Is Social Media Killing Today’s Relationships?

December 8th, 2011 - By Bianca Clendenin

As someone who grew up and is still growing up in the internet age, I’ve been connected to the web since I was 9 years old.

It wasn’t until I was in junior high school that I fully used it to its full potential. I remember the first time me and my friend discovered chat rooms. We would talk to the weirdest people online, never giving out personal information. Even then we knew that could lead to all types of problems. We also realized how sexual people are on the web. I would just laugh at their crudeness and keep it going.

As I got older I got sucked into all of that social media nonsense. We all thought we were cool with our cute AIM screen names like babyprincessxoxox90 or basketballchamp91.  In high school if you didn’t have a MySpace and your layout was lame you weren’t cool. And your top 8 friends? Boy that was enough to ruin friendships.  There was Friendster, Sconex, Facebook, Livejournal, and Twitter.  Add me on Photobucket so we can share all our photos with each other.  Add me on Last.fm so we can see your taste in music. Watch my videos on Youtube.  Check out my very exclusive LookBook to see my fashionable style. You have a 360 (Xbox 360) what’s your gamertag?  Read my blog!

Basically anything you like, there’s a social media website for it. I love poetry, so the website AllPoetry.Com is perfect for me. I get to socialize with other poets. We have started creating our lives online. So much that it didn’t matter if you weren’t cool in school per se. If you have a million friends on the web, that’s all that matters right?

So of course it only makes sense that relationships would get thrown into the mix eventually. I mean online dating is now one of the most popular ways people meet. I know so many college kids who are using OkCupid, some as a mere joke; others are actually looking for love.

But what about the people who are still meeting the old fashion way? With things like relationships statuses on Facebook, you still have to declare (or not declare) whether you’re dating someone or not.

Social media has changed the way people date, interact, and socialize with one another.

If I want to find out about the interests of a person I’m dating, I can just go to his Facebook page or follow his Tumblr. That cuts out the whole first date and learning about the basics of someone because it’s all on their website. But what about people who lie about who they are on the web just to appear cooler? Sometimes you don’t even know who you’re dealing with.

From personal experience, the best advice I could give is to learn about your significant other outside of social media. Stalking their Twitter or Facebook isn’t healthy to begin with, yet it is also important to note if their online life doesn’t match up with their real life then it’s time to move on. Log off and spend quality time when the person you care about. Face to the face time is so much more valuable than Face Time with your iPhone.

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  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000262684513 Ashley Taylor

    In my opinion, I think it is, I deleted my facebook 2 yrs ago  and when I met my boyfriend, I deleted my twitter, its been almost a yr without twitter. my bf hated me being on twitter, he used to huff & puff every time i was online and getting alerts on my phone, but he never had a prob with youtube or blog sites, as you can see, I cant stay off  them, & with me being a college student majoring in Computer technology, its kinda hard to stay off line. but 1 thing for sure, Facebook has gotten out of hand, so I was happy to go and I sure as hell dont miss it, ppl in relationships telling all their business, friends and family arguing and cyber bulling  was getting out of hand, im sure its gotten worse, but when I met my bf he felt the same, about fb , so he had already deleted his account, so with all of that being said, our relationship is pretty private and working out good , and i know for a fact, if we both had facebook, we would run into problems. esp old flings popping up, lol I have real life friends who go through this everyday with their relationships and jealousy. I told them to just delete their accounts for good, but they sware they’ll miss out on something, and yea I agree, miss out on enjoying REAL LIFE!!!!!  1 thing for sure is, if u want to use fb just to be nosey, use a friends or fam member, stay anoymous, i never want a personal fb ever again

  • Kayla

    DIDN’T WE JUST HAVE AN ARTICLE LIKE THIS ?!?! 

    • Sugar_Spice

      Sure did

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_DNXVG2ECONRBABNKEVGJSABOG4 Sharie

    Great article & so very true.

  • Girliusmaximus

    Good article. People take social media out of context these day in my opinion. Lots of people have what I call “internet courage”… Doing stuff online that they know they’d never be bold enough to do in person. SMH I don’t have time for that. People put their entire lives on Facebook and the like and not only does that mess with your relationships it can also affect your employment/career and other people’s lives as well. For the most part I’ll say that people are pretty cool and appropriate when it comes to social media but there are those who….. Etc.

    • http://www.linkedstrategies.com/blog/ Linked Strategies

      You are right! Maybe because it’s easier to do those stuffs online than in person. In my opinion, people take social media too seriously nowadays, some even forget they have lives in the real world.

    • Sugar_Spice

      I Completely agree with you on “internet courage!  I had a friendship end over a person talking reckless about me on FB then when I talk to her in person she changed her story even though her posts were emailed to me (i’m not on FB) GTFOH

      • Girliusmaximus

        Don’t you hate that? Forget giving the side eye, major eye rolling is needed for that type of ish… Just cowardly.