but in the meantime they are happy with themselves. I like that. I have many overweight friends who are confident and their presence lights up the room. I have many overweight friends who always bring down the mood because they hate their weight. Point is, this study shows that many overweight BW dont let their weight spoil the party. Im glad b/c BW have other issues to deal with. In the end, I still believe BW have to tackle the weight issue. It getting out of hand..too many early deaths attributed to it. And their is a difference between curvy and fat and obese.

  • Lexi

    there is nothing to be proud of about being fat!

    • Eugenia

      Nothing in that article suggested that overweight bw were ‘proud’ to be overweight. All it said is that they aren’t hating themselves but still know they need to lose weight. What is it about us that if we’re not beating the heck out of ourselves about an issue we’re somehow proud of it. Can’t you just want to change and not think about killing yourself at the same time. Dang.