Keyshia Cole Responds To Her Sister Neffe’s Very Public Apology

March 20, 2018  |  


Yesterday, we reported that Keyshia Cole’s sister, Neffeteria “Neffe” Pugh posted a picture on Instagram publicly apologizing to her sister. While she didn’t go into specifics, she said:

“Forgive me if I hurt you, forgive me if I didn’t support you, forgive me if I let you down, forgive me if I embarrassed you, forgive me if I didn’t do well in your eyes because you have wanted more for me period! I am sorry for whatever I may have done for you to be distanced from me and my children.”

Dear @keyshiacole first let me start off by saying I love you with all my heart, I have been thinking of you for awhile now and I must say I miss my sister! Every since you came and got myself and my children from Sacramento things really haven't been the same between us, I can go on and on about why it's not but it will do no good to do that because our past will not predict our future. Forgive me if I hurt you, forgive me if I didn't support you, forgive me if I let you down, forgive me if I embrassed you, forgive if I didn't do well in your eyes because you have wanted more for me period! I'm sorry for whatever I may have done for you to be distanced from me and my children… I don't know why you keep Dj from us but as a mother I'm sure you have your reasons…. Someone of a wise mind told me to humble myself and accept my actions and put my pride down.. I love and miss you more than you and I can't go another day without my sister knowing this, the God in me will not allow it… My heart has been suffering and I'm ready to be healed and this is apart of my healing… (Sam Elite Robert Latifah Ellis) forgive me as well… Now I can move on😘

A post shared by Neffeteria "Neffe" Pugh (@therealneffeteria) on

Perhaps, it would have been better to apologize in private, or to acknowledge the specifics of what she did. Even the removal of the word “if” might have gone a long way in making it seem more sincere. I know it seems like a minor detail; but I’m betting Neffe knows, at the very least that Keyshia is hurt, for one reason or another. There’s no guessing. Apologizing for having a negative impact on her feelings, instead of speculating, would have read better.

Hours after Neffe posted her apology, Keyshia responded, in a sort of stream of consciousness post that shared exactly what was on her mind at the time.

Here in Oakland, A lot of things going on right now, My father that I just met (Not too long ago) is in the hospital, and that’s REALLY DIFFICULT to deal with right now, amongst other things. ALWAYS a GOOD feeling to have support and Love from the people close to you. Oh and Neffe I did receive your PUBLIC apology, and I understand why you went PUBLIC with it. And I thought I should RESPOND PUBLICLY, because our lives have been VERY PUBLICIZED, and I want you to kno, that I do love u back! ALWAYS WILL. And naw we haven’t been close, and that’s been going on for some time now, but I’ve BEEN forgiven you. I’ve forgiven mom and everyone I’ve felt, has failed me in my personal relationships❤️🙏🏽 only thing you need to do and worry about is, YOU AND THE BEAUTIFUL CHILDREN you’ve done an AMAZING JOB, raising. Now the reason I’m posting The pepper to my salt @nikokhale is because he’s been such a sweetheart to me, and I kno people have been very judgmental about our relationship but I gotta nurture what nurtures me.!

A post shared by Keyshia Cole 10/15/81 (@keyshiacole) on


Yesterday, we asked if Keyshia would forgive her sister. And from her words here, it seems that she has. But from the tone of the post, it seems like her forgiveness doesn’t necessarily come with a renewed desire to restore, repair, or rebuild their relationship.

And sometimes it be like that. The portion of Keyshia’s life we’ve seen play out on various television shows has been more than traumatic. I can’t imagine what we haven’t seen. Given all of that, I would assume she’s making the best decision for herself and her son at this moment. Maybe in the future, they’ll be able to be closer than they are today. They both admitted that they loved one another, so that’s a start.

What do you make of Neffe’s apology and Keyshia’s response?

Veronica Wells is the culture editor at She is also the author of “Bettah Days” and the creator of the website NoSugarNoCreamMag. You can follow her on Facebook and on Instagram and Twitter @VDubShrug.

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