Ask a Very Smart Brotha: Short Dudes & Caribbean Cuties
I’m a 35 year old mother of 3 and recently started dating a 25 year old man. He has a career, knows how to treat a lady, has one child, responsible and other things that I look for in a man. However, I have doubts in my head about our age difference and yet another one, HEIGHT! lol He is 5’8 and I’m 5’11. I never thought I’d be dating a shorter man, let alone a much younger man. Am I being unrealistic? Or do you think a younger man could actually want something long term with an older, taller woman?
Unsure About Short Suitor
Dear Unsure About Short Suitor,
Out of all of the characteristics men and women use to eliminate potential love interests, I have to say that “He’s a great guy, but he’s a little shorter than me.” amuses me the most. Why? Well, when you ask the woman why exactly they couldn’t date a man shorter than them, 9.9 times out of 10 the answer has nothing to do with her and everything to do with everyone else. They then usually try to justify this feeling with a scenario that will never, ever, ever, ever happen.
“How’s it going to look when I’m wearing my 9 inch heels on a date and the waiter tries to hit on me because he assumes my man is my little brother?”
“How’s it going to look when I bring him to the family reunion and his A$$ is the last person picked for volleyball?”
“What if we get married and his short A$$ gets lost underneath my gown? Who’s going to want to look at those wedding pictures???”
Now, I understand why most women would prefer to be with a man who’s at least as tall as they are. From what I understand, it helps some women feel safer and, more importantly, more feminine. But, at the same time, many of the evolutionary reasons why it was necessary to have a bigger/taller men don’t really exist anymore. There are no wooly mammoths on the Saks Fifth Serengeti. Wooly crackheads, maybe, but all you need to guard yourself from them is sunlight.
Also, Unsure About Short Suitor, I don’t want to be too offensive, but 35 year old women with multiple children may have to make some, um, “adjustments” to their standards if they want to be coupled up. Not saying you need to settle for a wack guy, but if a man has a ton of qualities you’re looking for, it’s probably not in your best interests to pass him up because he didn’t come in the right package. If you’re not careful, that package may be the last good gift you get for a long time.
Damon Young (aka The Champ)