NFL Player’s Defense Rests On Dislike For Black Women

April 29th, 2011 - By TheEditor

There’s one thing white America never has to worry about and that’s a white man making a point about how undesirable the female members of his ethncity are. For the latest spectacle of self hate, we turn to Washington Redskins player Albert Haynesworth who was recently indicted on one charge of sexual abuse, having been accused of fondling a cocktail’ waitresses breast.

According to the indictment, Haynesworth told a security guard, “I didn’t touch her” and that the waitress was “a little black girl” and he “doesn’t even like black girls.” Later, according to the indictment, Hanyesworth told detectives “I know what this is about, she is just upset I have a white girlfriend. I couldn’t tell you the last time I dated a black girl. She was trying to get with me.” (Source: dcentric.wamu.org)

Although people tend to make rash remarks when feeling defensive, why does it seem that Black women are so attacked by their men? What if the accuser had been a white woman? She probably would’ve been called a Itchbay, end of story. But Haynesworth had to take it there and really convey his dislike for his sisters. White women are never demonized in these narratives, since they are simply accepted of being representative of all women. But Black women, over and over again, absorb very specific attacks in the media and in everday life. Sadly, Black men are not always there to defend their women,which is not the case amongst other cultures and ethnicities.

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  • Soloman X

    Every time someone says something in regards to race they act as if they speak for all of that race and they don't everyone ahas different experiences and education levels. It doesn't bother women in my circle because they are educated and respectful enough of themselves to know people say ignorant things all the time does not mean it pertains to that women nor does it mean anything to that race of women. It all depends where you are, who your around their intellectualness level or how people think. such confusion and pettishness people should get tougher skin and not get so upset about race and pay attention to more important things like Family unity, love, keeping young men out of jail, giving young people hop and mental strength for the future , passing along family traditions. Too much hate ( give No praise to the D__v__L the ruler of the Lie. Think before you speak and have some respect for yourselves and others.

  • Reggie

    The is one man's opinion and he is entitled to that no matter how rediculous. I find it irresponsible of this publication to even publish it as if it is the opinion and representative of the entire Black race or of Black NFL players. This kind of ignorance is not worth reporting.

  • Xiana

    In the UK that already exists. There's a special unit to handle black-on-black crime, such is the hatred in the community.

  • Big Al

    I understand what r u saying but keep in me, that guy is just one brother, so pls don't lump all blackmen together. I for one would not date a white woman or anyother nationality out of my race. I have lived long enough to know better. For me, i like my own kind. Nothing against other woman.

    • Mazio

      I hate hearing that black men do defend their women. That's a broad statement. There are men (all races) that degrade women of all races. I know plenty of black men who proudly stand up for their women. Simply put….men need to be men and respect women.

      40% of the single population date outside their race.

  • YT2012

    EVERYONE KNOWS 90% BLACK WOMEN ARE THE UGLIEST WOMEN IN THE WORLD! THAT'S COMMON SENSE!

  • ZaZa

    The statement that mentioned that men of other races don't state how undesireable their women are or how they disrespect them doesn't pertain to how they treat them necessarily. It's about how they don't put their business or "preference" out there for everyone to hear. In just about every relationship there's some type of disrespect whether abuse, arguments, or some other falling out. But I have never heard a white, hispanic, or asian man who date or marry women of other races say I hate my own because (fill in the blank here). And who are willing to broadcast it on TV, radio, magazines, newspapers, on the streets, at the barbershops, twitter or facebook like black men. That is where this site and women on here are coming from for those who didn't understand that.

  • Fajr

    when you walk out of the door everyday, you not only represent yourself, you represent your race. behave as if you are head of state or a conglomeration. there will always be someone who doesn't like you, so what, who cares? not all black men are idiots. there are other races that deface their women and treat them as chattle. the question is: how will you treat your man and how will your woman treat you? start at home, take it from there.

