How many times have you heard the phrase, “love is an action word?” Many say “I love you,” but their actions prove otherwise. Whether you’re single, dating, married or just plain “had it” with this love stuff, check out these top five verbs that can save your life…
Sexing – As you’ve read from our sex column, dedicating time to have sex with your partner regularly, safely and deliciously can not only improve your personal swag, but reset your love life. Each time you connect with someone you love, and who loves you, arguments have an opportunity to dissipate and pent up hormones get a chance to release themselves!
Cooling - First of all, don’t even bother arguing with your lover if the issue makes no difference in the grander scheme of things. Seriously, you two going on and on about who washed the dishes last would sound silly if you ever had to comfort each other over life’s more serious and unexpected happenings. But, if you do find yourself getting into a silly argument, try to laugh it off…the adjectives “cooling” and “laughing” are interchangeable here and can save your love life if you do them often with the person of your dreams.
Treating - As much as your sweetie loves you for whom you are, please find it in yourself to be creative with your lover. There’s nothing like getting a good treat from someone you love…and the simpler, the better–for both parties. As basketball marriages have proven time and again, bling bling and a ring does not a happy home make. Just leaving cute notes, coming around with lunch (when you know your boo is starving), and dressing up in fantasy roles…or doing something out of the ordinary that’s more in line with your boo than you, will work wonders.
Feeling – Don’t get so comfortable with your lover that you don’t listen to his or her needs anymore. If your lover says work has been creating a hard time, ask how you can help. Also, encourage your lover to feel. If you have one of those quiet honeys, make sure you encourage him to express his fears, anger, love, and cheekiness. Designate a safe space for talking with each other…it could be the same corner of your fave coffee spot, or a particular room in your house, if you two share the same living space.
Working – Love is a walk in the park…it’s very easy: no matter what anyone says. Love isn’t designed to be complicated and full of hardship. When you’ve found love, the hardships feel like a journey that you’re both embarking upon together…kind of like two CEOs who want the same thing, i.e. the success of their foundation. So, when love hardships come, work to get rid of them–without making them a big turn-of-the-century production, so that you can go back to doing what you do best (which is hopefully one of the adjectives above).