NFL Player’s Defense Rests On Dislike For Black Women

April 29th, 2011 - By TheEditor

There’s one thing white America never has to worry about and that’s a white man making a point about how undesirable the female members of his ethncity are. For the latest spectacle of self hate, we turn to Washington Redskins player Albert Haynesworth who was recently indicted on one charge of sexual abuse, having been accused of fondling a cocktail’ waitresses breast.

According to the indictment, Haynesworth told a security guard, “I didn’t touch her” and that the waitress was “a little black girl” and he “doesn’t even like black girls.” Later, according to the indictment, Hanyesworth told detectives “I know what this is about, she is just upset I have a white girlfriend. I couldn’t tell you the last time I dated a black girl. She was trying to get with me.” (Source: dcentric.wamu.org)

Although people tend to make rash remarks when feeling defensive, why does it seem that Black women are so attacked by their men? What if the accuser had been a white woman? She probably would’ve been called a Itchbay, end of story. But Haynesworth had to take it there and really convey his dislike for his sisters. White women are never demonized in these narratives, since they are simply accepted of being representative of all women. But Black women, over and over again, absorb very specific attacks in the media and in everday life. Sadly, Black men are not always there to defend their women,which is not the case amongst other cultures and ethnicities.

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  • Likewater4choc

    This is one of the many cases that I can say that a white woman can have his azz!

  • caramelcreamsundae

    And I hope she has a I like white people or some of my best friends are white women or I have a white relative counter. Black men are so foolish, they look at you when they are with white women like they are with God himself. They feel so esteemed. A pitiful shame and so foolish. Their biracial daughters will be considered one of those black girls he referred to derrogatorily. Calling a woman a girl just like when black men were called boy. This is the same demonic spirit taking on a new life in the minds of black men. Wow!

  • MsD

    I hope that we get to the point where we, meaning black women and black men, can appreciate the differences in each other, leverage each other to the next level and appreciate what we have become through our ancestors, and what we can become for the future of the black race…..Why must we continue to hate each other. This is so sad to me. I love my brothas, and often in circles where I can speak badly of those brothas that have left a bad taste behind, I DON'T. So I ask, Where is the integrity.

  • Brain

    Doesn't Albert have teammates who would redress this matter. That's what you get when you give the idiot $100M contract which he doesn't even understand the price that was paid for him to earn a living in the NFL. That at a point and probably still persists that black players and especially black quarters were considered less intelligent than their white counterparts. It's a shame and it all continues till date.

  • Currvalicious

    I wonder what his African American female relatives think of his comments? I'm sure he hadn't always felt this way. Could it be when he became a millionaire? Because in the real world, if we weren't a multi-millionaire the Beckys wouldn't give him the time of day.

  • Kalvin Jefferson

    This is about the plantation mindset that exist today.Our humanity was questioned from jump street and everything that goes along with it.Now a uneducated jock gets to spew venom against the women that are similar to his mama,sister,aunt and grand ma.What ever he prefers is his own business and i will defend his freedom to date and marry whatever color of woman(or man) he wants.Please Mr.Haynesworth use caution with your mouth because unfortunatley we are all judged the same in certain quarters.There was a time in this nation whae if you as a Black man did not prefer sistahs,to bad because being to close to any white woman could get you killed.Now thank god we moved away from that nonesense but the old fear of white men persists of the black man/white woman forbidden fruit scenario,Just ask Harold Ford about that one because it cost him the u.s senate.

  • http://twitter.com/Sharrlize @Sharrlize

    Black women need to grow up and stop whining about Black men not liking them. Stop and think: WHEN was the last time you heard a Black woman say ANYTHING positive about Black men when whites give them the opportunity to speak on the subject of Black men on national television, radio, in national magazines, or in novels? You can count the times Black women have said anything positive about Black men over the past 20 years on one hand. When it comes to Black men, Black women are worst than the Tea Party– downright fanatically consistent in their contempt for Black men.

    So it should come as no surprise that when many Black men achieve financial success, they are in no hurry to run back to the hood to find a Black woman. Black men are not stupid: They know most "educated" Black women would not even speak to them unless they have money, power, or influence. You can't WIN an "educated" Black woman's heart, you have to BUY it. And Black woman say so every time they get a chance.

    So stop whining: Black women have made this bed and now they have to sleep in it.

  • katmazy

    This just displays how ignorant and how much self-hatred he has. So that means he doesn't even value his mother, sisters and other extended female relatives.

  • Kalvin Jefferson

    I dont care what kind of woman you like please brothers dont drag your own down!As far as i am concerned,Albert Haynesworth is not any kind of man i would call a "brother".Date who you like Albert but remember that those words will come back and bite you!

  • robin

    i am very sorry about his comment. However, what we must understand is Men like him have and will always feel the way they feel and will continue to voice it and we cannot stop them. ( I am a Black woman) I must also say that this is white we ar so disrepected by not just white but other ethnic groups, because black men (not all) have such disdain for black women. it is very sad.
    But I must say this: It never bothers me to see a black man with a White woman. This is because I am a romantic and believe in love…….you cannot force someone to be with someone else because of their race. If a black man is truly attracted to a white woman an that swho he wants to be with …so be it!!….if he is happy and she is happy and they have children….. then that one more happy family…..in our communities….and i like that…… Once again i am very sorry he felt he had to say such a terrible thing about a black woman. Lets pray the God will teach him a lesson that he will never forget……….and then he will curb his tongue…..we don't always have to say what we really feel………………pary for him

  • albert

    black women attack black men thru the media all the time…so stop whining, I mean really cut out the bs

  • renee

    Wow, I am stunned. Well, I hope he doesnt get a jury of black women! Let the white women save him. It's self-hatred, through and through, I actually feel sorry for black men & women who feel like that. Good riddance, I say. If you want to go outside your race, by all means have at it, but don't blame a race of people for your choices. I can only imagine how his mother feels or how he feels about his own mother, just sad. Personally, I can't do it, I've thought about it, but I know my history too damn well to walk that path. Again, thats a personal choice. I can't imagine not having a good black man by my side.

  • Alexander

    Another dumb-a** post by some dumb-a**. The real problem is folks like this author making stupid generalizations about blacks and whites. One black man makes a statement and now he is held up as a representative of all black men?! So what if Haynesworth doesn’t like black women? What has that got to do with me? Folks need to stop thinking and acting like black people are some monolithic group. That is how racism and bigotry begins. The mere fact that some blacks are so quick to judge and denigrate their own black brothers and sisters shows that there is something wrong with them, as if they have some inferiority complex.

  • Toni Williams

    Very sad.

  • Elle C

    This is sad in all forms its ok if a black men is more interested in white women…fine ok thats cool…but dont down play your sisters like they cant offer anything…His mother and grandmothers were "little Black Girls"…smh

  • Marquis de Sade

    funny

  • noworries

    That’s okay. This clown just committed career suicide and just like oj, when his world falls apart…and it will…his words/actions will return to bite him in his a$$. He’s in court for being disrespectful and his silly behind is making a case for the prosecution…dummy.

  • Dat214boy

    Who cares, these nappy headed golddiggers juay use up athletes & make reality shows about it anyway. Cheers to haynesworth!

  • Imchillin

    SMH

  • BlackFemaleNY

    Idk becuz if that was a black man accused for doing that first off he probably wouldve went thru why more with the security guard & he def wouldve call her a white b***h, I think he wouldve done samething….Shyt! If he gotta a black gf with him that white girl couldnt probably even look his way lmaooo!

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