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You aren’t a bad person for having impulses, for having desires, for thinking bad thoughts, or for wanting bad things. You really can’t help what you want or think. What you can, however, help is whether or not you act on those desires. Our desires are what make us animals; our control over them is what makes us human. That being said, it’s much easier to control a desire or impulse if you spot it coming early on. There is no excuse for cheating, but I will say that, the people who do cheat, usually didn’t go from zero to one hundred. They acted on one small impulse, then a bigger one, and then the biggest (worst) one. They simply didn’t see the signs early enough to stop it. Here are signs you’re about to cheat. If you see them, it’s time to have a talk with your partner.
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You don’t want to go home at night
When you’re out and about, away from your partner, you don’t want to go home to him. You stall. You find every reason to stay out later—perhaps to stay out chatting with someone else. You ignore your phone, because you don’t want to face your partner’s texts asking when you’re coming home.