  • NiqNiq2k11

    Don't bash all blk men and women because we are not the same. I am a blk woman and I love my blk husband he is very good to me and very family oriented. Sometimes people can't help who they are attracted to, love is love as long as your significant other treats right! Don't let the media get to you blk women because that's all they want to do, they love for us to fight amongst each other. There are plenty of good strong BLK MEN out there that love and support there educated BLK WOMEN!!!!

  • Izzy Dean

    How can you figure out this attitude among the young men? What happened to the concept "you get honey from the bee"?? How many strong women kept a young boy from starving hungry in the street? What about the song "NO Charge"????

  • ssminno

    as bazzare is this will sound i find it sad and funny at the same time. Sad because of "Yet another" bad public persona of Black Women in the media. Funny because when men date/marry outside their race they celeabrated, but when a woman does the same thing she gets slamed and repremanded for it.

  • Bobby

    Black men love and respect their women as much as any other ethnicity. Stop painting all Black men with the same brush of a few that are so ignorant. Every race exploits their women as much as the next. Blacks should not carry this burden when women are exploited all over the world by MEN regardless of their ethnicity.

  • gororo

    it's ironic how the definition of a "s strong black woman" is defined by raising kids without a man . If you are strong, how come you couldn't resisit that part of a man that made u a mother?
    My girlfriend is black but it toook me a while to find a sane educated blackwoman who doesen't have a a child. Why is it so hard for you people to realize it`s his personal preference, there are some that won't date fat women or skinny women. He won't date black women because he doesen't find them attractive, it's called life live with it. My thing is i won't date a girl who is proud to carry another person`s body part on her head (hair), so i would rather date one who has her own,black or white.

  • http://twitter.com/AriesMarquis Aries Marquis

    LET me set the record straight! First off, for anyone of you to choose to date another person outside of your race, that's fine…but you are utterly FOOLISH to stereotype an entire race of males just because YOU ran into the stupid ones! Unless you dated every single black male, shut up! Just because YOUR dad wasn't (and still isn't) anything special in your life, doesn't mean that mine isn't, because he's been in my life since before I gained a memory! Moreover, I've never been attracted to white females, so AGAIN…don't stereotype by sayin' ALL BLACK MEN are attracted to white women, because they are a COMPLETE turn off to me! And lastly, PLEASE don't put ALL white men on a pedestal either, because ALOT of white males sterotype you're ignorant selves just as much as you GLORIFY them, and they aren't even worth 2 pennies rubbed together! I think I'm done!

  • Misswanda

    Wow he really hates himself truly… I mean really this man is very very sick… And I can’t imagine his parent even owning such a monster… Just because he’s a damn fool the law should make him pay make an example of such a jack a** that he’s is… The fact the he would bring himself to say such a thing makes me sick on my stomach and it’s has nothing to do with color just that fact someone is so sick they have the nerve to even have a career.

  • real-ish

    he's ugly anyway so who cares….usually the ones who are not attractive always go for some1 outside their race b/c they know other races don't care. i pretty sure that alot of black women blew him off b/c they thought he was overweight and not attractive. simple.

  • iWilFly

    That was real lame of him. D***s like this make us look bad. Its all good tho, dont let this sh*t geg under your skin, black women. Most Of us have love for yall. Dont use this as an example to make some reaching generalization that all black men hate bw. We dont, dont let the media get to u.

  • joe digle

    he probably said it to get out of the situation. it's still not cool. but, some women of any color are serious gold diggers. and some sistas are guilty of this from the get. so, oh well.

  • paul

    this is one person not all black and all black woman some people are this way i know white guys who would never date a white woman and white woman who wouldnt date white men.

  • Greygoose125

    What an idiot – not only is he the worst teammate; as a man – he ranks lower than the dirt on the bottom of your shoe.

  • Sapphire

    People forget that just because someone seems successfully wealthy that they are sometimes morally and intellectually bankrupt – case in point, this character who goes by the name Albert Haynesworth.

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