Moments A Great Partner Will Really Shine
In life, we can all get a little grumpy, a little impatient, a little selfish, and a little of a lot of the less-than-desirable qualities out there. Don’t judge someone too harshly if some days just get the best of them and they can’t be the saint they usually are. It’s not the little moments like traffic or lines that show you who someone is—it’s the big moments. It’s the moments that would make chapters in the book of your life. A good partner will put all his feelings about all the minutia of life aside to be his strongest, best self in those moments for you. Maybe your partner forgets to replace the toilet paper, but what does that matter if he really comes through for the hard times? The empty toilet paper roll will just make you laugh then. Here are moments a good partner really shines in.
When you lose someone
Losing someone is devastating, and being near devastation can be difficult for some partners. A good partner will cancel everything he has going on to be near you, for as long as you need to grieve. There will be no pre-existing obligation he considers important enough to do, if you need him with you instead.
Running into your ex
Running into the ex is quite uncomfortable, but it’s also a total accident. If you and your partner run into your ex, completely on accident, a quality partner will be the image of kindness and confidence. He won’t become passive aggressive with you due to his own feelings of jealousy. He’ll be decent and polite to all parties, and go on with the day as if it didn’t happen.
When you have fertility issues
When you find out you have fertility issues, it’s hard on both you and your partner, but obviously there is a deeper sadness when your body is the issue. You face the possibility of not having children, and the guilt that you’re causing your partner that same possibility. A good partner never, for a moment, acts as if this is your fault. He’s in this with you as a team.
When his family disrespects you
It can be quite uncomfortable when your partner’s family disrespects you. You can’t lash out at them the way you would your own family, or a friend. Fortunately, a good partner will rise to the occasion and stand up to his family for you, taking you out of the tough position of doing so for yourself.
When you have a terrible day on his good day
Sometimes, you just have a rotten day when your partner has a great one. If you receive terrible news on the day he receives amazing news, he tucks his news aside for a brighter day and tends to your needs.
When your dream falls through
Your dreams never have to fall through entirely, but there will be times when you feel very far away from achieving them. There will be major setbacks and seemingly impossible hurdles. When these happen, your partner will treat the event with the respect and gravity it deserves. Your dreams are his dreams, after all.
When you’re too busy to handle life
Sometimes you’re just so damn busy—either with work, or a personal emergency—that you can’t do your laundry or put gas in your car. A good partner will step in and handle life administration matters for you when this happens.
When you can’t afford to do anything
When you’re so broke you can’t afford to dine out or even go to the matinee, a good partner doesn’t complain that life is boring. He finds ways for you two to have fun, on your limited budget, and he smiles the whole time about it.
When you gain some unintentional weight
You have a baby, you undergo some stress, or you’re just too busy to exercise—either way, you know you’ve gone up a couple of pant sizes. A good partner makes you feel so beautiful, no matter what.
When you tell him you’re struggling with depression
Telling your partner you’re struggling with depression can be scary. You wonder if it’ll be more than he wants to take on. You wonder if he’ll pretend it isn’t happening. A good partner still treats you like a functioning person, and asks how he can help.
When your family disrespects him
It’s also quite uncomfortable when your family disrespects your partner. A good partner will maintain his composure, and keep in mind that if he says nasty things, he can never take them back. He understands he has to put his pride aside a bit and not fight back the way he would with other people. And, again, you should step in and defend him.
On the anniversary of difficult events
A good partner recognizes that the anniversary of difficult events can be nearly as hard as the day of the events. He’ll ask what you’d like to do that day. He’ll honor the memory.
When you genuinely apologize
You’re vulnerable when you apologize, and a good partner will appreciate you being willing to be vulnerable. He won’t criticize you more when you’re admitting you’re wrong.
When your tragedy ruins his fun plans
Sometimes, tragedy strikes on the day your partner was going to have his dream gig, performing in front of hundreds of people in a stadium, or on the day of a much-anticipated vacation. A good partner doesn’t let you feel bad about that for a moment.
When you get him a gift that’s all wrong
It’s not a huge deal, but sometimes, you get your partner a gift that is all wrong. He’ll wear it/hang it up/use it proudly because he knows you got it for him with love.